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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Amazon D on April 10, 2012, 03:44:04 PM

Title: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 10, 2012, 03:44:04 PM
I would love to know where all my FTM friends are these days. I use to know many back in the 90's and early 2000's.. Is there a site where they go but isn't a dating site but open to all people. It seems here we have so many who are jst starting or so young its hard to relate in some ways. I had a few guyz who i use to meet as i traveled the USA in a RV back then but i lost contact to so many. I also had one who lived with me in N. Calif and who went to a college in radford Va. Oh well thanks
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Robert Scott on April 10, 2012, 03:56:09 PM
I hear you man .... I feel like an old guy here ... I am 40.  I am lucky that I have meet a few older guys in my local support group -- but we don't go to group much anymore -- too much drama from the young folks
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Nygeel on April 10, 2012, 04:14:12 PM
Dunno of any, but if you know their names there's always Google and Facebook.
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 11, 2012, 06:57:10 AM
most people i knew,,, i knew by a first name.. yea there are a few like jamison green etc etc who i knew from political action but those guyz are all kinda busy with politics etc and well i left that world about 5 yrs ago..

Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Kreuzfidel on April 11, 2012, 07:07:31 AM
If someone finds such a place please let me know.  I have nothing against young people, I just am in a different place in my life with different priorities.
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Robert Scott on April 11, 2012, 10:54:02 AM
I totally agree ... I have no problems with young people .... but I am in a different place in my life too.   I don't have to worry about housing - getting a job - graduating etc ...

I have been married for 12 years ... been at my job for a long time ... and have grown kids.  Most of the time their concerns and experience mirror my kids not my experience
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 11, 2012, 02:01:07 PM
Hey maybe a place for over 40 yrs old and many yrs full time trans people..  who wants to create it.. then we can invite people

i actually love older people... i also love getting older too
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: pretty on April 11, 2012, 02:07:57 PM
We seem to have the opposite case in the MTF forum -- is there a site for younger MTFs?  :)
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 11, 2012, 02:12:56 PM
Quote from: pretty on April 11, 2012, 02:07:57 PM
We seem to have the opposite case in the MTF forum -- is there a site for younger MTFs?  :)

go away kid you bother me (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F3.bp.blogspot.com%2F_l9iELOhcfa4%2FS4LHGp8wxXI%2FAAAAAAAABI4%2F7EMFaIz4iEk%2Fs400%2FW.C.%2BFields%2Bfrom%2Bstatic.open.salon.com.bmp&hash=133c24c2aab6fb9e2df6da10b8942cc0df70f46a)


kidding well kinda ..  ;)
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: MrTesto on April 13, 2012, 02:30:02 AM
Another older guy here too - getting AARP ads in the mail (like, mail made out of paper!), and my T-day is late in the last millennium. So doubly ancient! I think there are not a lot of spaces for longterm transitioned guys ("transitioned" including social transitioning, and not solely medical), and also not a lot of spaces for older guys starting their transitions. For me, I'm not out on sites like facebook, even though it's a way to keep up with the guys who were my "littermates" or who I knew from the very early AOL lists or the Gazebo.

One thing I have started to do over the last 4-5 years, is to make an annual "date" with some other guys whom I've known a long time. We meet at a conference (the Philadelphia Trans Health conference, which is free to attend), and share rooms, and eat really cheap - except whoever has the best-paying job that year buys drinks one night out at a restaurant. These are guys I'm growing old with, who I might not speak to for months or even a few years, but when we get together, it's just...comfortable.

I guess I picked a good night to check out this site!
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: King Malachite on April 13, 2012, 02:38:32 AM
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OLDER_and_or_BIGftms/

Worth a shot
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 13, 2012, 05:56:49 AM
Quote from: Malachite on April 13, 2012, 02:38:32 AM
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OLDER_and_or_BIGftms/

Worth a shot

Thats just for FTM's grrrrr
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 13, 2012, 05:58:07 AM
Quote from: MrTesto on April 13, 2012, 02:30:02 AM
Another older guy here too - getting AARP ads in the mail (like, mail made out of paper!), and my T-day is late in the last millennium. So doubly ancient! I think there are not a lot of spaces for longterm transitioned guys ("transitioned" including social transitioning, and not solely medical), and also not a lot of spaces for older guys starting their transitions. For me, I'm not out on sites like facebook, even though it's a way to keep up with the guys who were my "littermates" or who I knew from the very early AOL lists or the Gazebo.

One thing I have started to do over the last 4-5 years, is to make an annual "date" with some other guys whom I've known a long time. We meet at a conference (the Philadelphia Trans Health conference, which is free to attend), and share rooms, and eat really cheap - except whoever has the best-paying job that year buys drinks one night out at a restaurant. These are guys I'm growing old with, who I might not speak to for months or even a few years, but when we get together, it's just...comfortable.

I guess I picked a good night to check out this site!

AOL GAZEBO I MUST KNOW YOU..  what was your screen name? Mine was xcshormone damn thats more like it back in the 90's
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: geek on April 13, 2012, 09:37:37 AM
You could ask Susan for a geriatric sub forum :)
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 13, 2012, 12:12:27 PM
Quote from: Geek on April 13, 2012, 09:37:37 AM
You could ask Susan for a geriatric sub forum :)

Ehhh whatdja say there sonny .. wait i git my hearing aid plugged in
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: MrTesto on April 13, 2012, 08:12:09 PM
Quote from: Amazon D on April 13, 2012, 12:12:27 PM
Ehhh whatdja say there sonny .. wait i git my hearing aid plugged in

"Plugged in"??  you call that 'off grid'?  ;)   Try this here tin ear trumpet!

The Gazebo screen name isn't familiar, sorry to say. (I tend to not connect up different usernames across sites, so pardon me not returning the gesture.) I was always on a verrrry slow dialup. I made as many of the ftm chat nights as possible, though, and met some guys who are still in my extended circle.
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: MrTesto on April 13, 2012, 08:21:35 PM
To return to the main thread, though. I cannot yet add links (I am but an egg), but on fetlife dot com, search for a group called Mature FTM Gay Men. It's open to more people than the name would suggest, but male identified and attracted to masculinity seem to be the core components. Fetlife is a free site, with some added functionality (video access) if you want to pay. Lots of trans groups, and more of anything else than you've probably ever heard about.
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Kreuzfidel on April 13, 2012, 10:54:51 PM
Even though I'm female-attracted, I'll check it out.  I've been on Fetlife for a while, but found most of the trans groups to be either gay or fetish.
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Kreuzfidel on April 13, 2012, 10:56:31 PM
Quote from: Geek on April 13, 2012, 09:37:37 AM
You could ask Susan for a geriatric sub forum :)
I inquired about this ages ago, but obviously it's not going to happen.
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: geek on April 14, 2012, 01:10:21 AM
Quote from: Kreuzfidel on April 13, 2012, 10:56:31 PM
   I inquired about this ages ago, but obviously it's not going to happen.

Hmm, maybe one of you older lads (I don't think I count yet lol) could put a post in the suggestions box, and link back to this thread so people can show their 'great idea hands'


The best part about being old for sure would be a walking cane, when I get one I'm going to shake it at the sky and curse the world! And young people, mostly young people :p
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: Amazon D on April 14, 2012, 06:06:53 AM
Quote from: MrTesto on April 13, 2012, 08:12:09 PM
"Plugged in"??  you call that 'off grid'?  ;)   Try this here tin ear trumpet!

The Gazebo screen name isn't familiar, sorry to say. (I tend to not connect up different usernames across sites, so pardon me not returning the gesture.) I was always on a verrrry slow dialup. I made as many of the ftm chat nights as possible, though, and met some guys who are still in my extended circle.

Well what was your screen name and do yo remember sheri chi and gwen

oh here is a blast from the past

Date: 8/30/99 10:08:43 PM Eastern Daylight Time


OnlineHost: *** You are in "The Gazebo". ***
LuceysFurCoat: Hi Sheri
No Dick Tracy: hello Room.. how goes it
On Q Sheri: ey Lucey
On Q Sheri: hey
AsiaKor: Hi Luceys
Xcshormone: sheri ********
On Q Sheri: Hi Xcshormone, come on in, You' ll find the \ )))))))))) /
On Q Sheri: Chips and [^^^^^] Dip over there------ > next to your
On Q Sheri: Hostess :))
LuceysFurCoat: Hi Asia
On Q Sheri: Danielle
Xcshormone: yummy
Alonea: Pammy*****Sheri**********MT*******Kelli********Kaaren*********
AsiaKor: Hi XXXX
On Q Sheri: <--- JustAGuyInADress
No Dick Tracy: Xcshormone, what is yummy
Alonea: DiDI*****BMike***
DEEW117: Well kids, gotta run, love all around
On Q Sheri: Bye dee
Xcshormone: well another day of PAYTON PLACE
KarenAnne2: Bye Dee
AsiaKor: Hi Just.
Alonea: Asia*****April***Andria****
AsiaKor: bye Dee
On Q Sheri: Swee->-bleeped-<- ! Welcome to Casual Chat here in the
On Q Sheri: Gazebo
Alonea: ML**********
AprilAshly: Denise
Xcshormone: LOL tracy
AsiaKor: Sweet how are u doing dear..
Didi PA: Denise******
Swee->-bleeped-<-: **************ALONEA
Alonea: DiDi**
Xcshormone: your yummy sheri
PAM1003: hi denise****
LuceysFurCoat: {S sweety}
Xcshormone: giggle
LJRXXX: Alonea***
On Q Sheri: nahhh I'm just a guy compared to ZZ
On Q Sheri: Hi, Tgif720! Come on in! We've saved some room in
On Q Sheri: the Hammock for you :)
Bsksmike: can I ask a serious question
Alonea: < out crusing again with the car
Swee->-bleeped-<-: (((((((((DENISE}}}}}}}}}}}
On Q Sheri: Mike goferit
Xcshormone: pulllllllllezzzzzzzzzz
Alonea: Sure Mike what's the ?
AprilAshly: Danielle you ever see the Video Clip I sent ya?
LuceysFurCoat: No serious questions please
On Q Sheri: Mollie1326 Welcome to the friendliest TG chat room on
On Q Sheri: AOL
Mollie1326: hello
Swee->-bleeped-<-: I'M OK HI ALL N HOW'S EVERTONE?
Mollie1326: thaks on q hon
On Q Sheri: hey STV !!!
Alonea: (((((((((((( ML ))))))))))))))
LuceysFurCoat: {S gintonic}
Xcshormone: AA i have it but i have to much on computer right now
On Q Sheri: hi Mollie :D
AsiaKor: fine dear..
On Q Sheri: Hey there CstleME, nice to see you tonight :)
Bsksmike: as a guy dating a tg, why is it different, is it just society or me?
Alonea: BskMike ???
AsiaKor: AA did I say hi to u before..if not HI HI
CstleME: Hi Sheri thank you
On Q Sheri: Hey there GrlNova, nice to see you tonight :)
PAM1003: Danielle thanks for the copy of the chat last night
Alonea: it's society Mike not you
Xcshormone: sheri your a doll compared to the wizard of OZ
AprilAshly: Its really cool ...Take a look then dump it
On Q Sheri: hey Cstle
Swee->-bleeped-<-: got choke cleaner in my eye today
AprilAshly: Hiya Asia*****
On Q Sheri: Daneille Doug is waiting for me
KarenAnne2: Xcs... Sherri is a doll... period !
Swee->-bleeped-<-: hi asia
On Q Sheri: Oct
Bsksmike: not just that its me to, its confusing Alonea
AprilAshly: It's me in person saying hi
Alonea: Ohmy ML oK?
AsiaKor: lol lol lol
Alonea: in what' way Mike?
Xcshormone: oh great sheri i'll be waiting for you when your done ...ok gigle
Swee->-bleeped-<-: yeah little blurry sometimes
MsChoChoo: Hi GrlNova.... :)
On Q Sheri: Hey there CstleME, nice to see you tonight :)
Bsksmike: as a guy dating a tg, why is it different, is it just society or me?
Alonea: BskMike ???
AsiaKor: AA did I say hi to u before..if not HI HI
CstleME: Hi Sheri thank you
On Q Sheri: Hey there GrlNova, nice to see you tonight :)
PAM1003: Danielle thanks for the copy of the chat last night
Alonea: it's society Mike not you
Xcshormone: sheri your a doll compared to the wizard of OZ
AprilAshly: Its really cool ...Take a look then dump it
On Q Sheri: hey Cstle
Swee->-bleeped-<-: got choke cleaner in my eye today
AprilAshly: Hiya Asia*****
On Q Sheri: Daneille Doug is waiting for me
KarenAnne2: Xcs... Sherri is a doll... period !
Swee->-bleeped-<-: hi asia
On Q Sheri: Oct
Bsksmike: not just that its me to, its confusing Alonea
AprilAshly: It's me in person saying hi
Alonea: Ohmy ML oK?
AsiaKor: lol lol lol
Alonea: in what' way Mike?
Xcshormone: oh great sheri i'll be waiting for you when your done ...ok gigle
Swee->-bleeped-<-: yeah little blurry sometimes
MsChoChoo: Hi GrlNova.... :)
KelliE51C: Denise*******
Alonea: ML that's some powerful eye makeup remover. OMG
On Q Sheri: 16K more
Swee->-bleeped-<-: lol
AsiaKor: hI gRLnOVA
Bsksmike: go thru the macho stuff, this was a guy thing, doing the normal homophobia stuff
GrlNova: Hi Chochoo
GrlNova: Hi Asia
On Q Sheri: hye grl ((
MsChoChoo: Hope things keep going well for you GirlNova.
On Q Sheri: ***
AprilSue1969: hi all
LuceysFurCoat: A lot of guys do that macho stuff, and harm others who
LuceysFurCoat: are more defenseless. It s a cover up.
On Q Sheri: AprilSue1969, Vixenagogo, PBorroniv, Welcome to the
On Q Sheri: Gazebo, where hugging your host is encouraged :: Hint
On Q Sheri: ::
Xcshormone: yes sheri he is expensive but YOUR WORTH IT
GrlNova: Hiya Sheri... :)
On Q Sheri: Hmmm I won't go that far
Alonea: Mike it may sound simplistic but " love the one your with"
On Q Sheri: AprilSue1969 Welcome to the friendliest TG chat room
On Q Sheri: on AOL
Bsksmike: i would never harm her, plan on living with her the rest of my life
On Q Sheri: AprilSue1969 Glad to see you tonight !
AprilSue1969: hi Q Sheri - thanks
On Q Sheri: ManikMonke Welcome to the friendliest TG chat room
On Q Sheri: on AOL
Bsksmike: I agree Alonea
AsiaKor: thats a sweet thought Bsksmike
DEBIE DOLL: Or as my quote says..."love cares not the vessel it resides in"
AprilSue1969: CLICK
On Q Sheri: Hey April sue !
ManikMonke: evening folks
Mtnts: Denise*****
AprilSue1969: that font is hard on my eyes - sorry
On Q Sheri: Hi Takogrande, come on in, You' ll find the \ )))))))))) /
Title: Re: Is there a place where older FTMs go and open to others?
Post by: MrTesto on April 14, 2012, 07:32:43 PM
Quote from: Amazon D on April 14, 2012, 06:06:53 AM
Well what was your screen name and do yo remember sheri chi and gwen

I do remember Gwen, but I was hanging out there a few years earlier. (Wow - saved chat logs from 1999!) I'm not posting my username, since this board comes up on google searches.


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