Since I'm currently not transitioning I don't have too much experience with that yet but my sister and I are supposed to be going into business together but she's been super busy with other things so she's pushing our idea to the side for now and I have good reason with evidence to believe that a part of the reason she's doing that is to prolong my transitioning because she knows I'm going to use my share of the money to help me transition and she doesn't want that.
But aside from that story I'm interested to see how far some loved wents to stop you if that's happen to you before. How did you response and what happened afterwards?
Do you mean like the time they used the handcuffs and ropes and that bolted shut cellar storage room with the 5 gallon bucket to pee and poop in ???
ok who told you about that???
I suspect that most of the older transpeople have plenty of stories, but I also suspect that we aren't willing to relive them by sharing.
My parents told me I couldn't dress up in women's clothing while living under their roof. So, it was either ignore my feelings and stay with them or move the hell out and be myself. Guess which one I chose? Hehe. :P
That was years ago though. Since then, they've come around and our relationship couldn't be better. We actually live together again. :)
Quote from: Jeneva on April 18, 2012, 07:26:27 PM
but I also suspect that we aren't willing to relive them by sharing.
This, pretty much.
Aside from to say in answer specifically to the question: Too far. Way, way,
way too far. Physical violence and, I suspect, attempted murder which almost went beyond 'attempted'. And, pardon my language, but some people can be properly evil b******s, with no thought to the suffering of others. There are those with very dark hearts indeed.
continued beatings (e.g. nose bleeds, busted lip, belt welts, etc, etc. Oh, threats to put in "the asylum;" all of these as a child of course.
As and adult, a few year ago it come to: "well if you go for it, I will live you," and so she left. Good grief, she knew from before we started dating !
I realise that many of our younger members have problems with the hate and abuse. But in the past there were 'cures' for TG. I was dressed in frilly feminine clothes and laughed at, in front of groups of people, told what a sissy I was. I won't go any further bur aversion therapy was quite popular. If that didn't work they took out the frontal lobes.
Things have generally improved but as we see in Sephirah's case there can be evil in the hearts of people. True evil.
And for what?
That is the nature of evil, it is mindless.
Sorry I'm going to go into forget mode.
In future can the OP put triggers in the title please.
I'll do it for this one. This is not a criticism of the OP just we sometimes need a bit of a warning about posts.
Thanks
Cindy
actually in 68 i was put in haverford state mental hospital for wearing womens clothes. My neighbor was there for being gay. That was how it was back then. They didn't legalize being gay until 73. Yes we were given meds and counciling etc etc.. 4 months of hell in building number 9 which was the adolecent ward run by dr armstrong a female tyrant. There was a mix of many kids for many reasons. Oh well i survived and when i got out i ran away and never went to high school. I made it to hokahey a LGB commune in N. Calif in southern humboldt county up miller creek about 9 miles west of garberville. Yes those were the days my friend we thought they would never end..
Having been 3 days post-op my heart-bypass-op (to be accepted for SRS afterwards)... I was told by my ex-sister-in-law that this was "the Lord's punishment" for what I am doing...
3 days past a heart op is not quite when we at our best...
I looked pale and washed out, and then was told my make-up (I only tried to look a bit less knackered) looked awful - and my hair being a mess.
All the good Lords punishment in this persons knowing...
All I could respond... "Thank you for sharing your truth..." what else to say?
Did it stop me transitioning?
You bet it didn't, even after having learned from the same "source" that in any case "my titts were under my arms... eh!"
Well, some nice folks out there and even called "family"...
Axélle
Malachite, this topic is painful, but all the cliche phrases were said to me when I was feeling vulnerable (and by a family member as well):
1. "You are disgusting"
2. "what you are doing is disgusting"
3. "You're too tall, your hands are too big, shoulders too wide and your face looks like a brick - you're going to be really ugly"
4. "Why O Lord have you given me a child like this! What have I done wrong?!!"
Next thing I know, this person insists on doing an exorcism on me.
I really should have ignored it all, as this person has rarely had anything positive to say about me directly. It lead to me leading my current life, and being trapped in a situation which I feel responsible for.
My advice to those who are young - ignore your family if they are negative - seek professional help, and if it's not possible to really do too much transition-wise, do not attempt to fulfill family social expectations.
Quote from: Cindy James on April 19, 2012, 05:06:25 AM
I realise that many of our younger members have problems with the hate and abuse. But in the past there were 'cures' for TG. I was dressed in frilly feminine clothes and laughed at, in front of groups of people, told what a sissy I was. I won't go any further bur aversion therapy was quite popular. If that didn't work they took out the frontal lobes.
Things have generally improved but as we see in Sephirah's case there can be evil in the hearts of people. True evil.
And for what?
That is the nature of evil, it is mindless.
Sorry I'm going to go into forget mode.
In future can the OP put triggers in the title please.
I'll do it for this one. This is not a criticism of the OP just we sometimes need a bit of a warning about posts.
Thanks
Cindy
Sorry about that Cindy I didn't realize that my would could include some horrible details. I was going for a more less violent things that parents or loved one would do, not torture.
Again, I'm sorry if this post offended anyone. :(