For me and I think most people, music plays a huge role in my emotional life. There's always a song I can name to really show what it was like to go through a particular emotional crisis, life stage, etc. This certainly holds true for my realizations about my androgynous gender identity.
When I was in high school, I was at a state debate tournament in a giant auditorium waiting for results with about 100 other debators. To keep us entertained, they put on the Disney classic "Mulan" and suddenly this song came on:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scLvq9CKdLU&feature=related
I immediately had to retreat to a private corner of the school. Something I had stuffed down into myself and prayed to G-d had died resurfaced. To this day, this song serves as a memento of exactly what I suffered through in middle/high school and most of college.
"Reflection", or "Zi Ji" as it's called in Chinese ("Zi Ji" means "Myself").
The English version is more commonly known as the theme from Mulan.