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Question as above :)

This is something I'm going to have to decide, I guess a lot of you would too!

I wanted to get my chest done overseas but I doubt that will happen in this lifetime, so I have to pretty much choose surgery here where I don't really like the results I've seen, or suffer for 10 trillion years, or die of old age :/

Just curious ^_^

While I hate my body to a point where it affects how I function and want top surgery as soon as possible, I see it like this: I'll be spending money either way. I'd rather save my money and wait a tiny bit longer to get decent results from a surgeon I'm familiar with and trust than regret having surgery with someone who might butcher the job and leave me unhappy. Sure, you can get revisions and whatnot, but I'd just rather have it turn out passable in one go rather than keep going under the knife for little fixes.

Yeah, here there are only 3 well known surgeons for it, so it really is a difference of 15kish probably a bit more.  ???

It'd be better if they could guarantee not square nipples, and like, the "normal" scar place, these kinda look like they were put where the nipples should be so you have this great dirty scar line right across your chest, instead of just under - if that makes sense?

If there was an option for "Hell No" then I would of checked it several times over.

For me personally I do not want to settle because of price issues.  I want to see the doctor who I feel is best for me and I will save up the money any way I have to.  Results that I don't like is worse than keeping my body the way that it is.  Revisions are more of an inconvenience and by the time you factor in revisions, travel, lodging, etc you may just probably spend about the same if not more than a surgeon that you liked in the first place.

It just depends on if you can live with the results of your surgeon.

I'm kind of B****y when it comes to anything and I have to be 100% satisfied before I do anything....

I second the "Hell No!"  I'd rather wait years and be proud to take my shirt off than get surgery tomorrow and have ->-bleeped-<-ty results.

No, I wouldn't go to a surgeon that I didn't like their results.  I'd have to live with those results the rest of my life.  So that's a no for me.

Yes in a heartbeat, for top surgery at least. I'd rather be a deformed mess than what I am now. And for me it may be out of reach otherwise.

My hopes may be less demanding because my body is already torn up, though. Idk.

No way.

When/if I ever get to that point, I would rather save up to go to a surgeon that gives good results than be stuck with a disfigured chest for the rest of my life.  I want to be able to take off my shirt without being ashamed of what I see.

Quote from: Lynn Gabriel on April 29, 2012, 10:12:31 PM
No way.

When/if I ever get to that point, I would rather save up to go to a surgeon that gives good results than be stuck with a disfigured chest for the rest of my life.  I want to be able to take off my shirt without being ashamed of what I see.

Agreed, I want to be comfortable enough to the point I feel like I could be a model (not saying that I necessairly would though)

Quote from: Felix on April 29, 2012, 10:04:15 PM
Yes in a heartbeat, for top surgery at least. I'd rather be a deformed mess than what I am now. And for me it may be out of reach otherwise.

My hopes may be less demanding because my body is already torn up, though. Idk.

I feel pretty much the same. I feel like aesthetically, I can't look/feel much worse, so why would it matter? I'm too fat to ever want my shirt off in public, I just want to be able to live a life where a normal t-shirt is just a t-shirt, and not a mockery or just another layer.

So long as it was just an aesthetic lowering-of-standards, if we're talking health/hygiene/safety, that's a totally different story. I may hate myself, but I've got promises to keep.

Quote from: N.Chaos on April 30, 2012, 12:21:45 AM
So long as it was just an aesthetic lowering-of-standards, if we're talking health/hygiene/safety, that's a totally different story. I may hate myself, but I've got promises to keep.

Agreed, yup. I wouldn't accept much extra danger or non-cosmetic damage.

Quote from: JayKyle on April 29, 2012, 11:14:31 PM
Agreed, I want to be comfortable enough to the point I feel like I could be a model (not saying that I necessairly would though)

Same here. :) But that suits my perception of myself.  When I think of myself as male, I think of myself as someone is comfortable in their body and takes good care of it.  So...I'd want to show it off whenever I can (lol).  I think it stems from discomfort in the current body.

I would, I really don't care how my chest looks after surgery as long as it's flat and doesn't require binding.

Hmm it really is a lot to think about. I'm the sort of person that wouldnt run around topless unless I'm with super close friends or family, I'm fat, and Im scarred up, and I don't think having "the perfect chest surgery" would effect that.

I guess I'll make a decision later down the road when I have the money for the surgery here, and see how badly I want garramone/other later.

I cry everyday over my chest, even of I strap it all down I still "know" and that adds to my suffering, tbh, I'd probably hack them off myself if I knew id survive and it wouldn't hurt too much.

Don't get me wrong though Australian surgeons aren't terrible, they just aren't what I envisioned, it's the nipples that really get me :/

I know the poll results so far show that a lot of people aren't willing to compromise, but I think really deep down if it was a choice of waiting five or more extra years, international travel etc, or even not getting it done at all, a few more would be swayed to the "yes" side. Kinda like SES for the ladies in Thailand

I probably wouldn't go to a surgeon whose results I didn't like. The surgeon I was originally considering retired, so had to compromise somewhat. But ended up with great results that I'm happy with anyway.

If it were a choice between waiting 5 years and having a result I wasn't over the moon about, I'd probably choose the latter. I wouldn't want to sacrifice 5 years of physical and emotional comfort and freedom to display prettier pecs on the beach. But I suppose it would depend on just how bad the results were. Are we talking mutilation here? Just how bad are the results?

But all said and done, I'd probably choose to have a gaping wound there over living with those things any longer.  :laugh:
Everyone has to determine what they can and cannot live with and weigh the options against that.

I would say yes,

I would sure wait longer for getting a doctor with a good result than a bad one, and I did.
however, I didnt like my cheast and I hated to bind.

I would so much rather have a ugly result than keep binding forever, and never experience the freedom on only wearing a shirt,
give someone a hug without thinking twice about binders, and so on so on..

all those small details..