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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Josh on May 14, 2012, 10:22:15 PM

Title: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: Josh on May 14, 2012, 10:22:15 PM
ill probably be getting on T rather soon, and im in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend, shes actually my fiancee and she is the biggest support i have and i know shell love me either way. however, does anyone have experience with this? i know it will be difficult, and im going to go on a low dose, but shes kinda worried about it. not a lot, but just has concerns, as i do.
did the changes affect your relationship bad?
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: geek on May 14, 2012, 11:21:41 PM
I've been with my GF for almost 6 years now, and I've been on T for 3months, so far she's been cool with it - she even gives me my shots :) she was worried for some reason the T would make me gay (lol) but other than that our relationship is better because i'm less stressed, but in every other aspect its been exactly the same.  :D
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: go..ogle on May 15, 2012, 12:17:50 AM
No, it didn't adversely affect the relationship I was in.
I'm no longer in it but for other reasons.
It actually made things a lot easier since I was much more content w/my life.
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: Wolf Man on May 15, 2012, 01:10:13 AM
I've been with my fiancee for 4 1/2 years now. I started T 10 months ago at a 1/2 dose and she was expecting things to get better with me, but unfortunately I've become a jerk apparently. I can't see it, but she does and while we are managing to work through it, it affects us every now and then in a serious way. So, it depends on you really. Always talk and it'll help things to go smoother with you both being on the same page.
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: Arch on May 15, 2012, 01:27:46 AM
My partner broke up with me because of the transition.
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: CJ on May 15, 2012, 03:35:45 AM
If she is serious about being your biggest supporter then it should be fine mate, my gf was the same and it is turning out fine atm :) hope its the same for you
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: Kreuzfidel on May 15, 2012, 04:58:30 AM
My wife was never concerned about whether or not T would "change" me, but some of her co-workers had expressed concerns.  As hurts2sayshalom said, my wife appreciates the changes that T has brought - my emotions are levelled out, I am more confident and of course the fun of looking for physical changes together :)  Though I don't know what your relationship is like or how your partner sees you - I know some guys whose lesbian partners had issues with the T changes.  My wife is straight cisfemale - I don't know if this makes any difference or not, though.
Title: Re: Getting on T while in a relationship
Post by: Ayden on May 15, 2012, 11:57:28 PM
I have been with my partner and husband for about 10 years, and we have never had problems with T. I have been on for about 3 months, and before I started I think he was more excited than I was. I swear Joe nearly cried when I got my first shot. He as worried about health things, sure, but not about me changing as a person. He told me the other night that I am a better partner for it. He is in a different country, and I am leaving on Thursday morning to move over, and honestly, I have nothing but excitement and so does he. He is excited to be seen as the gay male couple that we are.