Hej, just to give you a brief background, I have been wearing mens or gender neutral clothes since I was old enough to choose them. I have always been aware of a kind of jealousy that I feel when I see other guys and sometimes I get mistaken for a guy. I like it when that happens although most of the time I am comfortable being me. The only time I feel different is 'that time of the month' which completely repulses me or if there is a suggestion to go swimming. I have a long term girlfriend who knows I can't stand to be in womens clothing but I have not yet told her how I feel about everything else.
I moved from England to Sweden to be with her and for the moment we are living with her parents. Her Dad's cousin is having a wedding and we are invited. It was made sure that I got a place too. But now I have just spoken to her father and the long and short of it was "have you got a dress?" "no, but I have trousers, suit jacket and a shirt, can I not wear that" "well, you see, the girls wear dresses and the boys wear suits..."
I just wanted to talk to some people (you guys) that I thought would understand why I feel so annoyed and frustrated. Thank you for your time and any help would be much appreciated.
I would decline the invitation.
I would very much like to. However it was decided that I would go when I wasn't around and therefore has already been RSVP'd. I appreciate the reply though.
You have three options: Suck it up and wear a dress, wear a suit even though it will cause drama, or don't go even if they have RSVP'd you (I mean really making choices for you without your consent?)
if you feel more comfortable in the suit then wear it, i am going to my sisters wedding in 2 days in a suit. and so is my lesbian aunt. if no-one likes it thats their problem
Good point Andy... Thanks for the replies/support guys!
I went to my boyfriend's cousin's wedding in a nice suit :'P. I got some weird looks from everyone, but we both knew a dress just wasn't gonna happen XP. I would've preferred to be assaulted by a pack of elephants before wearing one of those God-awful garments ever again @_@. I understand it's their day and they deserve to be happy, but if their day is going to be ruined by one person showing up dressed in a way they don't like, then they got some ->-bleeped-<-ed-up priorities XP.