This is a question that I would have, not too long ago, answered: "Like a GG – YES PLEASE!"
Now, of course, it is a VERY generalized question to ask in this way, as every one is different, including most every female born female on this planet. Yet... there are certain general trends in presentation, behaviour and let's say - expectations...
The longer I 'study' those gg-generalities of my gg-friends, etc. I ever so much more know...:
"I just want to BE who I AM, warts and all".
It is my contention that I am 'special' - I was told just that, even before I transitioned, long before, and I still like it to be just that. Who doesn't want to be a bit 'special' ... to oneself, and to others. The person we are - AND THAT INCLUDES OUR HISTORY!
No need to flaunt it, please, really no need! But it's simply feels good to be just me.
It's like an old pair of shoes - just for myself, and those shoes, just fit fine. Worn out some, but special to me :)
Lastly, I have taken note of so many folks that want to be someone else.
I also took note, that it seems a sure-fire path to depression, if we reject our very own self.
After all – it's all we have – us, ourselves, or?
What about you, feel like sharing your notion(s) about that?
Axélle
I just want to be me.
[ Frank Sinatra voice]I did it MY WAY....[ /Sinatra]
Frank Sinatra, My Way, With Lyrics --BETTER VERSION-- (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsmRCZF7NOQ#)
Thank you Dear! Gosh, now I'm all in tears running down my cheeks.
Good tears... such a lovely song and lyrics. So emotional!
Thanks again, wow
Axélle
When I really think about it, as much as I basically hate being me, I believe I appreciate being me more then if I was a GG. I see every day the vast majority of women whom you know at one glance simply hate being a woman. Everyday when I take that final look in the mirror before leaving the house I cannot help but be so thankful I can be one. Sure, I am envious to jealous at times that I will never have this feature or that one. But what woman isn't at times?
BTW - I don't think I ever got through listening to Sinatra singing My Way w/o crying. Thankfully it is often followed closely by New York, New York which always brings a smile to this girls face who grew up just across the river from NYC
I spend more time thinking about not being rather than being anyone else.
It's taken me so long to figure out, in-depth, who I am, that it seems a bit of a waste to throw it all away and start over. Being someone else may technically solve one problem, but it would cause an awful lot more that I'd have to spend the same amount of time again trying to figure out and, really, I don't have the energy. One lifetime's worth of soul searching is enough.
I don't consider myself special or anything like that. I still have the same hang-ups, fears, insecurities, hopes, dreams, laughter and tears as anyone else. I'm only human.
Sometimes I like being me, sometimes I don't. What I do appreciate, and don't want to lose, is knowing why.
Well I want to be me of course. The whole reason I am transitioning is because I already was like a cis girl. Not like every cis girl ever--I'm still my own person. But definitely on the feminine side of the spectrum.
I may be an odd one in this discussion, assuming this reply is even coherent. I want to be seen as GG, I know I won't ever actually be a GG. I know people will say others opinions shouldn't matter. For me though that is what would make me happy. I'm already at the edge of my ability to cope with the depression I already have. I don't think this will make it worse.
The thing is though for me, I don't like me. Not now, definitely not before. I want the "new" me to be different from the role I've built up, also I know it is. Of course it will still be "me" no matter what. I'm not going to wear yet another act like I have so far in life. My goal though is to find out how to release those aspects and generalities attributed to GG's that I have buried in me.
So yeah I want to be like a GG, because deep down I feel it's who I really am.
Quote from: pretty on May 19, 2012, 02:20:37 PM
Well I want to be me of course. The whole reason I am transitioning is because I already was like a cis girl. Not like every cis girl ever--I'm still my own person. But definitely on the feminine side of the spectrum.
^ Pretty said it better than I was going to be able to for myself.
I too was already a cis girl.
I would trade up for a original equipment body as long as I can remain myself. However it is too late for me. An original equipment body would be too old and saggy compared to what I have so I am probably better off keeping what I've got.
Being who you are is the probably the most important or only way to be happy.
Would have preferred to be born gg or at the very least without gid.
I hate it, and hate the way I am because of it, im not like a man but I'll never be a real woman either. Feel like a failure overall tbh. :-\
I am and always have been me, a female, no different that any other female, role or not role. Everybody is different an unique, but seriously I do not think or feel any so called GG is different than me, we are females -sans the externals bits.
There is a lot of things I dislike about my body... I have (and will in the future) spend many many years trying to fix various issues....
But, really, I find this entire transformation and self improvement so interesting and amazing. I am so curious to experience what is down the road...srs, ffs...all of it is so fascinating.
I don't believe different equals worse or bad. Actually, this entire experience has made me a much better person. Having lived with testosterone and more male for 28 years... I can definitely appreciate the changes...things gg's completely take for granted.
And, even the most beautiful amazing gg has down days...lots of them.
I've been thinking about that a lot the last few days, mostly because I've been getting a bit upset that certain aspects of transition (voice, mannerisms etc.) do not always come naturally to someone who feels like I do inside.
If I had been a GG already I would probably would have been more comfortable and confident in myself and would have settled down and got a job in my twenties. Instead, my dissatisfaction with myself led me to escape my town and my country and spend years living in different places, studying different languages. This worked to a certain extent as I found that people in foreign countries (especially Asian countries) did not judge my behaviour and mannerisms odd because they seemed feminine, but because they seemed foreign.
If I had been born a GG, I would probably not have had the need to escape, and would never have had these experiences; life may not have been so interesting. On the other hand I wouldn't have ended up causing trauma to a succession of women in a quest to be "normal".
I think I would love to have the chance to be like a GG, but I also worry that twenty-odd years of trying to act like a man from age 12 onwards (even though I did a terrible job of it), has had a detrimental effect on my ability to even get close, not to mention all of the girl experiences I missed in my teenage years. I'm working on it though.....
I am me and I'm perfectly happy being her.. Despite what I thought, talking to old friends has made me realise that I've always been more woman than man, at least from the perspective of what others see..
Quote from: Rabbit on May 19, 2012, 07:09:48 PM
There is a lot of things I dislike about my body... I have (and will in the future) spend many many years trying to fix various issues....
But, really, I find this entire transformation and self improvement so interesting and amazing. I am so curious to experience what is down the road...srs, ffs...all of it is so fascinating.
I don't believe different equals worse or bad. Actually, this entire experience has made me a much better person. Having lived with testosterone and more male for 28 years... I can definitely appreciate the changes...things gg's completely take for granted.
And, even the most beautiful amazing gg has down days...lots of them.
DITTO
I would be ... okay with who I was if being trans wasn't hated upon; however, even being fine with myself, I miss out on being able to have children as a non-cis... which is somewhat depressing.
Do I wish I was born cis? Sure. Same as I wish I didn't have migraines. And if wishes were fishes, poor folks wouldn't starve. Isn't anything I can do other than get on with it as best I can.
And I think I'm doing rather well, all things considered. ;)
Yes, I wish I were born cis. If for no other reason than that there is so much "stuff" I would prefer not to have gone through (admitted that even then I didn't really have a rough time of it compared to what others have had to endure by the stories I read here).
Being born a cis female would probably have ended up with me being fat, short, and pretty weak...um no.
I frequently wish that I could have just been a gay guy, which is how I identified in high school, rather than a trans woman. That's not how ->-bleeped-<- works though, so here I am being me.
Quote from: Butterflyhugs on May 22, 2012, 05:00:13 AM
I frequently wish that I could have just been a gay guy, which is how I identified in high school, rather than a trans woman. That's not how ->-bleeped-<- works though, so here I am being me.
If you asked me... that "->-bleeped-<-" worked out jolly fine, or?
You make a far better woman, I quite certain. :)
Axélle
Quote from: Butterflyhugs on May 22, 2012, 05:00:13 AM
I frequently wish that I could have just been a gay guy, which is how I identified in high school, rather than a trans woman. That's not how ->-bleeped-<- works though, so here I am being me.
My choice is that I wanna be like a GG! The objective is to be perceived as female and not by any other catagory!
By the way Butterflyhugs you look like a GG in your photograph! :)
Am I the only person who can't hear the term 'GG' without immediately thinking of horses? >.<
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/gee-gee (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/gee-gee)
I've heard so many kids refer to them with that term, it's now the first thing which springs to mind.
Quote from: Axélle on May 22, 2012, 05:42:38 AM
If you asked me... that "->-bleeped-<-" worked out jolly fine, or?
You make a far better woman, I quite certain. :)
Axélle
Thanks! :D
Things have worked out fine enough. I just wish things like anti-woman sexism and the beauty industry didn't exist. To that end, I would have preferred to have been a gay guy, lol.
QuoteAm I the only person who can't hear the term 'GG' without immediately thinking of horses? >.<
Being a former World of Warcraft nerd, when I hear "GG" I automatically think it's the abbreviation for the Internet jargon "Good Game"
Quote from: Sephirah on May 22, 2012, 08:13:05 AM
Am I the only person who can't hear the term 'GG' without immediately thinking of horses? >.<
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/gee-gee (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/gee-gee)
I've heard so many kids refer to them with that term, it's now the first thing which springs to mind.
I am quite certain you are, in fact, the
only one. >:-)
Quote from: Sephirah on May 22, 2012, 08:13:05 AM
Am I the only person who can't hear the term 'GG' without immediately thinking of horses? >.<
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/gee-gee (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/gee-gee)
I've heard so many kids refer to them with that term, it's now the first thing which springs to mind.
Never in all MY English speaking life I heard of it to be a horse!?!, seriously!
So what you suggest to call it then?
Non-TG? I find it short and sweet to say GG or TG for that matter. (And since we're not on Foxfire those two are not banned 'labels' I hope?)
GG is a LOT shorter then always saying cis-female, cis-woman, genetic female, genetic woman, bio female, bio woman, biological female/woma, Female Assigned At birth (God forbidding required term for lots of F2Ms, lest you want to get into hot water), or female born female, or woman born woman, womyn born womyn? Eh, the list goes on, doesn't it?
Axélle
GG is a quite common reference for horses in some parts of the English-speaking world..
Although it may require some contact with the horse racing industry..
I wish I could have been born cis.
Now then, as it stands there's no real difference between a cis girl and me, other than how I look .
I would only like to look like a cis woman but other than that, I am happy being me.