I CAN HAS JOB!!!
So says the Wal-Mart in the next town over. Pending the (foregone) conclusion of the drug test report, hopefully which will come back in time for tomorrow's orientation.
Part time, minimum wage - but after 22 months of unemployment, there are no bad jobs.
Also, the woman over me has expressed a great admiration for me and will obviously have my back in any sort of drama which might ensue.
Now - I have a question or two for those of you who have worked there for an extended period: I'm told that part-timers can't get insurance until they have been there a year, BUT i was told by a friend of mine that a friend of HERS who was trans worked at WM, and had BC/BS insurance which DID cover transition expenses up to and including surgery.
Is this correct?
also, as a theoretical consideration - the store manager ask me to accommodate them in order to minimize drama, by using the employee's ladies room and not the public restrooms (there's a story behind that*) which I'm okay with. but it crosses my mind that after I have been there a year or so and established my worth, I might approach her and ask that this be dropped, not for my own sake but as a matter of policy towards other trans people who may work or shop in the store.
I do not want to do anything to risk a hard-to-come-by job, but it seems like a reasonable request.
But hey, all that aside - INCOME BABY!!
*now to the crazy story. You'd almost have to see this to believe it. My wife is, bluntly, mentally unstable and has been all her adult life. At one time it was control ed with medication but between loss of efectiveness, and lack of income in order to do better (and possibly a stubborn refusal to take it) she is back in full-on crazy mode.
One aspect of this irrationality is a deep denial about Tammy and an intense commitment to bring back my male self. This plays out in being very obsessed with the idea that no one would ever hire Tammy around here and I had to go back in order to support my family. In order to make this happen, she doesn't WANT me to get a job.
The employee at Wal Mart who called directly after my interview last week (not the one just past but the one previous) was told, apparently by her though she denies it) that I was no longer interested. When they didn't call (as far as i knew) i whined about it on Facebook.
My wife's sister, who works at this store and had never given me any indication she supported my transition, saw it and mentioned it to the woman who had interviewed me. Together they decided that my sister-in-law would call my wife, on her cell, and ask for me then put me on the line with the boss.
Which worked and led to my hiring.
Now my wife is mad at me for - according to her - believing the lie they told on her (i can see no other explanation but i resisted accusing her), mad at her sister for facilitating the plan, mad at the boss for getting around her blockade (which she denies existed) and mad with frustration that the world is putting the lie to her "no one will ever accept Tammy" line.
She reacted by calling the store Friday morning before I arrived for the job-offer and bit--ing at the store manager for hiring a "pervert" - complaining that her phone was used to get in touch with me, and possibly threatening to raise a stink about me being in the ladies room.
then she went on Facebook and topix trying to stir up outrage about the potential i'd be in the ladies room (which led to someone starting a whole new thread on the subject) and she went into a rage that has now lasted since Thursday night (usually they last a couple of hours and are then repented of)
All this because a house that has been desperately crying for income finally has someone working.
This is the crazy i live with.
and no, I can't just take my paycheck and leave. My kids live with her and if she hasn't had a psychotic breakdown yet, she surely will have if I am gone.
We are in counseling which she swings back and forth from acknowledging the need for to abject refusal to participate.
Still, all that is backstory - the reason for this thread is to celebrate what i hope is a turning point.
Quote from: Tammy Hope on May 28, 2012, 01:42:53 PM
the employee's ladies room and not the public restrooms (there's a story behind that*) which I'm okay with. but it crosses my mind that after I have been there a year or so and established my worth, I might approach her and ask that this be dropped
.-. Don't use the public restroom's period if you have a choice, If it's anything like the Wal-mart I worked at, The Employee's is cleaner, and has actual sinks that you can turn on an off, as oppose to the weird
"dispense a little water and automatically cut off"Yeah, Part-Timers (aka 90% of Wal-Mart's work force now a days) doesn't get insurance until you've been there a year, and it might cover it with BC/BS, I wouldn't be too surprised by that.
As for your Wife, I'm very sorry .-. but it is very great of you to care more for your children than getting out of that, while still doing what you can to be happy. ^^ *hugs*
it's not so much that I WANT to use the public ones, it's that in time I want to dispel the myth that there would be anything wrong with that, for the sake of others who come after me.
Good news Tammy! Thanks for sharing it with us. It's a step in the right direction, Hugs, Devlyn
I'm so sorry about the situation with your spouse. I wish I had some sage advice, but all I can offer is my emotional support.
As for the job, WooHoo! I'm so glad you've got an income stream again. Best wishes. :)
I agree it's not worth it to push the bathroom issue right now, especially since they are respecting your right to at least use the appropriate employees' restroom. Eventually, it may be worth revisiting.
Best of luck on the new job!
Excellent news Sis
I am very very proud of you :-*
Cindy
Fantastic! ;D
Congratulations! ;D