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General Discussions => General discussions => Topic started by: Constance on June 11, 2012, 12:25:59 PM

Title: Mild Quandry
Post by: Constance on June 11, 2012, 12:25:59 PM
Two of my best friends from high school married each other, and then divorced years later due in part to the husband's infidelity. I'm still friends with both of them, IRL and on the dreaded Facebook.

The ex-husband has announced that he's engaged -- to the last woman he cheated on his ex-wife with.

The ex-wife is still very hurt and angry about this. I feel caught in the middle. I'd like to congratulate the one friend, but I don't want to upset the other.

*le sigh*
Title: Re: Mild Quandry
Post by: Pica Pica on June 11, 2012, 12:42:23 PM
The joy of the private message.
Title: Re: Mild Quandry
Post by: Sarah Louise on June 11, 2012, 12:52:05 PM
If you want to congratulate your friend, you Should.  Out of friendship, politeness, common curtesy, etc.

If one of them says you can't be friends with the other, then you should begin to question the basis of the friendship.
Title: Re: Mild Quandry
Post by: Constance on June 11, 2012, 12:57:35 PM
Pica & Sarah: you both have good points.
Title: Re: Mild Quandry
Post by: Brooke777 on June 11, 2012, 12:59:18 PM
Quote from: Sarah Louise on June 11, 2012, 12:52:05 PM
If you want to congratulate your friend, you Should.  Out of friendship, politeness, common curtesy, etc.

If one of them says you can't be friends with the other, then you should begin to question the basis of the friendship.
I completely agree.
Title: Re: Mild Quandry
Post by: Constance on June 11, 2012, 01:05:07 PM
I sent my friend a private message.

Truly, I want him to be happy. But at that same time, he was a lousy husband to my other friend. At least he had been a good father, even in the eyes of his ex-wife.