I just had to rant. Sorry guys! d:
Okay so I'm starting at a new school in November.
I spoke with the secretary and this other woman at the school,
they said we would have an official meeting about this in September with all the faculties there.
But so far they said they were on my side, and would support me.
They said my birth name would not be spoken, or told to any student.
My teachers would strictly call me by my chosen name(Jayden.)
And that I had permission(from the people I spoke too at least.) to use the boys bathroom and locker room.
They said they would speak to the dean and that she would most likely also be on my side.
Here's the thing though, they also said the only thing they cannot control is the students reaction.
We all decided I should start school in November instead of August so I would have time to physically transition a bit.
I'm starting hormones most likely in August, that would give T 3 months to help out a bit,
I already pass quite well pre-T, so we're all hoping by 3 months, I'll be able to pass flawlessly and be stealth at school.
This is huge, amazing yet scary.
Scary because; If I end up not passing and walk in the boys locker room, yes they could accept me, but I could also be in for a serious beating. There's also the question; what if I get caught by a bad group, outside, away from any supervisors sight?
But then again Amazing because I'll finally be on T(3 months!!! When school starts.) and I have all these people supporting me and there for me.
This is going to be by far the biggest challenge I've ever faced,
this is gonna be one heck of an adventure.
I am betting you will be fine. Just be positive and show people you are well adjusted being your true self. People like other people who seem comfortable in their own skin.
Lizzy
Just act super confident. People so rarely question anything.
Congratulations and good luck. Sounds really exciting.
Don't worry about it. I generally blame them for this, but in your case, it's going to be good: a great proportion of guys just don't care, don't ask and don't wonder about things. "Blagh, it's just like that... dude." Since you'll have a binder (right?) it might be best to change in a private area (there's always at least one toilet in a locker room, is there?) so that you don't raise eyebrows... In that case, you might get picked on a bit for being shy/prude, but it shouldn't last so much.
And even if you didn't, I don't think they'd care much. If they ask, it's an undershirt, 'cause your skin is sensitive to clothes rubbing on it. That will be the end of the story.
I was picked on by three people at high school, who did me one mean trick (lolol, let's move his clothes whilst he washes in the private shower so that he has to come out - I actually never came out and screamed for a teacher), just once, and it stopped.
Although I'm MTF, I can share some experience that might be useful to you. In a few aspects (notably voice and some parts of the face) I pass pretty well, which gave me quite a few passes from strangers even before HRT (I was cheating a lot though by not wearing -exclusively- male stuff and being in a coat and scarf~). My voice doesn't really sound male, at least to the foreign ear, and I don't really act male. Yet I haven't really been bullied for such things... Except maybe once or twice in high school because that one jerk had noticed that I was shaving my arms and legs, but it stopped almost immediately.
And in college, where I'm pretty much presenting as androgynous, the only one comment I got was from that almost-friend (^^') guy who asked why my hair was long. Oh yeah, and two rude strangers discussing: "that's a guy? I thought it was a girl" - "no that's definitely a guy" - "ah I guess", etc.
Some of the guys avoided me ("I'll catch the gay!!" or stuff? Even though I'm pretty much asexual at the moment) for a few months, but then they realised that I was a decent and sometimes helpful person.
And all that whilst looking pretty much like a "person of ambiguous gender", not even trying to look all that female; just doing what I can to cope until full-time. If you actually make efforts to look male, how could it go wrong if you say you pass fairly well already?
Just have confidence and go for it! It's most probably going to be entirely fine.
Aaaaaaand even if they find out... So what? You think they'll... beat you? Christ, if they do that for such a trivial reason, they're gonna beat people up daily. Plus I think people are a little more accepting of FTMs than MTFs, due to the fact that genetic men tend to be considered perverts by default, for what it's worth.
Nono, seriously, even in super unlucky scenarios, I don't see it going "that" wrong.
And don't forget this: the more you think and worry about misfortune, the more likely you make it to happen. I don't have any logic to back this up, but naive and carefree people tend to get in so much less trouble than worriers, don't they? Regardless of transsexualism or anything, actually, when meanies are going to tease someone, they target the person who they think will feel it the worst, who looks like they're going to be anxious about the consequences of denouncing, who looks like they're going to be afraid of them.
Act the contrary of that and implement into your mind the idea that worst-case scenarios are less likely than sudden death by meteorite fall (okay I'm exaggerating a little, but~) and you'll be adding to your arsenal an extra shield against the already low likelyhood of such events.
Wow. Congratulations and good luck!
That is totally awesome. Congratulations!
My one bit of advice is to get all of that in writing from the school. It will help in the case someone tries to backpedal.
Felix is right about confidence. If you act like you belong people will react to you like you belong.
Good luck!!!