I look decent as a girl, look good as a guy, and am rather successful as a guy (I mean decent grades, and athletic) However I have been contemplating becoming a woman for a long time (since I was 7, so 8 years). I kind of like guys (not as a guy) but as a girl and I like girls as a guy. my parents do know that I crossdress (never publicly or around them) , and I told them that I do it out of stress (which is partly true, but not the main reason that I do) and that I like girls. Admittedly I lied, but it would be catastrophic on my family right now and after reading up on how life is after changing over I am afraid I could end up a hooker or in a place which I should be doing much better, but can't because I'm a Transgirl. help because i'm going to lose it if I can't decide
woah. sorry i don't really have any insight into this. i kinda knew i wanted to transition before i even knew what transgender was. but i'm here if you need to chat and let off steam :)
i wish you all the luck no matter which road you choose
*huggles* Welcome Bayarea. There are indeed some scary stories related to people who have transitioned either or way, however what I try to keep in mind is that doing anything carries some inherit risk and that it's possible to just get murdered randomly on the street, so while you do everything you can to be safe, you just keep in mind that if you don't do something becasue of things that have happened to other people that you'd never do anything. Also, I keep in mind that a majority of people who transition, while they may not have a perfect ride, don't become prostitutes and end up dead.
But it is a real worry that you may not have as many options or be taken as serious professionally, and that was one reason why I didn't choose to transition until recently (Thinking that no one would take me seriously or that I could look anything half way close to how I always wished). It's not so much that I became successful, but that I realized that I'd rather be happy as a girl as oppose to "successful" and still confused about myself. Not that I gave up being successful, but that successful to me is also being happy with my life, and that I couldn't really be happy if I didn't.