Hi.
I have never been part of a forum before... so I am not sure how this all works.
But this is what I am hoping to find here: a place where I can ask questions(and hopefully get suggestions), get support, make friends, and give all that in return.
Here is my background relative to this forum:
I am 19, and have recently concluded myself to be Androgynous. Growing up I never openly questioned my gender. I had a difficult time fitting in and being comfortable around everyone, I never had any real friends until Highschool. Because I was born biologically female, I threw myself into that gender roll with gusto, in an attempt to forge ties and be accepted. I worked so hard to be what I thought I was supposed to be that being myself never crossed my mind until I met an FTM transexual. Since I began my quest for self a little over a year ago I have spent much of my time searching for information and sites to give me clues, taken countless online "quizes" in desperation, and tried very hard not to rule out possibilities. It has been a very stressful year for me, between confusing relationships (romantic and otherwise), starting college, struggling for independence from my parents, dealing with financial problems (already), and deeper issues that I am still struggling with, the self-discovery has felt like trying to navigate a boat on the open ocean and in the densest fog.
I only know one gender variant person, but he is not androgynous, and has difficulty helping me and talking with me sometimes. He often seems, in his advice, to be attempting to convince me that my convictions need re-evaluating, and the steps I have taken thus far to express myself honestly are either unnecesary or confused. Sometimes he seems to over-simplify my situation, or nudge me towards a gender pole. I hope to meet more people with different experiences, so I can hopefully clear the fog over my own path.
I hope this post isn't too long-winded or complicated... I am just afraid to mis-represent myself.
Thank you for your time.
-Andy
Hello Andy, I am pleased to meet you.
You should find this to be just what you are looking for in the addition of being a friendly and safe environment.
Welcome to this place (=
Blessed Be.
Hi Andy,
I'm glad you found the site.
If your look for friends and or information about gender issues this is the place.
Please read the site rules at:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html) if you haven't already.
Then check out the Wiki, with ton of info on the gender topics. Oh and check out our chat and links section too. Have a great read.
Welcome to Susan's.
:)
Jillieann
Hello Andy and welcome to Susan's indeed!
Thank you for your introduction. Well, there's a first time for everything. ;) Please take a second to explore all the forums of the site, review the site rules and take advantage of our many resources such as the wiki, chat, and the links listed at the main page. We look forward to your future posts and participation. Enjoy your stay!
tink :icon_chick:
Hi, Andy;
I see a moderator has already given you the cook's tour.
I think this is a fine time to be questioning of one's gender, what with all the brouhaha going on in various un-progressive places. And with those external attempts to repress non-standard gender expression, as part of your questioning you may wish to get with a therapist at some time to help guide you to where you're no longer repressing yourself, and can assert your YOU, whatever you may ultimately find it to be.
But, cost being an object (it always is,) hang out here and talk with some other androgynes. Madison would be a good one if ze is still around -- also Ken/Kendra.
Do look into the other forums -- you never know what you'll find.
And please participate. It makes it more fun for everyone!
Karen
Welcome, Andy!
I'm another androgyne. Like you, I'm younger than the ones Karen mentioned (I'm right around your age, actually), and I'm still figuring myself out. But then the honest ones do that throughout their whole lives.
I hope to see some posts from you in the near future, even more so since we don't seem to have too many androgynes here. (Or anywhere, and this is one of the few places I've seen on the Internet that really has anything in the way of discussion of and for androgynes.)
Hi Andy!
Welcome to Susans! Nice to have you aboard.
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Hi Andy,
QuoteI hope this post isn't too long-winded or complicated... I am just afraid to mis-represent myself.
Its just fine. Ran into another post you made and realized just know I missed this post. I am an androgyne also. We have several bio original women and men androgynes on this site, all androgynous in my mind, though we have several androgynous flavors.
Just wanted to welcome you officially, and feel free to post new topics and stuff, according to the guidelines Jill posted.
Welcome again.
Ken (dra)
KK