My Fiance is MtF Beautiful Trans-Woman. I met her and became friends with her knowing who she is truly supposed to be. I have never been with a woman before, and was always taught to be against it. But With her I couldn't help but fall in love. I have an attraction towards women, always have. Just Never acted on anything. My fiance is not yet finished with her transition we are still waiting to get enough money for her SRS. It worries me for her to have it done. I don't know how it will affect our "bedroom" situation. I worry about, "what if I don't like it? What if I'm not really attracted to women in that way?" It may sound bad and I don't mean for it to. I love her no matter what she is or has, I am in love with her. I just don't know how to cope with the change.
I'm sorry if this is worded poorly. But does anyone have any help for me... Any advice for coping and figuring out things.
And by all means, our relationship and my viewing of her is not for what goes on in the "bedroom" but that is a big worry. I also worry about staying strong for her and helping push her through and be tough while she finishes her transition. Sometimes I don't know what to do or say, when she's sitting and crying it breaks my heart. How do I let her know how beautiful she really is?
How to let her know she is beautiful? Just keep telling her out loud often. Just holding her and being there for her will be a big help.
Karen.
I am in the same boat sweetie. (Only I had no idea my love was MTF until we had been married for 3 years) We are taking everything step by step. There isnt much more you can do. If its meant to be it will work out. =)
SnowFlake, Keep on giving her all the love and support possible she's going to need it. Your story was wonderful.