lol Well, I'm just wondering how many of us have shared this experience in general. Even before I identified as trans, public bathrooms were a no-no simply because I think they are nasty. But of course, there are simply times when your bladder can no longer hold anything! So I have needed to use public restrooms on occassion, although it's rare. At my university, it really isn't a big deal. No one really looks at you.
But yeah, back to my point. There was one time when I went to the airport and I went in with my grandma and sister and this lady sort of did a double take and asked in a VERY loud way, "Isn't this the women's bathroom?" just as I was walking out. Mind you, I have VERY large breasts. But they always neglect to see that apparently lol :rolleyes:
In general, it's uncomfortable to go into bathrooms because women don't seem to take in the fact that I do have breasts. All they see is the men's clothing and short hair.
I'm sure people have some interesting stories out there!
I've had some stares and double takes, but no one correctly gendered me. It does make public bathrooms uncomfortable though.
Yes, quit stalling, people. Don't worry, Stewie, these threads always start with a trickle. Once everyone is going with the flow, someone will want to stop in midstream. I should go now. Hugs, Devlyn
Yup, countless times. No one's actually said anything face to face I think, although think I vaguely remember someone saying "Oh sorry I thought you were..." but I'm not sure if that was in a toilet or not. Last year a couple of German tourists said something to each other in German when they saw me waiting in a queue for the toilet and although I know barely any German I could tell that they were asking whether it was a male or female toilet and they felt a second after that.
Oh actually I did almost get dragged out a pub toilets by the landlord once... He'd caught me with a group of people who had a bottle of alcohol underage at my friends birthday party and told us to get out (stupid I know, especially as I know the consequences for him) but my friend felt really ill so I helped her to the toilets, and we stood in there while she got some water. The next thing I know the door is thrown open and I'm grabbed by the collar and he tries to drag me out while shouting that he's really sick of me. I just pulled his hand off me and stood there in shock shouting back that all I was doing was helping my friend get a drink in "my own toilets." All I can think of was one of the other people went and told him there was a guy in the toilets as someone else said something that night and I just looked away and got my friends to "correct" her, I was too angry from the landlord manhandling me to speak. That was a pretty awful night, I was shaking for about an hour afterwards and it took a fortnight before my hand stopped hurting from where I punched the sanitary towel dispenser in anger.
My chest is pretty small so the only way I feel safe using public toilets is to have some ID in my pocket. It makes me feel better to know that I could shove that in someones face and they'd not be able to argue that I was in the wrong one.
I was in a bathroom in a gay bar when I was pre-t and a guy said he liked my haircut. I said thanks and when he heard my voice he asked me if I was a lesbian. I said, "nope, I'm trans." He said cool, introduced himself, shook my hand, and that was that.
I was hanging out with a few new friends and we stopped at a bar to use the bathroom. One of the guys (who has no idea I'm trans) decided he needed to pee too. So we awkwardly walked into the bathroom together and when I headed for the stall he said, "What, you're not gonna piss in the sink, dude?" It was so strange. Maybe I didn't have to piss? I just walked into the stall and ignored it. Weird.
Once before I started using the mens room I had a woman walk into the ladies room while I was walking out she walled back out looked at me looked at the door and looked at me again
It was so funny
The last time I used the women's restroom, early July marked one year, security came.
It scared the crap out of me but I felt like I would not be read as male yet if I had used the men's.
It was in Walmart& when I came out of the stall there was a very large, security woman. She asked me if I was a "boy or a girl" and insisted I show her my ID. It was validating in that I was read as male (pre-t at that time) though nerve wracking that it was in that type of situation.
After feeling unsure about how I would be read for all that time, after that first time in the men's room I never was nervous to use it again.
Quote from: Cal on July 28, 2012, 11:57:11 PM
The last time I used the women's restroom, early July marked one year, security came
Classic :D
Once, driving through southern Michigan in rural communities, I couldn't hold it anymore. I was binding and wearing baggy clothing, and I stopped off at a small gas station off a random exit. I paced back and forth between the isles debating whether I should use the men's or women's (go figure, small rural gas station and they didn't have 1 unisex, but 2 bathrooms) and after around 10 minutes I finally chose the men's once I knew there was no one inside.
I was washing my hands at the sink when a State Trooper walked in and unzipped at the urinal. I basically ran out of that bathroom, and haven't tried using the men's room since. If I can't find a unisex/ deserted bathroom, I choose to find a place to go outside if I'm desperate.
I was probably 14 or 15 when I walked into a rest stop on the side of a road and the trooper pointed the men's bathroom is that way. I'd always been confused which bathroom to use (strange looks and all that) but after that I just used the men's. So nice to sit down and relax and not worry about who saw, how I'm getting out and if a woman is going to scream rape at me.
Quote from: Stewie on July 28, 2012, 03:39:54 PM
But yeah, back to my point. There was one time when I went to the airport and I went in with my grandma and sister and this lady sort of did a double take and asked in a VERY loud way, "Isn't this the women's bathroom?"
Haha, the same thing happened to me once... funnily enough, it was on the way to an FTM meet! I wandered into the women's bathroom, the cleaner took one look at me and said "Are you a boy?" I froze, opened my mouth like a frightened goldfish, then scarpered.
From that moment on, I used the men's room... :)
I avoid public restrooms as much as my bladder will allow me to. The last time I used one was in a train station, I used the mens, and a split second after I came out I heard someone say "what was SHE doing in here?!" - gutted :( pass fail
Yet whenever I walk into the womens everyone in there goes quiet and stares at me.
Stupid inbetween stage ::)
Just wondering why you don't try the men's washroom? You don't need to be on T to successfully use the men's washroom, imo.
I'm in an awkward position where I'm not completely out yet when in my own clothes I wear a hat and have a deep voice, for a teenager, so people see me as a guy.
When I went camping last year, I was in the women's bathroom, cleaning my teeth in those special stalls with sinks. I am not a tramp and anyone who has gone camping on a site should understand what I mean ;D! Anyways, this old lady walked in and did a double take before asking if she was in the right toilet. I just stood there shocked, I didn't have a binder on (don't really need one) and my hair was just tucked in my hoodie. It was awesome. My best friend, who I have come ou to, was there with me and when the old lady left she was like "Dude you just passed!". Good times :D.