Not sure if this is a rant, a question, a cry for help, or something... Entirely different.
Anyway. To start out with, I don't even know where to put this.
I now have a sort-of roommate. This roommate is an FTM. He'd be homeless if I hadn't taken him in, he was living in a Mission somewhere south of me (about 2 hour drive). He's pre-everything, and had had an abusive upbringing (not related to being an FTM, either). He 'lived in a box', has he puts it, and had to deal with two abusive sisters and... Uncaring parents.
Anyway, he has no GED, no Diploma, no drivers license, no job, and almost no belongings. On top of that is $40,000 in unpaid medical bills on his name. He's even in the hospital right now, but... this is another state, they have options to help him and not load him with debt.
I wasn't planning on adding him to my lease on my apartment, however... He also wasn't supposed to be here more than ~2 weeks. But he got sick, and right now is back in the hospital dealing with some kind of intestinal issue, and thus, him leaving with one of our 'friends' to drive her across the country fell apart (and now she's halfway there as it is, and they aren't even on speaking terms).
So, I need to add him to my lease sooner or later. I also have a friend kinda south right now, who is an MTF, and wants to live with me. And now she has a MTF roommate that will come along.
Which means, soonish, there will be two MTF's, an FTM, and me (MTN) living in a 3 bedroom apartment. Oh, I need to add that the three of them are HFA (High Functioning Autistic). While HFA doesn't BOTHER me, one trait that two of these three have is loud talking, which... I have a difficult time handling. And they're all hyper. Which... I also have difficulty with.
But, my Rent would drop to a realistic level, and i could pay off some of MY bills.
There's another facet of this, which... Is probably pointless to consider. I want a GF. I'm most likely not going to find one, ever. I posted a few times on CL looking for female friends to hang out with, but keep getting flakes, or TS. I'd be happy to hang out with (yet) more TS people, but living in a house full of HFA TS is kind of my limit. I don't think I could take the drama of adding ANOTHER one. >_< Just thinking about it makes me want to give up on it.
So, I have no idea what to do. I need to get my FTM friend added to my lease before we both get kicked out for it... But i have time for that. And I don't want to kick him out knowing he has nowhere to go, I'd rather give him the money to get his GED and License, let him find a job, and get his own place (but... He needs someone to help him figure out things in life).
Any ideas on what I should do, short of eloping with my Hello Kitty plushie to Canadia and never return?
I'd avoid financial help for your friend. He is capable of earning his own money and by giving him yours, you are denying that. Instead give him whatever help you can finding a job, getting whatever medical and social care he needs. If there's government provided healthcare in your area, help him find it. I would not recommend putting him on your lease unless he has a way of making the rent, otherwise you make problems for yourself.
As for finding a girlfriend, no magic ways there. Best way to find your princess is to meet a lot of frogs. It's a numbers game. If one in 100 could be your special girl, you need to meet 100 women and whiff with 99 of them. So go out there and meet people. Do things, go places, and keep posting online. She's out there, you need to find her.
Good luck, Sarra, I hope this helps.
OMG! This is one situation where you have to consider Number One.
Send the others on their way and get your own life in order or your time, money and sanity will all suffer seriously.
Quote from: agfrommd on August 06, 2012, 07:25:58 AM
I'd avoid financial help for your friend. He is capable of earning his own money and by giving him yours, you are denying that. Instead give him whatever help you can finding a job, getting whatever medical and social care he needs. If there's government provided healthcare in your area, help him find it. I would not recommend putting him on your lease unless he has a way of making the rent, otherwise you make problems for yourself.
As for finding a girlfriend, no magic ways there. Best way to find your princess is to meet a lot of frogs. It's a numbers game. If one in 100 could be your special girl, you need to meet 100 women and whiff with 99 of them. So go out there and meet people. Do things, go places, and keep posting online. She's out there, you need to find her.
Good luck, Sarra, I hope this helps.
Well, that's the thing, he kind of doesn't.
I kind of agree on the lease thing, except, he's been living here for a bit now, and we'll both get kicked out if he isn't on the lease.
Eh. I'm going ot have to find some roommates soon either way, I can't afford the rent I currently have. >_>