i was talking to a friend who knows im trans and i told her there is only one benefit of being trans is not having to worry about accidentally getting a girl pregnant but there are actually two benefits of being trans not having to worry about accidental pregnancy and multiple orgasms. if you guys can think of any others please tell me.
Don't have to worry so much if a baseball hits your prosthetic balls. If you have any.
Um...I still have to worry about pregnancy XP. I might not get to knock-up anyone, but I can definitely get pregnant if I'm not careful @_@. Hell, right now I'm celebrating my period as proof of lack of fetuses ;_;. Don't judge, it was an accident XP.
Ok, back to benefits :'D! One benefit for me is that my feet are freaking tiny so I can still wear light-up shoes! I don't care if they make me look too young, they're awesome @_@!
No prostate exams!
There's benefits?? ;)
Really, I never really thought of any.
In some ways, being raised female made me more sensitive. But, it also made me angry and sort of screwed up sometimes because I am not a woman, and raising me as one just made me hate the world for a long time. I don't know whether or not the two cancel each other out.
For mtfs: no periods:D
No awkward boners in class? Something my husband and the 18 year old brother have both bemoaned. xD
Quote from: Aeris on September 08, 2012, 02:36:07 AM
For mtfs: no periods:D
First thing that popped in my head when I read the question, lawl
There aren't any imo.
Perhaps.. Our struggle creates a more tolerant, colourful and self-reflective society. :P
If I had to think about the reduced risk of prostate and testicular cancer and how afraid I am of that disease, that's a benefit for me.
Also saying goodbye to accidental erections. There's nothing worse on the gym's showers. "Go down, you bastard. Now it's not the time for that!"
But thinking about being on meds for life, possible social problems or harassing, unsupporting family, etc... Not so sure. there may be a few physical benefits for daily annoyances, but a lot of extra crap to deal with.
being trans is not bad, but the "normal" people are awful.
We actually have to think about Gender and how it operates in society.
We hopefully are a bit more accepting of other peoples differences.
We will never bully someone.
That will do for a start.
Karen.
Quote from: Andy8715 on September 08, 2012, 06:52:39 AM
There aren't any imo.
I agree that in there are not a lot of big advantages as far as most people are concerned, including a lot of folks here. But, I am also one of those guys that has tried to find the bright side, lest I have a harder time dealing with my own reality. At the very least, I think its good to find something positive about one's situation.
Though, I wish I could grow a killer beard. One day...
Quote from: Felicitá on September 08, 2012, 07:04:46 AM
Perhaps.. Our struggle creates a more tolerant, colourful and self-reflective society. :P
I completely agree. Since our perspectives are different we have more of a chance to effect the world around us.
I'm gonna second the awkward boners comment. And knowing what it's like to be seen as a woman so we're less likely to be a-holes to them in the future. And for me being really short is sometimes a benefit, I fit well into kids clothes which are generally cheaper anyway and don't have tax on them like adult ones do. (But that's also a pain seeing as I need fire retardant overalls and they don't come anywhere near small enough...)
If I wasn't trans I would be a completely different person. Not exactly a benefit but one thing that I consider.
Quote from: Nygeel on September 08, 2012, 10:58:55 AM
If I wasn't trans I would be a completely different person. Not exactly a benefit but one thing that I consider.
Totally agree with you Nygeel. Though somedays I really don't like myself, I don't know if I'd want to be completely different.
*getting a greater understanding of life from both sides of sociaty
*being able to say to a girl. "I understand your pain" and actually mean it during periods.
* knowing the right spots of vegina sex for girls, or having more fellings on whats feels good on men cause of our "phantom penis knowlegde"
* being horny without its showed and without the akward boner.
* having a good reason to choose our own name.
Quote from: Nygeel on September 08, 2012, 10:58:55 AM
If I wasn't trans I would be a completely different person. Not exactly a benefit but one thing that I consider.
This so much.
I would probably be a total careless jerk and have no sense of what struggles some people go through to love themselves. Also, I would probably get in tons of trouble and something else that's not really appropriate to say xD.
As for the good things, well, I have learned a lot so far from transitioning; about myself and society. I could write a book about the insight I've gained and probably wouldn't have had I not transitioned/been trans, so I'll just leave it at that.
*I think about this topic a lot lol
Being trans may not be the most convenient thing ever, but there are a lot of benefits for you negative Nellies to consider.
1. Have experience with guy-stuff like tools and repairing house items.
2. Get to know what life is like for both sides of the gender spectrum. Most girls don't know just how much fun BB tag is because they think its stupid. I think it's fun. :P
3. No periods or pregnancy. Yay. :)
4. You can see a guy getting struck in the nuts and say "I know how you feel" honestly.
5. You can gain empathy for people who are discriminated against for no good reason.
6. No pap smears or gyno visits. I don't need some guy looking at my stuff. >:(
Seeing the world from the perspective of a woman and a man too. I'm not sure it's good. But cis people never will experience this.
In all honestly, I cannot think of a single thing.
To me, this must be worse than terminal disease.
I'm alive, but I don't—can't—truly live.
Nothing beneficial about that.
Sorry.
I forgot something, it dosent count for all trans, but for many I think they tend to look younger there age.
being 40 but looking like your 28 cant be that bad.
Some of you nay-sayers ought to start your own thread rather than poop in someones pool.
Nice work, Spaulding.
I'll second Nat's looking younger comment. It may suck to try and buy liquor or smokes, but those are bad habits anyway. *hides his cigarettes and whiskey* I mean... who would want to do that anyway? :D
FWIW I've had 2 prostate exams. Not sure if the doctors are supposed to tick off the boxes on a male exam. First doc knew I was trans when she did it, said a rectal is always a good idea, prostate or not. Second doc didn't know i was trans until after the exam. He thought he felt something. Skene's gland, maybe?
A prostate exam seems much more tolerable than a front exam. i am post-op so no front left, LOL.
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 08, 2012, 05:53:49 PM
Some of you nay-sayers ought to start your own thread rather than poop in someones pool.
My sincerest apologies. :eusa_silenced:
switching to male voice when you want a guy to go away
Quote from: DianaP on September 08, 2012, 12:58:25 PM
Being trans may not be the most convenient thing ever, but there are a lot of benefits for you negative Nellies to consider.
1. Have experience with guy-stuff like tools and repairing house items.
2. Get to know what life is like for both sides of the gender spectrum. Most girls don't know just how much fun BB tag is because they think its stupid. I think it's fun. :P
3. No periods or pregnancy. Yay. :)
4. You can see a guy getting struck in the nuts and say "I know how you feel" honestly.
5. You can gain empathy for people who are discriminated against for no good reason.
6. No pap smears or gyno visits. I don't need some guy looking at my stuff. >:(
I'm a ''maab'' (is that the right phrase?) and I know nothing about tools or sports or guy stuff :P.
As for benefits...I don't know. I really don't know. I feel like so many other trans people have such different storylines where they feel they *have* to transition, whereas I just sort of fell into it...if that makes any sense.
I've always had a problem with several aspects of my core identity being so fluid and subject to outside change from society and circumstance even, that I don't know what it feels like to *have* to do or be anyone.
In a way, it's disconcerting, but knowing that I can blend in pretty seamlessly to whatever surrounding I want is...uncommon.
Quote from: conformer on September 08, 2012, 12:27:35 PM
This so much.
I would probably be a total careless jerk and have no sense of what struggles some people go through to love themselves. Also, I would probably get in tons of trouble and something else that's not really appropriate to say xD.
As for the good things, well, I have learned a lot so far from transitioning; about myself and society. I could write a book about the insight I've gained and probably wouldn't have had I not transitioned/been trans, so I'll just leave it at that.
*I think about this topic a lot lol
"get in tons of trouble and something else that's not really appropriate to say xD. "
ahahaha! You actually got me with that one my good man, I actually Laughed Out Loud.
have a cookie XD.
Quote from: Ayden on September 08, 2012, 02:47:31 AM
No awkward boners in class? Something my husband and the 18 year old brother have both bemoaned. xD
there's always the awkward 'oh no my packer looks like a boner'
Quote from: anibioman on September 09, 2012, 01:07:24 AM
there's always the awkward 'oh no my packer looks like a boner'
That happened to me the other day. :laugh: I looked down because a girl was staring at me in the store. Totally awkward. But for some reason I couldn't find it embarrassing. It was just really, really funny to me.
Quote from: Natkat on September 08, 2012, 04:14:29 PM
I forgot something, it dosent count for all trans, but for many I think they tend to look younger there age.
being 40 but looking like your 28 cant be that bad.
Totally agree with that. I will be 59 next month and people have estimated my age as anything down to 35. That would make any woman feel good.
Also getting to feel maternal when I held a friends new born baby. So different to holding my own children as a father, amazing as that was. This was a truly incredible feeling. I wanted to have one myself!
Quote from: Nygeel on September 08, 2012, 10:58:55 AM
If I wasn't trans I would be a completely different person. Not exactly a benefit but one thing that I consider.
This for me. I like myself a lot and I wouldn't be who I am if the challenges I've had to face didn't push me to learn, develop, and improve in the direction that's right for me. I don't know who I would be if I hadn't had those opportunities.
I get to be a mom
and a dad.
Quote from: Nygeel on September 08, 2012, 10:58:55 AM
If I wasn't trans I would be a completely different person. Not exactly a benefit but one thing that I consider.
I'd rather be a different person than trans to be honest.
Quote from: justmeinoz on September 09, 2012, 07:49:34 AM
Totally agree with that. I will be 59 next month and people have estimated my age as anything down to 35. That would make any woman feel good.
Total aside, but there is no way that you are in your fifties. At all. I refuse to believe it. I would have said mid thirties! I hope I look even half as good when I get to my fifties! :laugh: Rock those youthful looks, m'lady!
Quote from: Andy8715 on September 09, 2012, 08:15:34 PM
I'd rather be a different person than trans to be honest.
it depends on what's meant by if we weren't trans. Do people mean if we were born as the sex we're transitioning to, or do they mean if we were born being alright with our biological sex?
If I were born a girl, I'd probably be pretty messed up and use men and women alike.
If I were just a regular guy, I think I would be a pretty cute gay guy :3 (there's like no reality where I envision myself as a cisgender hetero guy...the idea of being a "family man" in the suburbs with a wife and children is completely repellant to me...and I'd probably be a republican *nauseous*).
Quote from: Ave on September 09, 2012, 11:01:34 PM
it depends on what's meant by if we weren't trans. Do people mean if we were born as the sex we're transitioning to, or do they mean if we were born being alright with our biological sex?
It doesn't matter which because if I had been born cis I would not have to deal with the crap that is dealing with this condition.
Quote from: Andy8715 on September 09, 2012, 11:05:55 PM
It doesn't matter which because if I had been born cis I would not have to deal with the crap that is dealing with this condition.
I never thought about it negatively before. I just thought you can't get upset about something that you can't "unexperience".
Quote from: Ave on September 09, 2012, 11:10:14 PM
I never thought about it negatively before. I just thought you can't get upset about something that you can't "unexperience".
Sure, but that doesn't mean I can't think about it sometimes and often desperately wish I had been born cis.
Boner stays up for however long I and my girlfriend want it to be.
She can pick whatever size she's in the mood for.
(Well at least after I expend my dick collection.)
;D
To the ones coming here with negativity...
I'm pretty sure this thread was meant to be positive and fun.
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 08, 2012, 05:53:49 PM
Some of you nay-sayers ought to start your own thread rather than poop in someones pool.
Quote from: Jayr on September 10, 2012, 12:21:58 AM
Boner stays up for however long I and my girlfriend want it to be.
She can pick whatever size she's in the mood for.
(Well at least after I expend my dick collection.)
;D
You know, that's a very useful skill. I kinda wish my boyfriend could just be like "babe, guess what? I got a rainbow glitter sparkly one today, it tastes like cupcakes :P"
Isn't variety the spice of life? XP
Here's another;
My girlfriend takes FOREVER to do her make up and all that. FOREVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
But since I was raised as a chick, I know what to do with long hair.
So while she applies her make up, I'm styling her hair;
So we are out of the door and ready to go out twice as fast!
;D
Quote from: Jayr on September 10, 2012, 12:42:07 AM
Here's another;
My girlfriend takes FOREVER to do her make up and all that. FOREVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
But since I was raised as a chick, I know what to do with long hair.
So while she applies her make up, I'm styling her hair;
So we are out of the door and ready to go out twice as fast!
;D
Oh my. It's not just people who were raised as chicks who would know what to do with long hair...
we're called gay boys :D
Quote from: Ave on September 10, 2012, 12:31:20 AM
You know, that's a very useful skill. I kinda wish my boyfriend could just be like "babe, guess what? I got a rainbow glitter sparkly one today, it tastes like cupcakes :P"
Isn't variety the spice of life? XP
Yes, yes it is :D
Personally I like more natural skin tones.
But whatever floats your boat!
Quote from: Jayr on September 10, 2012, 12:42:07 AM
So while she applies her make up, I'm styling her hair;
So we are out of the door and ready to go out twice as fast!
I must've not have been socialized as a girl at all, because I have no idea what to do with longer hair. I'm not even sure I can put hair up properly.
xD
That's cute though, Jayr.
And
Ave, I think you could argue that feminine gay men definitely receive more feminine socialization, since not all gay men are necessarily feminine - regardless, I'm pretty sure Jayr isn't gay.
Quote from: JasonRX on September 10, 2012, 01:41:54 AM
I must've not have been socialized as a girl at all, because I have no idea what to do with longer hair. I'm not even sure I can put hair up properly.
xD
That's cute though, Jayr.
I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two.
:P
Quote from: JasonRX on September 10, 2012, 01:41:54 AM
And Ave, I think you could argue that feminine gay men definitely receive more feminine socialization, since not all gay men are necessarily feminine - regardless, I'm pretty sure Jayr isn't gay.
Haha nope. Currently straight.
Well my wife gets the benefit with style, hair, make up advice. I swear if it wasn'`t for me she'd look like grandma Walton
no shrinkage when it's cold :P
Quote from: justmeinoz on September 09, 2012, 07:49:34 AM
Totally agree with that. I will be 59 next month and people have estimated my age as anything down to 35. That would make any woman feel good.
How true. I have a younger brother who is now my older brother. At least that's what everyone thinks when they meet us.
Not going limp in the worst possible time... And not having to suffer from a case of B.B. so bad you can't walk the next day...
At least that should be a small benefit.
Quote from: Apples Mk.II on September 10, 2012, 06:40:19 AM
And.. Not going limp in the worst possible time. Not to mention having a case of blue balls so bad you can't walk the next day.
Really, I hate those hanging things.
Um do we have to?
*throws out morning cappuccino*
Quote from: Justin 21 on September 10, 2012, 06:23:59 AM
no shrinkage when it's cold :P
As a motorcyclist I can so relate to that! Nothing worse than stopping by the side of the road in winter and wondering if you will need tweezers to find it!
Quote from: Ave on September 10, 2012, 06:54:32 AM
Um do we have to?
*throws out morning cappuccino*
Yep. Deffo TMI. But wondering what BB is and hoping to never find out..
Quote from: Andy8715 on September 09, 2012, 08:15:34 PM
I'd rather be a different person than trans to be honest.
Im with you there. I personally cant see anything good about being born this way, however, to contrast sounding negative, its interesting reading other peoples views in this thread and its cool for you lot who see benefits in this.
Justmeinoz - your comment made me laugh :p
Quote from: Felicitá on September 10, 2012, 09:00:48 AM
Yep. Deffo TMI. But wondering what BB is and hoping to never find out..
I think it stands for blueballs.
Quote from: Ave on September 11, 2012, 12:13:04 PM
I think it stands for blueballs.
I know what it's short for, but not its precise definition, which is already TMI to feed my highly active imagination.. :laugh:
Okay I finally thought of something and while it's not very personalized to me, it's something I could see as a benefit to all people. If the awareness of trans* people did not grow at all, then everyone who is would be stuck living in secrecy with no help at all. However, I see that with just the general gay movement, awareness of trans* people and the issues we all face is also being raised. Young people today actually have access to things I never had when I was young. There's a bit more acceptance that it's not just some mental disorder. While there's still a long way to go, it shakes up the gender binary and I'm all for anything that does that in society. While I still personally would rather have just been born a regular male and not have had to deal with any of this b.s. I can see a little bit of positives with it in that over time I would hope society in general would become more accepting.
Quote from: Felicitá on September 11, 2012, 01:25:23 PM
I know what it's short for, but not its precise definition, which is already TMI to feed my highly active imagination.. :laugh:
I think it's a myth!
Once it got me a free Big Gulp refill. That was pretty cool.
Quote from: Ave on September 11, 2012, 01:38:16 PM
I think it's a myth!
Yeah, I wish it was. How it happened is too embarrassing, even though embarrassment was also what lead to it.
I wonder where will she be now... I still miss her.
Quote from: Apples Mk.II on September 11, 2012, 02:02:11 PM
Yeah, I wish it was. How it happened is too embarrassing, even though embarrassment was also what lead to it.
I wonder where will she be now... I still miss her.
I'm confused
Let's say that one of the benefits of not having those balls is not having to deal with a case of unsatisfied sexual arousal that ends in vasocongestion and so much pain that they won't let you walk properly for several hours. How that happened is a bit too much, but it involved my ex.
No need to suffer when a couple of minutes of privacy in the bathroom can solve that problem.
In fact, a couple of minutes spent prior to going on that date can work wonders. ;)
Quote from: Jamie D on September 11, 2012, 08:48:46 PM
In fact, a couple of minutes spent prior to going on that date can work wonders. ;)
Just watch out if you have to zip up in a hurry!
A There's Something about Mary reference.
I detect a secret message!
Quote from: TessaM on September 11, 2012, 09:04:18 PM
Hmm, benefits of being trans?
Ill get a lower insurance rate on my car yay! Can you believe that, when I was 16, I was quoted 9000 (yes you read that correctly, 9k!) for full insurance on a 2 door honda civic si? I got a Volkswagen rabbit instead, "only" 300$ a month. Girls are more responsible, so ill have a lower rate :)
Really? Damn, they quoted me higher for my coverage than my husband. I had the wrong insurance company! :laugh:
Quote from: TessaM on September 11, 2012, 09:04:18 PM
Hmm, benefits of being trans?
Ill get a lower insurance rate on my car yay! Can you believe that, when I was 16, I was quoted 9000 (yes you read that correctly, 9k!) for full insurance on a 2 door honda civic si? I got a Volkswagen rabbit instead, "only" 300$ a month. Girls are more responsible, so ill have a lower rate :)
The lower pricing is for being a woman, not trans. So it can't be a direct trans benefit. Unless they have a specific pricing category for trans women. :P
Quote from: Jamie D on September 11, 2012, 08:48:46 PM
No need to suffer when a couple of minutes of privacy in the bathroom can solve that problem.
In fact, a couple of minutes spent prior to going on that date can work wonders. ;)
It was like 7 hours of neither of us having enough courage to do it, only preliminars. When the pain was unbearable I had to give up and use that solution, but the pain still accompanied for half a day. Although what really worried me is that when we finally lost the shyness... I though I would say goodbye to the dysphoria and reassure my gender identity, but it only made it worse.
Quote from: crazy old bat on September 11, 2012, 09:55:49 PM
Just watch out if you have to zip up in a hurry!
A There's Something about Mary reference.
They need to put a "Based on true events" on that movie. But maybe I am just prone to having ridiculous accidents down there. Like not being able to see one similar to this that was exactly at crotch height:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F4.bp.blogspot.com%2F_k6m7FZk5vn0%2FSA92T5V3j6I%2FAAAAAAAAAHo%2FK1j3MpYWCu8%2Fs320%2Fbolardo.gif&hash=62412843f31e7f08b66b019921ada0aa0fe6174a)
If God exists, he should have created a design academy before thinking about the human race. Worst evolution flaw ever.
Quote from: TessaM on September 12, 2012, 08:19:00 AM
You know what I mean ;)
But most cis women have the same benefit without going through hell and back. But then I'm talking benefits mostly exclusive to trans folk. That's how I'm personally reading "benefits of being trans".
Quote from: Apples Mk.II on September 12, 2012, 04:34:36 AM
Like not being able to see one similar to this that was exactly at crotch height:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F4.bp.blogspot.com%2F_k6m7FZk5vn0%2FSA92T5V3j6I%2FAAAAAAAAAHo%2FK1j3MpYWCu8%2Fs320%2Fbolardo.gif&hash=62412843f31e7f08b66b019921ada0aa0fe6174a)
Ive done that exact same thing! And, having been on T for quite a while, the post catching the perfect (or should I say..worst) point and walking in a hurry, I reaped no benefit at all. It hurt so bad!!! :p
Quote from: Make_It_Good on September 12, 2012, 02:22:11 PM
Ive done that exact same thing! And, having been on T for quite a while, the post catching the perfect (or should I say..worst) point and walking in a hurry, I reaped no benefit at all. It hurt so bad!!! :p
Is that a europe thing? We don't have groin-level lamps in the states (for good reason!).
Quote from: Ave on September 12, 2012, 02:26:52 PM
Is that a europe thing? We don't have groin-level lamps in the states (for good reason!).
Those things are there to prevent cars for entering pedestrian areas.
Quote from: Arch on September 08, 2012, 12:30:55 AM
Don't have to worry so much if a baseball hits your prosthetic balls. If you have any.
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LOL, nice! :D
Quote from: Aeris on September 08, 2012, 02:36:07 AM
For mtfs: no periods:D
You left out pregnacy, menopause, and pap smears
Quote from: Snowman77 on September 29, 2012, 12:25:55 PM
You left out pregnacy, menopause, and pap smears
I sometimes wish I'd be able to get pregnant. But then I think about all the kids that could be adopted so I feel better with that.
Don't mtfs go through "menopause" when they get off hormones?
Sometime things happen and we can't afford or get our medication.
And pap smear = ew. Lol
I have one that goes two ways.
Benefit:
I/my parents don't have to worry about me impregnating my girlfriend.
Downfall:
I can't impregnate a female when I'm ready . .
I've always been sterile, so that's something I accepted decades ago. I couldn't imagine myself with kids anyway.
Quote from: Andy8715 on September 09, 2012, 08:15:34 PM
I'd rather be a different person than trans to be honest.
There's times when I've thought this. Like I wished I'd been born a cis man. But then I remember that getting a Y chromosome would have meant a different sperm winning the race. Which doesn't mean I'd be a different person, it means there'd just be no me at all. The guy alive and walking around wouldn't be me. He'd be my brother.
Screw him. I like being alive.
edited because: I didn't realize this board had language filters. ;D
Quote from: Twin Hammer Tommy on October 02, 2012, 01:06:41 PM
There's times when I've thought this. Like I wished I'd been born a cis man. But then I remember that getting a Y chromosome would have meant a different sperm winning the race. Which doesn't mean I'd be a different person, it means there'd just be no me at all. The guy alive and walking around wouldn't be me. He'd be my brother.
Screw him. I like being alive.
edited because: I didn't realize this board had language filters. ;D
If you were never born, you wouldn't be aware of what you were missing and that you weren't alive.
to be honest with you, that terrifies me more than any negative consequence I face being trans. But that's just me.
Since I never actually answered the thread in my first post:
Having an understanding of what women go through. I'm sort of thankful that I've experienced sexism/misogyny first hand so having gained male privilege I can be responsible with it.