Just got off a telephone call with my cousin. I sent him an e-mail earlier tonight outing myself. As soon as I saw it was him calling all I could do was laugh. It went really well. Small mulligan in that he's gay so he struck me as a safe bet for coming out. Still, he wants to come visit me now so he can hang out with me as a woman. I have one female cousin and he says she's going to be thrilled to not be the only girl anymore. Hopefully, I really have that to look forward to.
Still, it might have been a "safe" play but I feel like I've got an aderline rush going on. Hope I can sleep.
Been a good weekend.
Quote from: Misato33 on September 09, 2012, 10:52:22 PM
Just got off a telephone call with my cousin. I sent him an e-mail earlier tonight outing myself. As soon as I saw it was him calling all I could do was laugh. It went really well. Small mulligan in that he's gay so he struck me as a safe bet for coming out. Still, he wants to come visit me now so he can hang out with me as a woman. I have one female cousin and he says she's going to be thrilled to not be the only girl anymore. Hopefully, I really have that to look forward to.
Still, it might have been a "safe" play but I feel like I've got an adrenaline rush going on. Hope I can sleep.
Been a good weekend.
Way to go, Misato. I'm glad it went so well. Coming out to LGB relatives and friends still count, since you never know how someone will react to you being T. Doesn't it feel great when you can finally share who you are?
Hugs,
Maddie
Unfortunately, he did verify that my mom will not take the news well based on his own experience. They get along great now but... Rumor has it the peace might be superficial. Her world, isn't the biggest. She loves "simple" to the point that word is a bane to my existence already. She has potential I think, but she needs to have the confidence to stand on her own two feet and she needs to think for herself. I'm not going to hold my breath for that to happen however.
At least this time I know without question or doubt that I am a woman, unlike when I tried coming out in 2000. I'm sure she'll throw being unable to give birth in my face again. Really what will be hardest for me will be not being a jerk about it and saying something cruel. I think that's where my cousin will be good for me. He has a real good humor when it comes to dealing with people who love simplicity, like my mother. Me, if I ever feel disrespected at all, it's like calling Marty McFly chicken as I just pop!
Oh and I was out while I was in school and I was living near full time. I was doing it. With that knowledge, I made my transition inevitable. If it didn't, the mental stress of the last months from going back in the closet for work sealed the deal.
Telling my cousin feels like a solid step forward and I needed to take some kind of step again. Feels nice.
Gay or straight doesn't matter, you took the plunge and it worked out well. It's good you have a female relative who looks likely to be able to act as a mentor.
Do you have any female friends who can't have kids? That would be a good answer to have ready for your mother's assertion that you have to be able to give birth.
Hope it keeps going well for you.
I know several women who can't have kids and she knows them too, so there is that.
Hope it goes well.