So over the past god knows how many days it's been absolutely pouring down rain. It got so bad that one of the main roads on my college bus route sort of collapsed on itself :-\
Which made my commute today absolutely horrendous...on the way there I made sure to set off really early and was still 20 minutes late to college. On the way back it was so much worse.
I set off from college at 3pm and arrived at the childminders for 4pm, then I waited for the bus home...no bus came...there were several other people waiting and wondering what was happening...I waited for around an hour until eventually a bus driver coming the other way (like the 10th one that had gone by I might add) stopped and shouted across to us that the buses were not running in that direction and we'd have to find some other way to get home.
At this point I called my sister, it would have been around a 20 minute drive for her. She refused to come and pick us up. This surprised me, I didn't think a 20 minute journey to pick up her brother and niece in the pouring rain would be that big of a deal.
We wondered in the rain for a while going from bus stop to bus stop looking for one that might be able to get us closer to home and hopped on a bus that got us to the next town over, where I then waited again for a bus to turn up that would take us the rest of the way. One eventually did show up and a ton of people tried to get on it...only for the bus driver to inform us that this bus was finishing for the day and once again we would have to find another way home.
I called my sister again, begged her to come pick me up, it would have been a 10-15 minute drive to the town we were now in, she still refused, didn't seem bothered and was very much of the opinion I would be fine and should just sort it out myself.
As you can imagine by this point Arisa was very cranky, tired and hungry. Which prompted another person waiting to offer to ring the bus company to see if they could offer a solution. One was offered, and I had to carry Arisa to an alternate bus stop where a diversion was being routed for a bus that would get us sort of close to home - she was too exhausted to walk any more.
The carrying and walking has really set off my back injury and I'm in absolute agony, Arisa was too tired to eat any dinner when we finally did make it home so she's gone to bed without anything to eat.
All of this...because it was too inconvenient for my sister to take a little drive which would have massively helped us out. I'm just so disappointed, I've always thought that if I was in trouble she would be there for me. Yet she couldn't manage such a simple favour.
I could be mad at the bus company for not providing clear announcements or a poster or something informing passengers what to do if they got stuck but I'm too overwhelmed with a huge feeling of being let down by my sister.
I apologise for the long post but I feel like I needed to air this out and maybe get some validation that my annoyance and disappointment isn't an overreaction.
Hugs to you. Really hope your back eases soon. Ten years from now, you and Arisa will tell the story about "the day we couldn't find a bus" and it will be a parent/daughter bonding experience.
It is so sad that she could not be bothered. That is crap.
But you got home eventually. But it is still crap.
I hope both of you are still in good health.
Something new along the same lines to add...on Thursdays I finish college late and can't make it to the childminders on time for her clocking off time, so I worked out an arrangement with my sister where she would pick her up and come and wait at my house for a bit until I get home. She said she was happy to do this when I first asked.
She has decided she is no longer willing to do this apparently. So I'm a bit stuck and not sure what I'm going to do tomorrow...or for the rest of the course :-\
I'm starting to wonder if this is some passive aggressive way of letting me know she's not happy that I've started T.
First off, I'm sorry you and your munchkin had to have that experience. I'm glad you got home, no matter how late, and that neither one of you was harmed.
Quote from: Jeatyn on September 26, 2012, 05:30:55 PM
I'm starting to wonder if this is some passive aggressive way of letting me know she's not happy that I've started T.
I would say it probably is either consciously or subconsciously, however, that is no excuse to punish her niece. It's really sad when people punish children because they don't like something their parents did. I certainly hope your sister realizes that her brother her niece are relying on her.
Hang in there man - you've made it through some rough patches before. You're resourceful enough to figure this one out too. I'll keep you two in my thoughts. :icon_hug:
I go to my friends when I need help. Family is those people I don't like that I have to be nice to on the holidays! Hugs, Devlyn
Luckily my child minder is an absolute gem ^_^ She's making a special exception to her clocking off time for me and to boot is dropping Arisa off at my house when I get home, all she asked was a couple of extra quid a week to cover fuel, even though she had to go the long way round today because of the diversions.
I let my sister know in a very polite way that I was disappointed and felt let down and she's in a mood with me now ::) jeez anyone would think I'd asked for a pony and then thrown a tantrum when she said no
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 26, 2012, 07:20:23 PM
I go to my friends when I need help. Family is those people I don't like that I have to be nice to on the holidays! Hugs, Devlyn
This is so very true for the majority of my family xD