I was at the opticians looking for new frames that were more female congruent that would look good on me. This is an area where I think a lot of FtM's who are visually challenged tend to skimp or overlook completely. I finally opted for the rimless frames because they lessened the "See, I'm wearing glasses" statement. The optician said "Guys go for dames with good looking frames!" :D
wow the rimless are the best for girls with glasses unless you want to go for a 60's/70's look which is also popular these days.
do post pics of the frame. my first rimless glasses was a wire framed purple rimless glasses - Love them like mad and it was love at first sight - it was like saw them and it was the perfect color for me since it's my favourite :)
here's a pic: http://i1268.photobucket.com/albums/jj569/Vibes6/DSC_0037_zps551c1e2d.jpg (http://i1268.photobucket.com/albums/jj569/Vibes6/DSC_0037_zps551c1e2d.jpg)
yup and guys sooo totally go for girls with with good looking frames :)
Mine look exactly alike except they are colorless, good style for women though. I noticed some ppl are buying the old Superman horned rims, ugh...ugly! My lady mail carrier got a new set of eyewear and asked my opinion. They were short ovals with horn rims, I was painfully honest with her and may find my mail in the mud puddle in the near future. She wasn't happy with my comments even though she was the one who asked. Guess it's like, "Honey do these jeans make my butt look fat?" :D ;D
The FtM forum is probably the wrong place for this thread, anyway I was curious about glasses and the impact that it has on each person's presentation and was hoping it would open up for people with eyewear to give thoughtful critique and helpful suggestions to those who might be style challenged in their choice of eyewear.
I must be the unluckiest guy when it comes to glasses. As a kid I would choose the most hideous models, and I was teased for years about having to wear them. I got my corrective surgery six years ago, but I was left with... 0,0 and 0,1, so I still wear glasses with one normal crystal and a corrective one, the days I am pretty tired or I need to fight with incredibly small text.
But as usual, I suck at choosing models:
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I though they would hide my ugly face, but they only make my nose look even bigger, as if I had those fake glasses with a fake nose and moustache. I tend to remove them as soon as somebody enters the office, since nobody knows that I had to use them for more than 20 years. I tend to go into stealth mode when it comes to them, too many bad memories.
And I guess I would need a new pair after transition...
In my avatar I am wearing my new glasses. They are a purple colored.
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Correct frames are always important!
I have two pairs, one Burberry and one Prada. Both are totally androgynous and say I'm into fashion. :)
It's totally doable to find frames that are classy looking and not hipster.
Here's the prada; VPR10FV (http://www.amazon.com/EYEGLASSES-VPR-10FV-ORANGE-VPR10FV/dp/B003JTOECY/ref=sr_1_4?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1351028680&sr=1-4&keywords=prada+glasses)
I don't want to bump in or offend anyone, but so far, I've only seen rimless glasses in men.
But I'll readily admit that I'm especially bad at noticing details and watching people, so it's possible that I've overlooked a ton.
In defense of rimless glasses I have to say that they don't hide pretty eyes and well sculpted and attractive eyebrows, and they don't make the statement that says, "I'm wearing eyeglasses!" That being said, there are some very attractive frames that also complement a the shape of a woman's face and in some cases work to draw one's gaze away from some other less than attractive feature. There are women who have managed to pick out frames that are perfect for them and then there are others who have absolutely no taste when it comes to eyewear.
Rimless can work for a lot of people. Some just can't get them. Lens thickness will limit the type of frames you can get. I can't get the rimless as I have the "Coke bottle bottoms" for lenses but it can be worked around.
Quote from: TessaM on October 23, 2012, 07:25:35 PM
I usually wear contacts, but when I do wear glasses I like to make them "visible."
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They look good on you Tessa, they neither hide your face or make you look squinty!
I have red frames which are pink on the back side. I absolutely adore them and I don't plan on replacing these frames any time soon.
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Funnily enough, I've seen a lot of girls in anime shows with red glasses.
I wear rimless feminine glasses and I'm also starting to wear contacts. As my optician said, the think about contacts is that you can wear sexy shades.
What was funny was I went in to get fitted for contacts and changed my name on their records at the same time, so of course everyone knew me as the new girl. As usual they have all been great. Especially one piece of advice, always take the contacts out before you go to bed, but if you get caught up with passion you should be safe keeping on your back. Mmm
What advice have you had from an optician?
Cindy
Quote from: Keaira on October 24, 2012, 12:21:46 AM
I have red frames which are pink on the back side. I absolutely adore them and I don't plan on replacing these frames any time soon.
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Funnily enough, I've seen a lot of girls in anime shows with red glasses.
Keaira,
They look good on you, they don't detract from your pretty face in any way! Nice smile, it will keep your face youthful as opposed to those who frown and look grumpy, because eventually the frown does permanent damage to potentially good looks!
I think I'm weird. I dislike most glasses shown here. ._.
Quote from: A on October 24, 2012, 04:19:19 PM
I think I'm weird. I dislike most glasses shown here. ._.
This begs the question, do you have to wear glasses yourself? If so, tell us about what you like or dislike about them. If you don't wear glasses I'm wondering why dump on those who do? C'mon let's hear it!
i don't need glasses, but occasionally wear color lenses. i wonder if i should start looking for some really cool styles, cyborg or something...
but i do wear sunglasses, some times i even need them in cloudy weather if the light is wrong for my eyes. and what a hassle it is to find some that suit me. seems like i always end up on the secret agent style, they're the only ones that don't look totally idiotic on me, no matter whether i present male or female. looks very good with a black coat and hat, and it's fun to hear that i look cool rather than cute some times.
Quote from: Shantel on October 24, 2012, 04:51:42 PM
This begs the question, do you have to wear glasses yourself? If so, tell us about what you like or dislike about them. If you don't wear glasses I'm wondering why dump on those who do? C'mon let's hear it!
I do wear glasses. I don't really like them (especially since they're falling apart a little - making them hold on until I socially transition), but they're all-rightish. They're rectangular, which is pretty much the only shape I like. Well, at the very least, I dislike round and oval glasses a lot. Doesn't leave much else in terms of choice. They have a metallic-coloured frame, which is okayish, with light blue ear thingies.
They were the only okay ones for guys. Glasses themselves, I dislike them. They're a hassle, and I seriously envy those who can see properly when showering or swimming, or even have a choice of wearing contacts. ._. (Apparently I can't, because my vision needs a geometrical correction, and contacts, which would rotate, wouldn't work.)
Now with the way your message is written it looks like you feel insulted, and it's likely that it's my fault. I apologise for that. I just felt like commenting, without thinking much. But people don't generally like comments like the last two I made.
As for styles I actually like... Discreet-ish metal frames like what I have are okay, but nowadays, I'm more leaning towards larger plastic frames for some reason. Well, for one, they just can't twist all the time and end up giving headaches - even though they often offer reduced peripheral vision, which can be annoying. I mostly prefer thin-ish rectangular shapes, but I also dislike it that my vision field is narrow in height, since I often look both up and down. And while I like plastic frames more nowadays, I never liked hipster-style and very large glasses (sorry Tessa!).
...Yes, you can guess that shopping for glasses is going to be a challenge.
I've worn glasses since I was around 10. I tried contacts (about 30 years ago), but decided it was just too expensive buying all the supplies to keep them clean. They weren't like today's contacts that you can wear for a month at a time.
I wear the glasses for distance and take them off to read, use the computer, etc. Strangely at 68 my eyes seem to improve each time I get new lenses.
As a kid I hated them, as an adult I just accepted the inconvience of always having to have them around.
I've worn glasses since I was 17. I hated it at first but after awhile, I liked how I looked with glasses rather than without. Contacts just seemed like a massive hassle to me and my fine-point coordination sucks too so that would have made it an even bigger hassle so I stuck with glasses and I haven't looked back.
Sarah Louise, that sounds even worse. >.<" Not only do you need glasses, but not all the time, so you have the manage the on and off stuff. Ouch.
As for me, I think I've worn glasses since the age of 3 or 4, when my parents said to look at the plane in the sky and I didn't see it. x3
Quote from: Laura91 on October 24, 2012, 06:43:10 PM
I've worn glasses since I was 17. I hated it at first but after awhile, I liked how I looked with glasses rather than without. Contacts just seemed like a massive hassle to me and my fine-point coordination sucks too so that would have made it an even bigger hassle so I stuck with glasses and I haven't looked back.
I tried contacts and they worked well at first but eventually i had a lot of eye watering and it became more trouble than it was worth. I think I have dry eye because they water a lot in the cool autumn air when I first go out in the morning. Got used to my rimless goggles, they look good and from a distance you wouldn't know I was wearing glasses anyway. I'm hoping they come out with lenses that don't attract dust.
I had contacts for quite a while. The big problem with them was I would fall asleep with the hard lenses in. Big No No. Ouch. :P They were not practical when one is working in a dusty place,full of sawdust. I am going to have to get a couple of new pairs soon. I don't like bifocals,and it's just as easy to have the two pairs and change them when I have to drive.
I fought getting bifocals for a long time. I had them once and I got a pain in my neck. But my eye doctor said that was because I was using them incorrectly.
This last pair are bifocals, and it took me about a week to get use to them. However now I am glad I have them. No changing glasses to drive or read. I just look through the part I need without moving my head.
I have both distance and reading problems so when I wear contact my right eye has my 'reading' contact and my left eye the distance contact. My glasses are gradated so I can flick my eyes up and down for reading or distance ant any level. I was surprised how quickly I got used to the contacts with different lenses in each eye.
But seemingly our brains are comparatively poor with handling sight so it compensates very quickly by ignoring stuff that doesn't make sense with what we have 'learned' as being normal.
It seems that the eye's lens changes shape when one gets older and the curvature becomes more radical making it difficult eventually to use even a soft contact as it refuses to adhere properly. The eye doctor commented about my cataracts and I went, "Whaaaat huuh?" Seems that everyone gets them, I didn't know I had them and frankly it's the least of my visual problems because I have macular degeneration..(boo-hoo!) My girlfriends understand that and submit to an occasional little friendly grope knowing that when I go blind I'll be able to identify them. >:-) :D
I was forced to go to lineless bifocals which do the trick, but getting used to them was interesting at first when I stepped out on the street and looked down it seemed as if the curb had jumped up in my face. Bifocal wearers need to move their head when looking down and not just the eyes or....surprise!!!
Quote from: Shantel on October 25, 2012, 09:17:45 AM
It seems that the eye's lens changes shape when one gets older and the curvature becomes more radical making it difficult eventually to use even a soft contact as it refuses to adhere properly. The eye doctor commented about my cataracts and I went, "Whaaaat huuh?" Seems that everyone gets them, I didn't know I had them and frankly it's the least of my visual problems because I have macular degeneration..(boo-hoo!) My girlfriends understand that and submit to an occasional little friendly grope knowing that when I go blind I'll be able to identify them. >:-) :D
I was forced to go to lineless bifocals which do the trick, but getting used to them was interesting at first when I stepped out on the street and looked down it seemed as if the curb had jumped up in my face. Bifocal wearers need to move their head when looking down and not just the eyes or....surprise!!!
It is not aesthetically pleasing, but...
http://www.superfocus.com/ (http://www.superfocus.com/)
Could it help?
Quote from: Apple Seed on October 25, 2012, 09:27:51 AM
It is not aesthetically pleasing, but...
http://www.superfocus.com/ (http://www.superfocus.com/)
Could it help?
Thanks sweetheart! I'm nowhere near the point where I have to wear "coke bottle lenses" yet. I did look at the site, gee they are butt ugly, though it was nice of you to post it. I did read the disclaimer at the bottom which says: " Superfocus glasses do not improve loss of vision caused by cataracts and retinal disorders (such as macular degeneration)."
Quote from: Shantel on October 25, 2012, 09:38:15 AM
" Superfocus glasses do not improve loss of vision caused by cataracts and retinal disorders (such as macular degeneration)."
Doh! I though they'd help with the bifocal thingy... Sorry.
You know, As a kid I always wanted to wear glasses, I though they were quite cool...
Just be careful what you wish for. It was hell for years, even in high schools with smaller kids calling me "p*to gafoso de m*erd*" from behind a fence. (Sorry, I'm not translating that). To be honest, glasses never suited me very well, but now my face looks empty without them.
I had to wear glasses since I was in the fifth grade, should have had them sooner. I ended up having to have surgery for cataracts a couple of years ago, and I just love not having to wear them full time. I can actually wear some nice sun glasses. I also had eyelid surgery which opened my eye up so my makeup looks better. For those of you on a budget and want to get designer glasses try eyebuydirect.com they have a lot of frames at less the half the cost.
Hugs Danielle
Quote from: DanielleJ on October 25, 2012, 10:32:52 AM
I also had eyelid surgery which opened my eye up so my makeup looks better.
Question, please: The one for being able to open your eyes more (more) or for removing excess skin (blepharoplasty)? I have a lof of extra skin (which I won't touch since I'll be doing FFS in a future), but the eyelids are a different story. They were already quite heavy, but after lasik corrective surgery one of them starts falling whenever I am tired (I put so much strain daily to keep them open that I already have forehead wrinkles). Tomorrow I'm calling for a consultation, since I was recommended to check that if it was muscle damage and dispel any possibility of myasthenia gravis before operating.
I don't know If they will simply calibrate the low eyelid to make it fall at the same level than the other, or if they can adjust the two of them in a higher position. I don't mind waiting for FFS and keep a manly face, but this is far too embarrassing, especially when going to a night party and somebody starts taking pictures at 5:00 o clock (or when in a boring meeting I look like the old chinese guy from Gremlins). But I guess I have weird eyes, deep set and with a big brow ridge, so the eyelids tend to get trapped inside the bone arch. Maybe it is better just ask them to leave them at the same height.
I had an upper blepharoplasty a few years ago. I had sleepy looking eyes like the actor Robert Mitchum, real houndog eyes! I hadn't realized that it had been as if I had been standing in a cave looking out for such a long while before that.
I don't wear glasses but do for the look. I like the way they look sometimes and their fun to wear.
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Quote from: Shantel on October 25, 2012, 11:13:14 AM
I had an upper blepharoplasty a few years ago. I had sleepy looking eyes like the actor Robert Mitchum, real houndog eyes! I hadn't realized that it had been as if I had been standing in a cave looking out for such a long while before that.
Agh. I was already checked at a plastic surgery clinic, and recommended to get a blepharoplasty, but I don't want double scars if I am going to have FFS in a future. I have so much skin that I usually trap it with the bro bone to avoid my eyelids going down.
I'll be getting a medical evaluation in december about what are the causes and what would be my options, but I'm looking to something like this:
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Adjusting the muscle with ptosis repair to be able to raise them more, but conserving the saggy skin (no blepharoplasty) since that could be needed for a brow lift (which is part of the forehead recontouring. That would be a nive fix that would allow me to keep going on for a few years without major surgeries.
All right, back to the topic...
I had a upper blepharoplasty for medical reasons to improve my peripheral vision. Most insurance will cover the cost if it is deemed necessary
I will ask to be checked but I need to wait until december
I don't know, but it is scaring me a lot. I always feel something strange inside and over the bad eye like tired), and looking now they are slightly vertically misaligned, which would be the cause of why I have difficulty focusing when trying to read.
Sh*t, I'm practically having a panic attack. I don't know what the heck they did to me on that surgery, but I am getting quite scared. Mix thix things with my BDD / hypochondria and the anxiety soars. Practically anything can make me enter panic mode lately.
Quote from: Apple Seed on October 26, 2012, 11:54:04 AM
I don't know, but it is scaring me a lot. I always feel something strange inside and over the bad eye, and looking now they are vertically misaligned, which would be the cause of why I have difficulty focusing when trying to read.
Sh*t, I'm practically having a panic attack. I don't know what the heck they did to me on that surgery, but I am getting quite scared. And I still have to wait a month to be checked.
Your eyes don't appear to be misaligned to me. Do try and not panic, best not think about it so much working yourself up like that, wait for your follow-up and bring up your concerns then.
Quote from: DanielleJ on October 26, 2012, 10:33:03 AM
I had a upper blepharoplasty for medical reasons to improve my peripheral vision. Most insurance will cover the cost if it is deemed necessary
Me too, I was almost running over pedestrians in the crosswalk with my car which is NOT NICE! My insurance covered the procedure.
Quote from: Shantel on October 26, 2012, 12:01:14 PM
Your eyes don't appear to be misaligned to me. Do try and not panic, best not think about it so much working yourself up like that, wait for your follow-up and bring up your concerns then.
Sorry, it was another of my panic attacks.
I checked against a mirror, and there it looks like one points slightly higher than the other, although it could be the strenght of the muscle pulling, who knows. Or even a visual correction after so many years with a bad posture including the head. I was not able to pass some focusing tests when obtaining my driving license, but they still gave it to me anyways (same as I always need some effort focusing to read or I see the things "floating". I need to keep calm. Anyways, nobody has noticed something like this in 6 years (except for the fallen eyelid)...
I can't believe I told my social security GP that I was having anxiety attacks over BDD and hypochondriac symptons, but he just told me to wait until the GD therapy and mention the other things there, since they would be able to redirect me.
It's been like this all my life, but lately, it has developed into full blown Body dysmorphic Disorder. Sometimes it is about male traits, others about perceived deformitities.
To be hones, I should have gotten that myopia. I did it partly because it was a trend, and also because I had been bullied for years because of my glasses. I had a bad experiencie with contact lenses and put it as an excuse to get it corrected.
Ok, it's true, I was almost blind before it, but...
Apple Seed, Take a big breath and relax, you are overworking yourself. Turn off the tape that's running in your head and give yourself a break dear!
Quote from: Ms. OBrien on October 24, 2012, 09:46:48 PM
I fought getting bifocals for a long time. I had them once and I got a pain in my neck. But my eye doctor said that was because I was using them incorrectly.
This last pair are bifocals, and it took me about a week to get use to them. However now I am glad I have them. No changing glasses to drive or read. I just look through the part I need without moving my head.
For me it's I do so much close up work that it's just as easy for me to keep my driving glasses in the car. Most of the stuff in the house I can recognize the things their just a bit fuzzy around the edges,just don't ask me the time as I can't always make out the numbers.
I was in my forties when I got my first pair of prescription glasses and was so angry about the thought that my vision was no longer 20/20 that I put them in my dresser drawer under my underware and didn't get them back out for about eight years. It seems that my arms were getting shorter or something because I couldn't hold things I was trying to read out quite far enough to focus properly. ;D Pride leads to self defeat!
I used to be an avid reader but now it seems to be work, so I got my spouse an Amazon Paperwhite e-reader and we can sit up in bed at night while she reads to me. (there's method to my madness)
I'm not real picky on glasses since I only need them for reading. My favorite were thin rims, but I broked them so now I'm just using my back up pair until I get around to replacing the others someday.
Glasses can be a lot of fun. I've been wearing glasses for most of my life. I presently have 12 pairs of regular single vision glasses, all very different from each other, in a wide variety of shapes and colors. I like to pick the glasses that match my mood. I also have 5 pairs of very nice sunglasses, each very different from the others. Most of the time I wear contact lenses though. I change my eye color pretty much daily.
I have blue contacts that I wear often. My gray contacts I wear about as often as the blue. I have some very bright green contacts that tend to draw a lot of attention... I don't wear those as often. I have hazel green contacts which I don't wear too often since they just get lost in my complexion. I'm thinking about trying honey colored contacts; I think they would be really nice. I'm also considering bright violet contacts. I've been mulling over a pair of contacts that are bright yellow with a ring of red around the yellow... for special occasions. I'm undecided on those.
My eye doctor loves to see me walk in the door of his office. Everytime I buy new glasses, I have a tendency to buy 4 pair at once... just because I love variety in eyewear.
Have fun with it! Eyewear can be a blast!
Hugs,
Miharu
Quote from: Shantel on October 26, 2012, 12:23:39 PM
Apple Seed, Take a big breath and relax, you are overworking yourself. Turn off the tape that's running in your head and give yourself a break dear!
Thanks. I'm going to fight a bit with my cable provider and play Halo, because If I don't relax soon... The less I sleep, the worse the eyelid gets. At this moment I look like big baby from Toy Story 3. I need to go back to papercrafting, it helped with being calm.
Actually, even with the big nose effect, I'm thinking that I always tend to put my glasses on important occasions, next to the suit pants, shirt and tie, just for looking cool. I think my current eyesight was something like 18/20, the last time they checked it five years ago. Less focusing distance, but at least I have stopped hitting lampposts when I need to leave them repairing (true story). My last accident was when the metallic rim of my last pre-lasic glases went up my eyebrow after hitting a half open door. 5 suture points. Ouch. Nowadays I'm extra careful and come to think about it... People get pissed of because I force them to wear security googles when doing some things.