I have just recently came out as a FtM to my boyfriend. He is completely un-phased by it and says he loves me anyhow, and that the gender I identify with doesn't matter in the slightest. I am happy about this, he even allows it to go to the bedroom ((which was already there before I came out to him)). But I was wanting to take it a bit further, I am wanting to be able to make myself look like a boy, and well you know. I just am not sure how to ask such things. He is already used to seeing me dress androgynous ((had been friends for awhile sense before we dated)), but not completely used to seeing me as the male me. I am trying to find a way to ease him into this without seeming off-putting or creepy, but I just already love the feel so much of being intimate as the male me, and being allowed to be dominate and such, but being able to physically appear as a male at the same time would do so much more for me.
Does anyone else out there already do this or think about it? If so what did you do? I am just looking for ways to open up better in this aspect. I know I want to, I just feel its very hard to.
It is so much easier for a mtf when it comes to that. Women can have a whole separate wardrobe just for the bedroom. And there is perfume and makeup. It's really easy to feel feminine. Guys usually don't do much more than just undress. You could try having an orgasm in 2 minutes and then roll over and go to sleep. Seriously though...maybe you could do a little role playing. Dress up like a cop or a fireman. And try to imagine you have a penis...For most guys that's all they think about. I'm sorry I don't have any good advice to give you. You would think I would know more having been in that role before.
Quote from: JulieC. on October 18, 2012, 12:24:57 PM
It is so much easier for a mtf when it comes to that. Women can have a whole separate wardrobe just for the bedroom. And there is perfume and makeup. It's really easy to feel feminine. Guys usually don't do much more than just undress. You could try having an orgasm in 2 minutes and then roll over and go to sleep. Seriously though...maybe you could do a little role playing. Dress up like a cop or a fireman. And try to imagine you have a penis...For most guys that's all they think about. I'm sorry I don't have any good advice to give you. You would think I would know more having been in that role before.
haha thanks hun, at least your post really made me smile. I did try some dominate RP and it pretty much worked out very well. He is very accepting and loving and even excited about the idea. Im honestly very lucky! I think the more comfortable I become being open to these things with him will make it easier. I guess Im just still at a stage where I am uncomfortable with myself and thats one of the large hitches ya know?