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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: MyronAviel on November 09, 2012, 10:53:58 PM

Title: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: MyronAviel on November 09, 2012, 10:53:58 PM
I'm posting this after a discussion with a good friend of mine. She said that I have a male body shape, other than my large chest. I've been told this before, as well. I'm not built like a female. However, my mother swears up and down that she had my chromosomes tested, and that I was absolutely XX. 

So, I have to wonder:

Does anyone here feel that even prior to HRT, they had a body like the gender they felt they were?
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: spacial on November 10, 2012, 05:32:39 AM
That's a universal feeling here you'll find. Even definitive.

But none-the-less, very distressing. Which is why we're here!
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: suzifrommd on November 10, 2012, 06:10:10 AM
Quote from: MerekAviel on November 09, 2012, 10:53:58 PM
Does anyone here feel that even prior to HRT, they had a body like the gender they felt they were?

I wish. I have a straight figure without even the hint of a waste. When I get an extra pound or two, straight to the belly. I had an eating disorder in my 20's because I wanted my midsection to look female, and I still watch my weight closely for that same reason.
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: Nero on November 10, 2012, 06:11:36 AM
Yes, except for the breasts. Especially if I gained weight. Men's clothes always fit better than women's. Doubt it has anything to do with being trans though.
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: JoanneB on November 10, 2012, 06:37:54 AM
I always had my mom's hips. When I first started becomming a chunky monkey there was plenty of fat being deposited in the breast area. I couldn't wear a men's watch because the bands are all way too big. All this on a 6ft tall semi big boned frame.

So yeah, you can have one or more characteristics of the opposite sex as well as the classics of your birth.

BTW a good female friend of mine was nearly 6 ft herself, big boned for a woman for sure (bigger than me I think!) with some masculine facial features, not much of a butt and good size breasts. She came from a family of giants, 3 brothers all well over 6 ft and built like trees. All complete opposites of their parents who were no taller than 5'8 and certainly not built. The only one out of 5 kids to come out close to the parents was her younger sister who barely topped 5'6".
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: Nero on November 10, 2012, 06:41:35 AM
Quote from: JoanneB on November 10, 2012, 06:37:54 AM
I always had my mom's hips. When I first started becomming a chunky monkey there was plenty of fat being deposited in the breast area. I couldn't wear a men's watch because the bands are all way too big.

Had the same in reverse. No hips and women's watches, bracelets, rings, etc. all had bands way too small. Annoying when I was a kid. Now it's great!  :laugh:
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: Sara Thomas on November 10, 2012, 09:08:22 AM
I do alright until it comes to my shoulders... they are a bit broad and lurking (which is accentuated by my scrawniness... :P).
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: MeghanAndrews on November 10, 2012, 09:27:34 AM
I think you really need to see someone in a bathing suit to judge shape. For me, I'm 5'5", I have small feet and my hands aren't too big. I can seem small from like a height and some features perspective, but my body naked is more boy than girl mainly because I have a huge ribcage. That's why you don't see me in a bunch of skintight clothes or showing off my skin. I'm self-conscious, definitely, but I consider it just being real about my situation. I don't really let it get me down or anything. I have a 34" ribcage below my breast but my shoulders are 40" and my hips are 38" right now. When I was 20 pounds lighter my shoulder were 39" but I'm kinda over it, lol. It is what it is, don't get to caught up in "I wish I looked like this" or "I wished I looked like that." Just try to accept what you have and if you have issues with it, cover up or accentuate/deaccentuate what you don't like. In the grand scheme of things, it's really not a big deal right :) Meghan
Title: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: Keira on November 10, 2012, 10:45:55 AM
Quote from: agfrommd on November 10, 2012, 06:10:10 AM

I wish. I have a straight figure without even the hint of a waste. When I get an extra pound or two, straight to the belly. I had an eating disorder in my 20's because I wanted my midsection to look female, and I still watch my weight closely for that same reason.

Interesting....I have the same thing, although I don't think it's an eating disorder yet.
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: MyronAviel on November 10, 2012, 02:42:42 PM
I can identify with never fitting women's clothing well. I have no hips, few female "curves", ect.

Other than that...I'm not entirely sure what to say at the moment, since I am not quite awake today.
Title: Re: Being Shaped Like The Opposite Sex
Post by: Zoey on November 12, 2012, 04:33:22 AM
Both sexes have always come in a variety of shapes, it's just sexual selection that has promoted the "hourglass figure" to become dominant in females, and the "hulking, broad-shouldered" shape to dominate in men (with a lot of help from the media). When I first went FT I used to sometimes wear a tightly cinched, cloth belt under my clothes to compress the bottom of my ribcage and give me a nice figure. I almost passed out a couple times, and had a hard time climbing out of the car without breaking a rib...but hey, I sure looked good!