Not a question anyone can really answer but I just need to vent. I haven't been on in a long time. Basically because of what my therapist did to me. Acting stupid like she didn't know what a T letter was. It basically was the last straw and I told my mom I was going to stop the transition thing because I couldn't take the pressure. At least not for now. I know these trans issues won't go away but fear of what would happen at work, feeling like I wasted my time for 5 months with this therapist and financial obligations just made me feel like right now, I just can't make it work...
Regardless. My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me for a guy she barely knows. We had been long distance and barely saw each other because of this. I understand. We both grew apart romantically. I started liking this girl at work. Like an idiot. Here's the situation...
1. She's pregnant.
2. She's a Christian.
3. She lives in a home for pregnant women that is also Christian.
She's very cool with me and I like her a lot. We basically gravitate towards each other at work. Lots of joking around. She made me this thing with my name on it and no one spells my name right but she was pointing out how she did. She's not with the guy who got her pregnant. But still...she likes guys. I feel like a man inside. But again, she's Christian. I don't have a penis. I'm not trying to pass. I don't have a lot going for me here. I am going to hang out with a friend this weekend and I invited her to go out with us. She seems like she wants to go. I just wanted to get to know her more and be with her in a situation where we don't have to stop talking because of customers! But again, I am an idiot. There's probably zero chance she likes me. I wish she did though. Why must I want someone I cannot have?
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Oh and I just tried binding. A while ago I purchased a binder from lesloveboat...wasted 72 dollars. It just makes a weird uniboob thing that looks bad. My breasts are too big to bind. I need to lose weight.
Another reason I like her so much is that she likes so many things that I never had in common with my ex. She has the same type of sense of humor that I do and she likes a lot of the same things that most people don't like. I just wish life was easier.
You don't want life to be easier. You don't build any character that way. If you two were meant for each other, it will happen, trust me on this one. And sorry about the uniboob! Hugs, Devlyn
First of all, I would like to say that this situation is strange, but not necessarily impossible. Just because she is a Christian does not automatically mean she will not be accepting. In fact, I am a Christian, as is my family, and my parents were perfectly accepting of me, as were all of my Christian friends. So that MAY not be an issue, though depending on the person, it might as well be.
But like Devlyn says, if it will happen, it will happen. And that's all there is to it. There is hope, though, trust me, man. Best of luck to you. If you two start getting serious, though, you definitely need to tell her and not live forever in stealth. You don't want to start a relationship based on half-truths.
Thank you both so much. You're right. I just have to have some faith that if it's meant to be, it will be. It's sort of backwards prejudice for me. I have been bombarded by hateful religions that I hate and think negatively about most religions. It's just as bad. I shouldn't assume this about her. But still, it worries me. I just need to figure things out more. My insurance does cover breast reduction. So hopefully I lose some more weight and I can get it. At least feel somewhat more comfortable with myself. Maybe I can be happy being andro?
I'm happy for you that your insurance covers some of the cost! That definitely makes things easier. You know what? For all you know, this girl could be the one, and she could be totally accepting of your process and be fully supportive of you. I really hope that for you, man. Best of luck to you.
If she stays friends as you transition, and accepts you are a bloke then you certainly stand a chance. You will just have to hang around I guess and deal with the issue of transition when it eventually comes up. If she sees you becoming more content as time passes, then at the worst you will have a close friend.
Karen.
sorry stewie but if you are viewed by her as a girl and she likes guys then you have no chance, and she sees you as a friend. thats not to say in the future she wont date you but now she will not. this situation reminds me of my ex i was friends with her while still presenting as female she found out i liked her she was casually seeing some else. once i started transtioning and people saw me as male she began to like me and we dated the reasons it didnt work arent all that relevant mostly it was high school and her mom was very controlling.
The only way to find out is to ask her. Enough said.
A single woman raising a child might not have a lot of free time for romance at any rate.
You don't need a letter for hormone therapy anymore, as far as I know.
As for the pregnant woman situation, I don't know what to tell ya.
Honestly, at this point, I'd say slim to no chance. She's straight and perceives you as female, she's pregnant and dealing with all of that including living in a home for pregnant women, and you work with her. It sounds like she's just trying to be friendly/make friends with you. I wouldn't pursue her at this time, or possibly ever.