OK when I came out as "gender confused " my dad sighed me up to as menny dating sites as he could find
I thort it may be what I need. but now I think that I am not ready for this and if it did go well how or when do I tell her I cross dress if I should do it at all he is now setting up a date for me
I do not even know if I want a girlfriend at all
What should I do next
This is not an easy choice to make, 1. You can do as or what your father wants and wishes making everyone else happy but will you be? I have been in your shoes a few times and some girls are not at all interested and want a way out and your the excuse as to why the relationship didn't work, or as I have experienced there are some women/girls who know that I am a woman inside a man's body insomuch they themselves become dominate and I always by nature become submissive to them, it's as if they want themselves to be the strong one like a man and it's ok unless they demean you because they know how to hurt a woman the best and if you say to a woman that you are a woman or identify yourself as a woman they can push all the right buttons and what ends up happening like in my past we end up in a bitch fights or fights. My best advice and it might not be right but it works for me, what I do is just be myself and cast off all manliness and act normal and if they roll with it and your feminine demeanor then you have found a potential friend and possibly woman who accepts you no matter what you do. I am not saying this is an easy thing to do but if your up front with who you are without words or explanations then your doing the best thing for you and her. I hope & pray my words help you I know it's a hard life for not just TG's but for every human on earth all trying to find happiness and I believe those who are honest and are true to themselves you will find true success.
If you're not ready to date, then you're not ready to date. Don't let your dad (or anyone, for that matter) tell you otherwise.
Don't know if you like boys or girls? No problem...just live with that for awhile, it'll sort itself out.
Don't know if you're a man or woman "on the inside"? That'll sort itself out too. Just live, do what you feel is natural for you. As time goes by, you'll find your place(s) on the gender/sexuality spectrum.
There's no rush. Have fun with it, as much as you can!
An update on this my mum found out what my dad was doing and a small argument between them making I'm real as if I did something wrong
I have her e mail address but do not know what to do this it
Thank you for the advice and kind words so far