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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Topic started by: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:19:55 PM

Title: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:19:55 PM
ive read the rules i dont think im breaking any anyway my question is it ok to out a trans girl if shes wronged you????
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: V M on December 06, 2012, 05:23:30 PM
In a word... NO, just don't associate with them anymore and move on with your life
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Shang on December 06, 2012, 05:24:39 PM
I it is never okay to out anyone regardless of what they've done to you.  It can completely shatter a person's life and land them out on the streets.  And it's just rude to do.
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Hikari on December 06, 2012, 05:28:36 PM
The only time it is okay to out someone is if you are talking to doctors,emts,etc and the transperson in question is unconscious.

In other words if you aren't saving someones life, it is probably not right.
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Simon on December 06, 2012, 05:31:36 PM
You're probably frustrated right now because you feel as if she has done you wrong. That is a completely valid emotion to have. However, it doesn't give you the Right to turn someone's life upside down or put their safety in jeopardy.

Being transgender isn't a game and you could very well cause her to be physically harmed and yes that would be your fault if you outed her and that occurred.

What should you do then? Be an adult and talk to her about what happened instead of looking for petty retribution. 
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Nero on December 06, 2012, 05:33:59 PM
No, it's not the right thing to do. Whatever she did has nothing to do with her being trans anymore than race has to do with someone's actions. She's a person who wronged you. Be the bigger person.
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:45:58 PM
i dont normaly associte with these people but i can no longer use irc because of this person ruining there life seems a good idea i dont ever show mercy if a life gets wreaked good
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Beth Andrea on December 06, 2012, 05:52:49 PM
Quote from: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:45:58 PM
i dont normaly associte with these people but i can no longer use irc because of this person ruining there life seems a good idea i dont ever show mercy if a life gets wreaked good

So let me understand this...you can't use irc--internet chat--because of this person...so you think ruining their life is a good idea?

What are you, 12?

eta: I've decided to just move on out of this thread. I don't come here to Susan's to interact with rage--either my own, or some random nitwit who can't even spell or use proper grammar.

Have a good day, all.
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:56:16 PM
Quote from: Beth Andrea on December 06, 2012, 05:52:49 PM
So let me understand this...you can't use irc--internet chat--because of this person...so you think ruining their life is a good idea?

What are you, 12?

Or a troll?
im very angry is what i am and hate this person with a burning passion we used to be friends
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Sarah Louise on December 06, 2012, 05:59:13 PM
Enough, tone your comments down Rage.  This is not acceptable behavior here.
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Beth Andrea on December 06, 2012, 06:00:12 PM
Quote from: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:56:16 PM
im very angry is what i am and hate this person with a burning passion we used to be friends

I understand that you're angry.

You need to understand that outing someone can lead to LETHAL consequences. It's not just a game of tit-for-tat, someone could actually DIE from your words.

And you say you used to be friends? A friend would never betray this highest secret, no matter what the reason. A TRUE friend would keep that secret, even to his/her grave, NO MATTER WHAT the other person might have done.

I don't know...sometimes words fail me. Silence is the better way at that time.

Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Constance on December 06, 2012, 06:00:55 PM
Gwen Araujo "wronged" someone once. She was outed and it led to her murder.

Don't be that guy.
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Simon on December 06, 2012, 06:01:44 PM
Quote from: rage on December 06, 2012, 05:56:16 PM
im very angry is what i am and hate this person with a burning passion we used to be friends

Ok, I'm going to ask the question nobody else has. Not that it would make it ok for you to do that to her no matter what she did...but out of curiosity, what did she do to you?
Title: Re: is it ever ok to out a trans girl
Post by: Sarah Louise on December 06, 2012, 06:02:48 PM
Topic locked as inappropriate for a Support Site.