Okay. So I am new here, and I said a little about myself in my introduction post, but I want to go into a little more detail. Maybe someone can help me.
So I don't know much about my birth, having grown up with adoptive parents. They have pretty straight forward veiws of gender; You have male and female and a few hermaphrodites. When I was growing up anything else was not talked about. They acknowledged lgb but not t, and even questions on lgb were discouraged. They are really lovely people but I feel they cant help me.
I feel strongly that I am both male and female inside. It's not a simple desire to have the best of both worlds as some people have said, or a fleeting fancy, but ever since my middle teens I haven't felt completely comfortable being female. For years I'e secretly experimented with clothing and things and find I like to wear a mix. Sometimes I feel inside that I may be a person who might be intersexed, or who should start a transition surgery and go part way.
I also go to a counsellor who says I could be both, but other then that I'm clueless as to what to do. I would like to know if anyone feels like this or knows what I can do
I can speak from experience and say that i also feel male and female, mentally for sure. I also did find out I have an intersex condition. I don't feel completely comfortable living as male anymore. For me I have spent the last 40 years living as male and now have wanted to live as female.
There are a lot of factors involved here, you could be Intersex, or just transgender, or gender fluid and want to look androgynous or go back and forth, or go all the way one direction. You will need a good therapist/and or doctor to help you sort it out. Also look here and you will find all colors of the rainbow. (I happen to see myself as both intersex and transgender and genderfluid)
Thank you for the advice. I am nervous to look for a doctor but I will try and find one and a gender therapist. I feel like I need to explore weither I am intersexed, I just hope I can find a good doctor. How do people around you cope when you tell them, if I may ask without sounding rude?
I feel the same way,Kit.Some days I feel male,others female (I'm technically female,but feel more male lately).I'm also trying to figure out exactly what I want to do.For now,I just dress according to whatever gender I feel like.If you need to talk,feel free to PM me. :)
Thank you for your reply. Both helped me make what I consider to be a big step in my journey. It's great to know people feel like I do and accept me
You're welcome! It is really great to know that others feel like this.Everyone here has been really accepting,too,so I'm pretty sure that you'll be able to find all the support you could ever want here. :)
Quote from: Kit.the.Kat on December 23, 2012, 10:20:15 PM
I would like to know if anyone feels like this
Yup. Have you looked at the androgyne section of the forum?