I usually don't make New Year's resolutions, but I think this year, I am going to resolve to go places by myself if I have no one to go with, talk to a gender therapist, actually go to get a physical, and work on bulking up my arms/shoulders.
What about you guys/girls?
I'm leaning towards making quitting smoking a resolution this year. I too usually don't make them either.
My new years resolution is to have better posture! :D
Quote from: Jennygirl on December 24, 2012, 01:01:04 PM
My new years resolution is to have better posture! :D
Ah yes, I need to work on that too!
Quit smoking, eat loads more estrogen, go fulltime.
Continue quitting smoking. I'm actually almost up to a week smoke free. If I'm still not smoking by the new year, I'd make one to keep that up throughout the year.
Get more fit. Get less scared.
Quote from: Karen on December 24, 2012, 01:14:39 PM
Continue quitting smoking. I'm actually almost up to a week smoke free. If I'm still not smoking by the new year, I'd make one to keep that up throughout the year.
Keep it up! I can't get past the first couple days, I keep on freaking out too hard!
I never make new years resolutions but this year I'm determined to stick to it. I'm going to talk to my parents, talk to doctors and hopefully after I leave college start my transition. This is my hopes anyway, if they fail, I'm going to join the gym and definitely stick to it.
Joey
Quote from: natastic on December 24, 2012, 02:36:46 PM
Keep it up! I can't get past the first couple days, I keep on freaking out too hard!
I used to have that problem too. The second day was always my downfall. Tip: the more you quit, the easier it gets. Really it's the more you quit consecutively, the easier it gets. Go as long as you can once a week and each week you'll last longer until you just quit. It also helps to make a mental connection about quitting. Each time I did it, I destroyed 2-3 packs that hadn't even been opened yet. Eventually the thought of throwing $20 in the trash everytime I tried to quit kinda got to me. I was at 1.5-2 packs a day and went straight to cold turkey this way.
I never have new year resolutions. If I ever want to change something, I make a new second resolution. :P
My spouse and I make 1 New Year resolution together every year, and we help each other to stick to it. We have declared 2013 to be the Year of Appreciation for us. We resolve to look attentively together for things to appreciate all year long. We are excited about the coming year!
I've decided to throw out the role that made me feel all dead inside and be myself with everyone, no matter if I've spoken to them about trans stuff or not. I am very, very, very tired. This Christmas is hard. I'm feeling very empty, and to hell or high water, I am not going to continue suffering when the next Christmas arrives. I feel I am suffocating and I ended up doubting myself and my right to feel the way I feel. This will not continue.
Quote from: Phoeniks on December 24, 2012, 04:19:20 PM
I've decided to throw out the role that made me feel all dead inside and be myself with everyone, no matter if I've spoken to them about trans stuff or not. I am very, very, very tired. This Christmas is hard. I'm feeling very empty, and to hell or high water, I am not going to continue suffering when the next Christmas arrives. I feel I am suffocating and I ended up doubting myself and my right to feel the way I feel. This will not continue.
I'll raise a fist to this. I'm right there with you.
Quote from: natastic on December 24, 2012, 04:28:00 PM
I'll raise a fist to this. I'm right there with you.
Thank you. I hate that I have so little courage with my relatives, I just feel weak and a victim and even suicidal, and like I have no other way and nothing better is waiting for me. Nothing like good old self-doubt. I'm so happy I don't live like that full-time anymore.
Quote from: Phoeniks on December 24, 2012, 04:33:52 PM
Thank you. I hate that I have so little courage with my relatives, I just feel weak and a victim and even suicidal, and like I have no other way and nothing better is waiting for me. Nothing like good old self-doubt. I'm so happy I don't live like that full-time anymore.
I am riddled with self-doubt. It's a really, really, REALLY hard, REALLY ingrained pattern of thoughts and behaviors to change.
I hope the new year brings you more and more relief....I know how it can be so, so hard to be assertive and confident about who you are, especially to those who have known you the longest -- who are we to tell our family that their perceptions of us are fundamentally flawed?
I'll tell you who we are -- we are our g*dd*mn selves, and the more you get honest with people about it the harder it is to cram yourself back into an empty shell.
Finally, I do hope that you don't take a page out of my book when it comes to suicide or self-harm -- one should try the whole "talk about it" thing BEFORE you do anything. I now enjoy some gnarly scars all up and down my wrists and arms. Interesting talking point, when new people see them, however. Oh silver linings.
Happy holidays and such.
I'm already working on one of my resolutions (exercise). The other one is to get on HRT before the year's end. :3
I usually don't make New Year's Resolutions because I never follow them. However, since I'm supposed to be graduating next year, I feel that I should try to make some.
1. Get my license
2. Get a job
3. Start the process of getting a dental implant
4. Get a bank account
5. See my top surgery fund increase
6. See my therapist more often
A lot of this still should happen as a result of goal 2.
1. Pass Anesthesia class.
2. Get certified as a veterinary technician.
3. Get into a clinic.
4. Get my ferrets. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
5. Oh and try again to quit smoking.
Exercise more! Patiently wait for my SRS
Winning! https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,132470.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,132470.0.html)
I'm adding a second one too, to gain at least 10 more pounds on top of the 8 pounds I've already put on. Quitting smoking should help with that too.
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on December 24, 2012, 07:24:46 PM
Winning! https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,132470.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,132470.0.html)
Considering your chances of winning the megaball jackpot are 1 in 135,145,920, I wish you the best of luck. *Blows good fortune Devlyn's way*
Well, thanks, but I play so the people here can get a cup of coffee, sign on, and check our losing numbers like everybody else. We may be transgender, but we can have a sense of normalcy and fitting in. I have a 100% chance of doing that. Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: DianaP on December 24, 2012, 07:33:14 PM
Considering your chances of winning the megaball jackpot are 1 in 135,145,920, I wish you the best of luck. *Blows good fortune Devlyn's way*
I think you should just bet a few hundred million dollars that you can successfully navigate an asteroid field, since those odds are only 3,720 to 1.
Making it legal to be trans.
Woah, where do you live that being trans is illegal?
Quote from: DianaP on December 24, 2012, 11:02:45 PM
Woah, where do you live that being trans is illegal?
Denmark.
Unless you are totally binary male\female from the 60th it is really imposible (other than if you change who you are) to get help. The only way I can get T right now is to get it illegally and that could get me in jail. That means I could get in jail because I want to be happy and not kill my self. That I translate to it to be illegal to be trans.
Another new years resolution, become wiser about when to buy and trade in video games. I consident myself fairly proficient in that art right now but after getting burned by a Christmas sale (which I should have expected), it just shows that there is more I can learn in the art of saving money.
Then again, goal 2 would help the wounds not hurt as much lol.
Quote from: DianaP on December 24, 2012, 11:02:45 PM
Woah, where do you live that being trans is illegal?
The Vatican!
Keep saving for top surgery and start lifting weights after I fully heal from my hysto.
I am also going to add another resolution: eat more protein. (I am big on eating fruits/veggies, but I am bad at gettin meat/tofu/other protein sources in)
I also now have an opportunity to go somewhere by myself, I got some movie tickets for Christmas and I have no one to go to the movies with (or at least anyone who'd be interested in see Les Miserables).
Learned hand, you HAVE to go see it, Les Mis is by far my favorite musical and the movie really is just as great imo!
My new years resolution is to definitely eat more vegetables...I eat tons of fruit but tend to only eat 1 or 2 servings of veggies a day. And I would really like to get involved volunteering for something/somewhere on a regular basis with my son. This year we volunteered for the salvation army bell ringing 3 times, and he did a great job...he's only 4 but I would really like to instill in him the need to give back and help others. So on that note, if anyone has any suggestions, they would be most welcome!
Good luck to everyone in their resolutions, I know you all will do well!
spring, go to Mulchfest, if your town has it. What you do is you shred old Christmas trees in a wood chipper and spread the mulch around the public parks. :)
Quote from: spring0721 on December 29, 2012, 09:22:21 PM
Learned hand, you HAVE to go see it, Les Mis is by far my favorite musical and the movie really is just as great imo!
My new years resolution is to definitely eat more vegetables...I eat tons of fruit but tend to only eat 1 or 2 servings of veggies a day. And I would really like to get involved volunteering for something/somewhere on a regular basis with my son. This year we volunteered for the salvation army bell ringing 3 times, and he did a great job...he's only 4 but I would really like to instill in him the need to give back and help others. So on that note, if anyone has any suggestions, they would be most welcome!
Good luck to everyone in their resolutions, I know you all will do well!
I was planning on going today, but then the "one to three inches" of snow the weatherman promised in the evening has turned out to be more like eight inches which started in the morning and is still coming down heavily, so I just had a relaxing day at home with the dog. I think Les Mis is my favorite too, I wasn't too impressed with the latest movie version of the Phantom of the Opera (still good though), so I am glad this one is just as good as the stage version.
Back when I was in Florida, I volunteered to pull invasive plant species out of a freshwater lake with a group of people. It was
so much fun, once the weather gets warmer that could be a fun volunteering job for you two if they have something like that around and your son is good in water. There was a few people there with really young children. The group was called "Hands on Orlando" and they have a whole list of various things that you could volunteer for on a weekly basis. I think a lot of cities have similiar volunteer groups.
Quote from: natastic on December 24, 2012, 02:36:46 PM
Keep it up! I can't get past the first couple days, I keep on freaking out too hard!
I actually quit smoking while I was in the service. In those days a carton of smokes at the PX was $2 (yes that's right), so it wasn't much of a financial burden, but I got tired of the crud in my throat in the morning. I had tried to quit several times by cutting back and tapering off, but it just made me want the cigarettes more. Finally in disgust I told myself that if my body wanted cigarettes, cigarettes was what it would have. I spent an entire three day weekend chain smoking. I literally used one match all day, and lit one cigarette from another all day till I went to bed. By the third day I was completely overdosed on cigarettes and the next morning I couldn't bring myself to light one, and have never wanted a cigarette since. That was over 35 years ago.
Quitting smoking is number one! Cut way back on gambling, and eating healthier.
To see 2014.
Normally, I don't make resolutions, but I finally have something that I must do this year:
Exercise and workout to build chest muscles for top surgery.
Mine is to not be cheated on. Joke :p (Although it would be appreciated...).
I want to change my attitude; to be more productive and see things through that I decide I want to do.
I need to spend a year doing things for myself. (Not that I wont still do things for other people).
Put on healthy weight.
- Play at least an hour of piano every day when possible. I've been so stressed out over this year that I've been seriously slacking.
- Start reading for pleasure in English again. Reading has become a language study exercise for me over the last five years or so, and while reading novels in foreign languages is amazing and fascinating, I really miss reading in my native language.
- Attain conversational fluency in Japanese, continue to improve my French, and make a start on Korean.
- Speak less English and more Japanese, even if this means consciously hanging out less with other exchange students and more with my Japanese friends.
- Waste less time online. I don't mind writing on forums, reading interesting things, or even chatting with friends on Facebook, but the constant cycle of browsing the same ten or so sites and not really accomplishing anything, which used to be such an efficient way of keeping my mind off gender dysphoria, is now a bad habit that is stopping me from really going out and living as much as I should. I'd like to kick it if at all possible.
- Grow boobs. Fairly self-explanatory, I suppose, and one resolution I've begun a little ahead of time. :D
- Find out just who it is that I'd like to be, and just where I want this journey to take me. For the longest time, I was so focused on wanting to be "a girl" that I never really had a clear image of what sort of girl I wanted to be. Ultimately I guess I wasn't really bothered, because I was convinced that being any sort of girl would be better than being a boy. Now, though, I'm on HRT, things are changing, and it's dawning on me that just being a girl isn't enough. I have to work out what sort of girl I'm going to be. :D
- Enjoy twelve whole months of a body full of oestrogen, safe in the knowledge that my body will only grow more feminine from here on out. Goodness knows I've waited long enough.
- Continue to be thankful for all the amazing fortune I've had since I took the fateful decision to come out in February of 2011.
Yes, I need to start studying Portuguese again.
Lol, my list of resolutions keeps getting longer! :D
At this moment, I think "sleep more" is a huge one for me.
Quote from: Eleanor on December 30, 2012, 03:40:18 PM
- Find out just who it is that I'd like to be, and just where I want this journey to take me. For the longest time, I was so focused on wanting to be "a girl" that I never really had a clear image of what sort of girl I wanted to be. Ultimately I guess I wasn't really bothered, because I was convinced that being any sort of girl would be better than being a boy. Now, though, I'm on HRT, things are changing, and it's dawning on me that just being a girl isn't enough. I have to work out what sort of girl I'm going to be. :D
Eleanor! That is profound! So true! That really got me to thinking about the same thing. Thank you!