Looking for Love in 2013? Five Things to Consider
December 31, 2012 by Matt Kailey
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The holidays can be a rough time for trans people who are feeling alone and lonely, and if you're one of those people, you might be making a New Year's resolution to find romance in 2013. And while no one ever called me the world's greatest lover (although I'm not aware of excessive complaints), I do have a few things for you to consider if a new relationship is one of your resolutions:
1. A storybook romance is not the end-all and be-all of your life. If you grew up with fairy tales and happily-ever-after endings, you might feel left out, or even like a loser, if you are not happily hitched in one form or another. But remember that the Western cultural model of a two-person, monogamous (and usually heterosexual) relationship is just that – one model.
A society decides what it needs and wants from its citizens, and then it propels them in that direction – through advertising, movies, television, and cultural storytelling. In Western society's eyes, a romantic relationship between two people ensures a particular societal structure, order, and organization. It helps keep the gears humming and moves things along smoothly.