so from about 3 months on t i started waking up "happy" ( in my boxers) it started out as only once or twice a week now i'm six months on t and it's almost every single morning that i'm having to "take care" of myself sometimes 2 to 3 times a day i'm hoping it evens out soon, till then it looks like i'm, "wacking the weasel" :P
And here I thought this thread was going to be about lack of dysphoria while wearing male jammies. ::)
Quote from: AlexD on January 11, 2013, 07:53:11 PM
And here I thought this thread was going to be about lack of dysphoria while wearing male jammies. ::)
off topic totally - but I can't wait to sleep in nothing but boxers after top surgery
Quote from: spacerace on January 11, 2013, 08:05:40 PM
off topic totally - but I can't wait to sleep in nothing but boxers after top surgery
i hear that and second it
Quote from: spacerace on January 11, 2013, 08:05:40 PM
off topic totally - but I can't wait to sleep in nothing but boxers after top surgery
Quote from: Justin 21 on January 11, 2013, 08:07:56 PM
i hear that and second it
Thirded! Can't wait for this ;D
Quote from: Justin 21 on January 11, 2013, 07:40:06 PM
so from about 3 months on t i started waking up "happy" ( in my boxers) it started out as only once or twice a week now i'm six months on t and it's almost every single morning that i'm having to "take care" of myself sometimes 2 to 3 times a day i'm hoping it evens out soon, till then it looks like i'm, "wacking the weasel" :P
LOL...yes, you're a normal guy. Almost every man under 60 wakes up with "morning wood."
And young guys </= 30 often have to "do themselves" at least once a day.
You'll never look at other men the same now...
Ha ha, I know what all of you do in the mornings...;)
Quote from: Beth Andrea on January 11, 2013, 10:18:18 PM
LOL...yes, you're a normal guy. Almost every man under 60 wakes up with "morning wood."
And young guys </= 30 often have to "do themselves" at least once a day.
You'll never look at other men the same now...Ha ha, I know what all of you do in the mornings...;)
I will nevar!!! I'm not going to do that ever :(. I'm unsure if this is because of my asexyness or dysphoria overload. Please T. Do
not betray me >:(
Quote from: AlexD on January 11, 2013, 07:53:11 PM
And here I thought this thread was going to be about lack of dysphoria while wearing male jammies. ::)
Um, you don't have to sleep in anything, you know. Heck, I sleep nude. :)
OP, you now understand why men are always so horny. :laugh:
Quote from: spacerace on January 11, 2013, 08:05:40 PM
off topic totally - but I can't wait to sleep in nothing but boxers after top surgery
I do that now and I haven't had top surgery yet. My house and I'm going to be comfy. You should go ahead and do it. Cold sheets feel great on bare skin.
I don't get "wet dreams" that often or whatever you're referring to. I actually would get them occasionally Pre-HRT because I had people who were intimately interested me at the time. I don't have anyone like that now, and I think my subconscious mind knows better than to subconsciously get my hopes up. As far as thinking about being intimate with strangers or visuals of strangers, it usually does nothing for me. I do get turned on a lot, but it's usually pretty aimless and lately I feel pretty poorly about myself afterwards.
Quote from: Simon on January 12, 2013, 01:23:07 AM
I do that now and I haven't had top surgery yet. My house and I'm going to be comfy. You should go ahead and do it. Cold sheets feel great on bare skin.
Ditto, good sir!
Quote from: Simon on January 12, 2013, 01:23:07 AM
I do that now and I haven't had top surgery yet. My house and I'm going to be comfy. You should go ahead and do it. Cold sheets feel great on bare skin.
That's exactly how I feel. I don't understand why people wear clothes when they're alone in their own houses. ???
Quote from: JasonRX on January 12, 2013, 01:46:56 AM
I do get turned on a lot, but it's usually pretty aimless and lately I feel pretty poorly about myself afterwards.
For being human?
Quote from: JasonRX on January 12, 2013, 01:46:56 AM
I don't get "wet dreams" that often or whatever you're referring to.
I can count on one hand how many of those I've had in over 40 years of T exposure... most were in early adolescence. I think my ex (ciswoman) has had more than I have.
Not wanting to derail this from the joy of FTM wood, but I know that uninvited erections were a great source of dysphoria for me, one that I was open about with my partner, even before coming out to her totally. It really bothered me that she would interpret that physical response as an expression of desire for sex, when it was something I could not control, and I felt it got in the way a great deal with being intimate in a less aggressive and (or me) icky way. Tried many times to discuss it and find ways to keep it out of her assumptions, because it would often lead to her turning away from cuddling that I emotionally wanted and needed so much more than something interpreted as overtly sexual.
Maybe I need to start a separate thread for this, given that it's likely to go somewhere very different than this thread has been? PM me if anyone else wants to discuss this in any detail?
Quote from: DianaP on January 11, 2013, 10:57:34 PM
Um, you don't have to sleep in anything, you know. Heck, I sleep nude. :)
yeah another naked-sleeper.
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for the topic, I dont get morning boners anymore, because I wake up during the evening/night and sleep the morning. generally I more get it during nights whem im about to sleep but somethimes that "night" would be considered early morning for someone.. so.. maybe?
maybe I should try to change my day pattern to something more normal XD
Elspeth, I am guessing that all the things that make an ftm happy (not using this word esp in the way that the OP did) would make an mtf unhappy and vice versa. It's the nature of being trans. I always think it is quite ironic, esp since I have an mtf girlfriend.
BTW, I like being in boxer briefs without anything else, but don't like nudity even by myself because of dysphoria. Not worry about anybody else seeing me or something. There is also the evil mirrors.
--Jay
Wow I could never sleep naked!! Then again I only wear winter cloths all year around and unless in the bath I have socks one :P
I must say this topic reminds me why I was so glad to be rid of happy mornings :laugh:
Quote from: aleon515 on January 12, 2013, 01:00:30 PM
Elspeth, I am guessing that all the things that make an ftm happy (not using this word esp in the way that the OP did) would make an mtf unhappy and vice versa. It's the nature of being trans. I always think it is quite ironic, esp since I have an mtf girlfriend.
Agreed. So much so, apparently, that my attempt to open a complementary thread (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,133665.0.html) is being treated with resounding silence. No great surprise there, there are lots of things we don't like to dwell on.
C'est la vie. Perhaps someone will find it in time, and respond when the moment is right for them?
I'm not sure if this is a just a statement on morning wood or a question on when it evens out so....
My sex drive hasnt decreased but i've just gotten used to it like i used to jerk it like 2-3 times a day up until like 6 months and now i only have to do it a couple times a week.
and yeah sleeping in just boxers is great. i cant sleep with clothes on they're too constricting and hot, though i could never sleep nude, too much dysphoria.
Quote from: Elspeth on January 12, 2013, 04:21:02 PM
Agreed. So much so, apparently, that my attempt to open a complementary thread (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,133665.0.html) is being treated with resounding silence. No great surprise there, there are lots of things we don't like to dwell on.
C'est la vie. Perhaps someone will find it in time, and respond when the moment is right for them?
It's kind of funny. Us guys will spend hours talking about various packers and prosthetics. A mtf friend of mine can't get the slightest straight answer on breast implants.
I guess it means via la difference. :)
--Jay
I am SOOOOO happy this isn't something i have to deal with anymore, years of waking up with that annoyance are finally behind me. I had not even thought about it until like two weeks ago when one of my good friends made a joke about morning wood and then I said "huh...i think its been nearly 7 or 8 months since I had to deal with that..." he looked at me like WTF?!...it was funny to me =)
Quote from: aleon515 on January 13, 2013, 10:25:35 PM
It's kind of funny. Us guys will spend hours talking about various packers and prosthetics. A mtf friend of mine can't get the slightest straight answer on breast implants.
I guess it means via la difference. :)
--Jay
As in others are unwilling to share information?
@Deven, yeah pretty much.
--Jay
Quote from: DianaP on January 12, 2013, 07:55:30 AM
For being human?
No, because of body dysphoria and overall loneliness.
Quote from: aleon515 on January 13, 2013, 11:39:12 PM
@Deven, yeah pretty much.
--Jay
Oh, interesting. Didn't know.
I remember my ex-roommate who's an mtf saying something about a new kind of material that's lighter than silicon, but more durable and doesn't fall apart in the body, but still needs to be replaced every decade(?) or something. But that's as much as I know if you want to throw that out there to your friend. Haha, I'll stop now as this isn't the thread for it. (Be cool if some of us guys can just give away our "extra fat." FAIR TRADE!)
Quote from: Deven on January 13, 2013, 11:47:59 PM
Oh, interesting. Didn't know.
I remember my ex-roommate who's an mtf saying something about a new kind of material that's lighter than silicon...
My impression has been that there's such a widespread sense of risks and negative impacts from breast implants that, speaking just for myself, and assuming I had had them, I wouldn't want to say anything to endorse them, for fear that I was recommending something toxic. Also, the publicly available info on implants (and their drawbacks) is pretty widely available in the press available to ciswomen and transwomen alike. Many of us, not having had implants yet (and many of us taking a "wait and see" attitude) often just don't have much personal insight to add to what's already widely available. Whereas issues surrounding packing and more complicated implants seem to come up (forgive the double entendre) much earlier in transition for FTMs -- I've been discussing them openly with (or at least listening to) my son about implants (not a lot about packing, but he doesn't ask me about prosthetic breasts either) ever since he made it clear he's trans, and he is presently at the presenting without top surgery stage, sans testosterone.
I don't know for sure whether this is as true as it once was, but most MTFs I've known tend to drop off the support forums once they've gotten to a point where their main concerns are dealing with life as a woman, unrelated to trans-specific concerns. If I encounter them online at all, they are usually, except for some activists, presenting themselves as female and not calling attention to their trans-ness.
Practically speaking, if I were looking for insights on implants, I'd probably look to a more general forum where women of all kinds were more likely to post, since that would almost certainly be a fairly active forum with many, many examples and a fairly open willingness to share and compare notes?
Maybe there's a by-product of female socialization going on here, just a little too? Even though cismen do sometimes also need implants, its probably something a lot of them, being socialized male and discouraged from showing "weakness" might tend to avoid discussing to anything like the degree that women are willing to discuss breast implants, something that's a lot more common among cis-women, even if it remains a little controversial, it's still discussed
a lot.
It was forms not implants.
--Jay