Non-binary: An introduction to another way of thinking about identity
Do not assume you can tell someone's gender identity just by looking at their gender presentation.
By Sky Yarlett Published 18 January 2013 9:35
http://www.newstatesman.com/lifestyle/2013/01/non-binary-introduction-another-way-thinking-about-gender (http://www.newstatesman.com/lifestyle/2013/01/non-binary-introduction-another-way-thinking-about-gender)
But, if you start thinking about gender and what it means to move across genders and how we present our gender identity, imagine what it would be like to remove the idea of gender completely – to exist beyond or between the binary.
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Like other trans people, non-binary people sometimes experience a sense of dysphoria (the sense of their body being wrong in terms of sex) but it doesn't necessarily correlate to firm ideas of "male" and "female" in the same way that it does for some trans women and men.
As part of a non-binary identity, gender may be a more fluid concept, so the idea of a "fixed" gender would not be fitting. Because of this fluidity, someone's identity and how they see themselves in the world might change over time.
If you exist beyond or between the binary of male/female or man/woman, then the use of common pronouns or titles may not feel comfortable for you, (Mr/Miss/he/she). I am a firm believer that while language is sometimes seen as set, it is in fact malleable, and can and should be used to adapt to new identities. In the case of non-binary, it is possible to use Mx or M as a title, and while used sometimes in the plural sense "they" is usually the easiest pronoun to use, while some do choose other pronouns to suit their identity.