How long do you like your hair to be? How was your hair when you were younger? Did you like it or not?
I seem to be in a minority with trans guys but I hate short hair. It's not for me. I feel really gross with short hair. When I was fourteen I got my hair cut for the first time, into a pixie cut. I thought it was pretty sweet and honestly I'd probably have short hair if my hair was naturally straight. Alas my hair is curly.
Most men I know have fades and buzzcuts, super short hairstyles like that. I wouldn't cut my hair that short until I start balding; when I get into the later stages of balding I'll probably either get a small afro or just cut everything off. I have a rather large afro right now but I'm still growing it out. I aim to have dreads or braids past my shoulders.
I prefer really long hair, but I don't pass with it and won't until I'm on T for a good while. My hair has always been medium-length though over the last few years I've kept it relatively short as I chopped it all off and then had to let it grow out. I recently got it cut again, but it's still not short. I'll prop cut it all off again once I start T or prior to it so I can pass, or have a better chance at it, then I'll let it grow out as soon as I look better.
I grew up in a strict religious home. I was made to have long hair until I was in my teens (then I'd just get it cut and deal with my parent's anger for a few days).
I keep my hair short. In the Summer I usually buzz it and wear hats. Other times of the year I let it grow out a little and get an Ivy League cut.
I have to keep it pretty short, for work and to pass (I look butch if I don't keep it short enough), but I really wish I could have hair like Mr. Gold (from Once Upon a Time). I would LOVE that hairstyle. I long for it, hahaha. Someday, after years of T, I'm sure I'll be able to pull it off. And it's an older man's look anyway :P
I had hair down my back when I was little that progressively got shorter until I was 13 when I asked for it to just be chopped off. I don't miss it at all. Now I like having it the length in my photo, but struggle to find anyone that will do it because they all know me as "female". I have to gave the back of my hair really short and faded because it becomes a trigger for my sexual assault. Even when I was going through a bit of an emo phase I was still keeping the back short with scissors between cuts.
This is actually my favorite length on myself right here--
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But since I still present female in certain places like work, I have to keep it a bit longer than I'd like. When I was little I always had really long hair until high school when I cut it to my chin for JROTC (I like the comb and go thing and the thought of having to put it up and pin it into a bun and make it all perfect was too much for me, so I chopped it to the exact length I needed to just leave it alone). Then I grew it down to my butt in college until I chopped it all off and shaved it bald a few years ago and since then I generally get a longer caesar (about the length of my profile pic) every few months and let it grow into a shaggy mop in between.
I can go either way. My hair's odd, so I don't like messing with it.
I perfer shorter hair because it's easier to manage. With really long hair, taking a shower was basically just work, and brushing and blow-drying it was a nightmare.
I had long hair my entire life, but wanted to get it cut for a while until I finally got it done a couple years ago.
It helps with being read as male and being more comfortable in general.
I reaaaally like my hair longer & shaggy, but it's a lot to maintain for me and goes through some rather ugly phases before it gets to the length I like it at. I just think long hair is so attractive when a man can pull it off *drool* Not everyone can though, just imo.
Anyways, I also like it buzzed on the sides and long on the top, which is how I almost always do it now. I cut my own hair.
When I was little I had very long hair and hated it, so I would put it in a pony tail and tuck it in my shirt and wear a hat backwards to cover it :p.
I prefer long hair. I just think it looks better imo. I like the length of how Ashton Kutcher had it on "That's 70's show". That's how I've always worn my hair Pre- T. I'm growing it out now to this length again hoping this time nobody calls me a girl.
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When I was a kid Mom never let me have as short hair as I would've wanted. Because I would've looked like a boy. I never said to her it was kinda my intention. Besides, I hated my hair since it's naturally wavy and very thick (well, I still kinda hate it). It's a pain after a shower to get it somewhat reasonable looking if it's long.
My hair's been to my shoulders at its longest and honestly, it looked like a hair stack.
I've been keeping my hair pretty short for the last couple years, usually making my fiancé shave it off almost completely when it gets too long for my taste. The only downside about me having a shaved head is my ridiculously long neck hair...
But I'm thinking to let my hair grow a bit. I want a so-called "gay ramp" in the front. :D
Longest: Down to my lower back.
Shortest: Buzzed with a pair of clippers, no guards.
I love it very short. Lately, I've been growing it out to see if I can pull off a 1960s look. If not, I'll just go back to virtually no hair.
Quote from: Dominick_81 on January 23, 2013, 09:38:55 PM
I prefer long hair. I just think it looks better imo. I like the length of how Ashton Kutcher had it on "That's 70's show". That's how I've always worn my hair Pre- T. I'm growing it out now to this length again hoping this time nobody calls me a girl.
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This is the type of hair I wish I could pull off as well. My only problem is it gets real thick and shaggy in the back.
I like both long and short hair and have both. But I tend to prefern longer hair for the case of passing, so I am rather scared of getting it too short.
when I where younger I where suposed to have middle long "girly hair" I grew it out in a pony tail cause I said I always wanted a real tail but I couldnt get it so I got this insteed untill I where 12-13 and I got my first short haircut.
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I kinda got this haircut when I where a kid, most of my time. nope this is not me BTW but it do actually look abit like me when I where younger. (I think)
I had long hair since I was 12 til I was 29 I think. It never grew all that much past my shoulders mind you. My hair then started thinning so I cut it shoulderlenght, and then kept getting it shorter until I came out and got a short men's cut, shaved in the back and sides, short on top. Been keeping it that way since, it's too thin on top to get creative with.
My parents kept my hair cut above the ears until I was 13ish. I cut it once since then about 2 years ago. I cut a foot off. It is growing back but so much slower than it used to. I much prefer it long and as it is thinning quickly, I'll keep it long for as long as I have hair to grow.
Quote from: Liam Erik on January 22, 2013, 09:55:45 PM
Nowadays if it's long enough to get mussed, then it's too long.
This is my philosophy, or would be if I were a little less lazy about haircuts. I trim it when it gets in my eyes and occasionally do a more major cut or get a friend to. I've paid for haircuts a couple of times but both times I still looked like a girl. I should probably go try that again now that I can pass better.
I'm partial to mohawks but my ears are always cold and so I don't take my hat off except when I need to be respectful or presentable anyway.
I would love to have long hair. Not super long but enough for a fringe to cover my eyes sort of length. I think ponytails can look very sexy on blokes too but I'm not sure I would go that far. I had hair right down my back for the longest time and it was so liberating to cut it short for the first time (like, girl short) ... I don't think I could ever go back to the huge pain in the behind of washing/conditioning/blowdrying/straightening every morning.
I sport a short back and sides because it's the only way I pass at the moment. I attempted to grow it out to see if I could get away with it but the general consensus over on the do I pass board was that it was doing me no favours, and I agreed :P
I always had fairly long hair before I came out, but ever since, I've kept it very short. I usually do it myself, with clippers, but every once in a while I really butcher it and need someone to fix it for me. I like long hair on guys - certain guys, of course, not everyone can pull it off - but I don't think I'd pass if I were to have long hair.
Don't worry too much, some of the most macho cis guys out there have long hair now days. Personaly I've always hated having long hair but did it for the sake of people I was dating and family. As a child I had no choice, I had to have long hair and wear dresses.
Actually - I really like short hair on myself, BUT
I FEEL terrible with it. I cut my hair once, really short, only an inch or two, and after a bit, my self-esteem and everything just.. dropped. I hated it.
I prefer to have a haircut that's at the least, long enough to almost touch my shoulders, maybe even a little shorter. I like to experiment when I get my hair cut or styled, so I've gone through a few already. :P
I think though, if/when I begin to bald, I'd shave it all off, either that or invest in a hair transplant - but more than likely just buzz it. I could never buzz my hair right now though -- my hair is like my crown, I don't know what I'd do without it. xD
Funny this topic has come up. I need to change my hair. It's doing anything for one way or the other. I like shoulder length hair, but , of course all the pics of cuts I like are on guys. I need something no fuss no bother. But can't figure out how to tell the person who cuts my hair that I want a guy style should length cut. I know I have no hope of passing regardless of hair at the moment- but I could at least go for a more gender neutral look. Any advice on how I describe this to a woman who has known me ten years, knows my kids and we live in a somewhat small community, without totally outing myself yet - I would greatly appreciate it. Thx
I wasn't able to cut my hair as a kid either. Yuck. It was horrible. As a teen, the 'thick, curly hair problem' prevented me from cutting it short, so I just pulled it back straight and tucked it up into a knot at the back of my head. Whenever I let it down, I got dysphoric. Hair falling on my shoulders? <shudder>
Now I keep it short, but not super short. Now that I've put on weight, I have little choice. Skinny guys may be able to pull off a ponytail but it looks unholy on heavy guys. Especially if you're white. Very unkempt. No offense to any fat long haired dudes out there.
Ribbons, if you did want short hair you just need to find a good cut for curly hair. Maybe something like this?
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Or shorter?
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It'd be awesome if you can really grow an afro though. :) However you want it, sounds like you just need a good hairdresser. I actually love my curls now.
I wear an afro though it's gotten terribly annoying.
I've thought of getting a shorter haircut - maybe something like Kid Cudi's or Sean Comb's frohawks or neofro - but I don't think that'd fair me well. I'll just get my hair braided or get dreads one of these days.
My hair went down to my mid-back as a kid. To my knowledge, it's still that long today.
I've considered my hair, for the longest, to be my best trait physical trait about me.
However, it's hell to deal with my hair and I do wish I could cut it off, but I can't in this household, and even if I could, it would feel weird since I've had it for such a long time.
I really do want to experience it being cut though. It is usually in a ponytail or braids. I prefer the latter because I consider that my "male" mode. I'm more confident when I wear them.
I completely understand how you feel. I hate the idea that I have to cut off my hair completely to "pass". This is not me, and it will never be. Then again, I am the ftm musketeer :D *takes feathered hat off and bows low*. Un mousquetaire ne saurait avoir les cheveux courts. (A musketeer would never have short hair.)
If you want to see the length of my hair now, this is what I look like.
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It's shorter than I would like, but until my moustache grows in, and until my face gets a little more angular, it'll have to do. Afterwards, it's back to shoulder length with hair tied at the nape of the neck.
My boyfriend refuses to cut his hair (which goes down past the middle of his back) because he considers it to be a big part of "who he is as a person" -- and that is mildly frustrating to me, because it isn't helping him pass. But, hey, freedom of expression...
I keep my hair pretty short, and it doesn't really help me pass either, so. *shrug*
When I was little I bounced back and froth between long and short. My mom raised me on the "it will always grow back" saying lol. Right now my hair looks like this
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but blond. Which has been great because it makes me look very androgynous. However now that i'm further along with my T i'm excited to go to my hair appointment this week and get it shorter.
I'm looking to get something like this
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but I will let my hairdresser decide. I'm lucky I suppose because I've used the same hair dresser for the past 6 years or so, so when I was coming out and my parents were telling everyone my mom told my hair dresser, who was totally cool with it. So now when I go in I just tell her to 'man me up' ;) and she gives me a guys haircut. It's also nice because I know she won't make me look butch.
Personally I like my hair to be mid length but all choppy. I look like a dork with short hair. I looked ok with short hair when I was a kid/teen and I pretty much had short hair my whole life up until around college when I had kind of very unkempt kind of rocker type hair.
My kid told me today that her Pikachu doll thinks my hair looks silly. It's probably time for a trim. :laugh:
Quote from: Felix on February 06, 2013, 03:32:55 AM
My kid told me today that her Pikachu doll thinks my hair looks silly. It's probably time for a trim. :laugh:
Pikachu
knows, man....
I have a similar problem with my curls. I even did the pixie cut thing in my youth. I decided to keep it long through transition and afterwards, but cut it to just below my shoulder so it'll be a little more masculine. I'm going to go for a Roger Daultrey thing (lead singer of The Who).
Im trying to grow my hair long enough to get a pomp going, but my hair is still short enough that it falls back onto my face. *sigh* I wouldn't look like Matt Smith anyway...
I'm a girl but I just wanna say that guys with long hair are HOT!!! I prefer a guy with long hair than short hair but I know it becomes an issue of passing.
My hair is about shoulder length, and I'm trying to see how long I can grow it. I prefer longer hair on myself, personally. My face does not look okay with short hair at all.
Quote from: Felix on February 06, 2013, 03:32:55 AM
My kid told me today that her Pikachu doll thinks my hair looks silly. It's probably time for a trim. :laugh:
You gotta love little kid tact. "No, Dad. I think your hair looks fine. It's Pikachu who thinks it's silly!"
When my hair is really short ( like in a shadow fade with a 2 on top) its straight and looks really sharp. However when it is an inch or longer it grows into a fro. Thick, birdsnesty fro. And no matter how clean I keep it and how tangle free it never looks professional or makes me look sloppy. Plus it is a pain in the neck to take care of. In high school I had dreads down to my shoulders but eventually cut them when I was looking for a job because they wern't the nice "well taken care of" type of dreads lol. Sometimes I play with growing my hair out but every time hot weather comes around I cut it because a fro really sweats your scalp , trust me. And then it get's to this stage where you cant really style it at all . I used to perm it straight but that really kills your hair. Now I am attempting to grow it long again and possibly dreads we shall see!
I had it past-shoulder length for a long time (cut it once when I was young to a bob style thing) and then I cut it really short in one go. Now I have what I consider really short hair. I like it because it helps me pass and so I'm more confident, but as soon as I'm on T (or earlier if I can handle it) I'm growing it out to shoulderlength again. I actually tried to grow it long again right before I came out, but realized my dreams of long hair belonged to male me and got really dissapointed by how feminine I looked.
it's short-ish but not that short atm. I plan to go bald just for the heck of it one day.