Im kinda stuck in a rut at the moment, im feeling lonely and extremely depressed. I have no idea where im going at times im happy that im doing transition and other's i don't even feel like all the stress and depression is worth it, i know that most people are quite happy when they start but becoming who i truly am has cost me friends and family, to be honest i don't even have any friends anymore and family hardly ever talks to me, its been months since ive seen my siblings, they never call me even to say hello and im tired of trying to get them to accept me and be more kind and loving towards me. I don't ever really talk to anyone anymore, my mother is the only one that concerns herself with me, the only one that talks to me and calls me. Sad as this is, she is really the only friend i have- when i do anything at all its with her, whether it be going to the movies or to eat its all with her. The loneliness and lack of a life is really getting to me. I was wondering has anyone experienced this before? it's eating away at me day by day, This emptiness and loneliness has really caused me to examine my life more and its causing me anxiety to think about how much its changed for the worst, im hoping this is a phase but this really sucks :/
Hi Elsa,
I completely understand how you feel. I also threw my toys out the cot yesterday. Hang in there sis, it does get better. I think most of us go through a phase like that. I just try to keep my eyes focused on my dream and slowly work towards achieving my hopes and wishes.
Here is a big hug for you! :icon_hug:
Maegan
Hey, Elsa
Sorry to hear. I know it feels tough at the moment, but - as Maeghan said - it does get better.
Instead of waiting for your family/friends to contact you, why not bridge the gap yourself and call them? I'm sure they couldn't say no to going to the movies with you.
I know its tough, but shutting yourself away will only prolong the isolation. Even though its hard, try to be outgoing. :)
X
Hi Hon,
I sure know this one!''Sat in the house for ever, sometimes got to the front step. No friends no one would call. Then I'd get drunk and call them--- Ahh big put off.
I started to go out. Stuff them. Stuff them all. I'm me. I started off going to a local hotel for a nice meal. met people. Made friends slowly. Took my time; being careful.
All of a sudden I had a few friends, that got my confidence up.
Slowly I came out of a shell and then my ex people didn't seem to matter, then they started to contact me.
It takes time.
Seems like every girl goes through this loneliness at some point. But for some it's almost never ending, and we want someone who truly understands our lives. We're looking for that one person who will talk with us about transition, emotions, and of course our lives as they are now. Someone we don't pay to listen (therapists), and someone who wants us to be happy no matter what we have to do. I guess having some tanssexual friends would be wonderful, but there's often a burning need for any friend who really doesn't care how we must live our lives.
Susan's is a wonderful place for us to get support, but it doesn't replace a caring voice and warm hug. And I'm still left wanting the companionship of a friend who will share the combined tears of laughter, pain or joy. Sometimes I need an understanding living soul.
Well it's starting to feel like I'm back in my childhood, so that's enough self pity. And so here's a cyber hug. Yeah, I kinda understand.
Love Kathy.
Quote from: kathy b on February 15, 2013, 10:07:18 AM
Seems like every girl goes through this loneliness at some point. But for some it's almost never ending, and we want someone who truly understands our lives. We're looking for that one person who will talk with us about transition, emotions, and of course our lives as they are now. Someone we don't pay to listen (therapists), and someone who wants us to be happy no matter what we have to do. I guess having some tanssexual friends would be wonderful, but there's often a burning need for any friend who really doesn't care how we must live our lives.
Susan's is a wonderful place for us to get support, but it doesn't replace a caring voice and warm hug. And I'm still left wanting the companionship of a friend who will share the combined tears of laughter, pain or joy. Sometimes I need an understanding living soul.
Well it's starting to feel like I'm back in my childhood, so that's enough self pity. And so here's a cyber hug. Yeah, I kinda understand.
Love Kathy.
Nail on the head...
hugs elsa it'll get better
Very normal, although it shouldn't be. You spend your life hiding who you are, then when you decide to take your parents' advice and just be yourself, everyone runs for the hills. Then you feel guilty for having been so selfish and start to think maybe it would be better if you just went back into hiding so they'd want to be around you again. Do you really want somebody around you that will only accept you if you're not you? I did at one point, not anymore though.
If you do still want a relationship there, even if they are less than supportive, than you will have to be the one to take the initiative and make that connection. They may learn to accept you. They may not. But at least you can say that you gave it your best shot.