I will try to make it short
I am currently out of job, but im seaching.
I dont have the best education for grades as most of my schools been experience based (something scandinavian type of school system)
My friend say by looking for job I should drawn my focus away from my few grades, and insteed focus on all the work I have done for free who have giving me experience I could use in a job,
I think she's right,
but then again this is where the problem hits in.
Sure I can mention I been working for free, But I feel like I can only mention free works who is non-lgbt stuff which would be half of my experience, but what about the other half? ???
if we speak online I am not allowed to mention anything about my "sexualety or political preference" so I am not allowed to write about this for seaching jobs or for what I have done.
If I go to the job center I have mention stuff like this, but then a bigger problem hits and thats my parrents.
I once had to writte on a paper, schools, jobs, personal experience. on the experience I wrote things I have done who invold LGBT stuff.. like arrenge a cafe night for transpeople, collecting petitions, such things (without writing it had anything to do with GLBT.)
then My mom happent to see this paper and she start ask questions like: "when did I ever arrenge a cafe night? when did I ever collect petitions? when did I ever do this or that," and so on.
Its true but I didnt want to tell her anything of that or at least not that it had anything to do with GLBT, She have started to accept me abit like trying to use the right pronouce, but she still dont seams to be suportive of the public thing. 2 years ago I where in the newspaper and I did mention it, while she got very angry at me not making food, or talking to me for 3 days straight (which is rather abnormal of her just ignoring me like that) we had one of the biggest fight where she threadned me not to pay for my current school, and that I should not go around shout about my sexualety in public and just keep it all privat cause if she was sick she wouldnt do that. it all ended up that I lied for her, said the interviuw got cancel or something but since then I havent mention much of my activism work I have done and its really being a pain.
on one hand I want to do activism, and I want it to be mention if I have an meeting and they ask. "so have you ever worked with cafe. "yes I have arrenge one once" "you know anything about politics. "yes, I been in the media and on meetings with them for transgenders rights"
if it comes out in the right sentence those could play on the rights card 8), but on the other hand I really dont want to get in fights on my parrents, and get in hurry to move out as soon as posible cause I cant stand being home. + I dont have money to move out.
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I just really hate lying to her or keeping my life secret, even when she knows im trans and bi and have known it all for years, I cant invite her to my own arregement, or anything, and last year where I had been out my whole days to sign petitions for diffrent schools I got home all exhausted and my mom started to complain how I never do anything and just being lazy..
this is just really annoying, and im not sure if its best just staying active in the closet like now to refuse any trouble, for the moment we actually has a pretty ok relationship which I didnt belived when I moved home to her last year. But on the other hand I really dont want to be in the closet and I wonder if I should put extra efford into going out that im an activist and I do active work.
Is there some reason your parents need to know what is in the resume you submit for jobs/at the job center?
You could play up your skills in a resume in a generic way that will appeal to a variety of mainstream employers - like, getting people to sign petitions is applicable to customer service because you have to politely interact with people in a compelling way. Or, since you have cafe experience - that is great for working at restaurants.
Such as, a block for volunteering where you detail things generically and how they could specifically apply to the place you are submitting your application.
You could still use references from your volunteer work too.
They dont need to know, I am just abit paranoid cause she found those paper once.
currently I try to do as you say, I am just wondering if I should come out or stay safe with this.
It's usually best to have a few different resumes, and you decide which one to use based on the employer. Keep one that has all your activism on it, and another without the activism.
If you're afraid of your mom finding your resume, you can just keep a digitial version of it on your computer or dropbox, and then just print it on resume paper when you need it at a library or other place.
I could do that,
my mom isnt very fix and even when she do use my computer she is not allowed to open my files.
thanks for advice