I'm in the process of coming out to all the important people in my life. All the main people have been told and the ones I haven't spoken to directly probably have heard through the grapevine. So now I'm left wondering, when and how should I go about changing my facebook. I'm worried it might be too soon, or the reactions and feedback I'm gonna get. But it feels so wrong, staying the way it is. Like the same feeling where I just couldn't stand presenting as female anymore, that's what it feels like. I know I have to be smart about it though. I guess I'm trying to balance out the impulsive urge to change it all right now, versus what is the smart way to go about changing my name and gender on facebook in the long run. I don't even know what that is, how and when I should do it ???
I came out to my friends on FB but didnt change anything.this account was attached to my family who is very religious and biased in their opinion and since for me,this was a new begining,i just closed that account completely.I left all my friends and family behind but told those who really cared,they were welcome to follow and if they didnt,was no loss to me.I started a new one and have moved on.i hope whatever you chose,helps you in the long run.
a couple of people I know have made 2 diffrent facebook acconts, one where there out and one where they arnt. generally having there new name in the one where there out. if they come out to people on there old one they suggest they add them on there new profil.
That sounds like a really good idea, to make a new account. It's a lot less awkward than having all the aquaintances I barely know on facebook being like wtf. So, like a slow process of gradually adding people to my new account. Sounds good to me :)
Quote from: Darkflame on February 21, 2013, 09:44:25 PM
That sounds like a really good idea, to make a new account. It's a lot less awkward than having all the aquaintances I barely know on facebook being like wtf. So, like a slow process of gradually adding people to my new account. Sounds good to me :)
Indeed it is.Also feels like a weight is lifted in a sense,being able to be your true self and those around you know you for that true self so there is much less *bickering* per say lol good on you though :)
I used two profiles for a while, and eventually posted a note on my male profile that I was changing.
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I didn't have any sort of profile or presence on the internet in my old name, so it wasn't an issue.
Quote from: miffed at the coast on February 22, 2013, 11:45:09 AM
I didn't have any sort of profile or presence on the internet in my old name, so it wasn't an issue.
same here, certainly anyone that I knew in person. I only created a facebook profile 1/2 year after starting my transition, and used it as a way of letting some people I know and old school friends what was happening with me, it was actually a good thing for that.
I got drunk and had a status coming out after telling a couple of people. Everybody supported me. They all call me by my chosen name and gender and some of the females have been helpful with the clothing and makeup stuff. I thought I was going to lose friends, but that didn't happen. A lot of these people are radical or progressive politically so maybe that helped. Maybe creating a new account and coming out on the old account is best, but I didn't have a problem keeping my old account after coming out.
I handled my coming out on Facebook by holding my breath and jumping in after a few shots for courage. I told family and close friends in a private message two days before I made the coming out post. It's not the technique for everyone, but I got more positive responses then I thought I'd get. It felt really good to get all that off my chest too. I still don't regret anything about it. :)
Do what you feel is best by you.