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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 04:21:37 AM

Title: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 04:21:37 AM

I'm not going to lie to you all; I am concerned about this - and the temperature is projected to reach 88 F, today.

Operating in 'male mode' [out of present career necessity], with healthy "D" level breasts?

OOOhh boy....

I need to engage in a 'concealment strategy' for only [Lord willing] a few more months; got to be situationally aware, careful and circumspect.

I AM SO TIRED OF LIVING THIS WAY.

Some day soon, though.  :)
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: TheBattler on May 23, 2007, 04:32:51 AM
I hope it goes well Rhonda,

I thinking hidding the new additions may be hard to do.

Alice
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 04:45:12 AM
Quote from: Alice on May 23, 2007, 04:32:51 AM
I hope it goes well Rhonda,

I thinking hidding the new additions may be hard to do.

Alice


Indeed.

It may well turn out to be an exercise in futility, but hon? I just had to have that surgery.

A known risk and I will be praying often, today.

 ;D ;D ;D


EXCELLENT!!

I have this Nike sleeveless vest which nearly completely obscures my breasts.

That will fly!  :)
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: cindianna_jones on May 23, 2007, 05:10:33 AM
Rhonda, I don't know what in the world you are smokin.  But how do you hide something like this?  Do you wear jackets or lab coats or something?  I had no idea that you had to keep working boy mode after your BA.

I'm afraid you've set yourself up for a difficult situation.  Please be aware of this and don't send yourself to the bottomless pit of depression if it happens.  I pushed it too when I was transitioning, so I've been there and done that.

I'm sorry if I've brought up that which should not be mentioned.  But please, be careful. I don't want to see you get hurt. It's too bad you can't wear bulky sweat shirts or something.

Cindi
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: VickieDavis on May 23, 2007, 01:19:06 PM
Quote from: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 04:21:37 AM


Operating in 'male mode' [out of present career necessity], with healthy "D" level breasts?



The other day I was wondering, if I could do that too. I hate that I have only AA's.    :(

I met a gorgious TS woman that was working in boy mode with a nice set of breasts. I would love to see her in boy mode with them, although I am sure it would spoil her image for me.  :P

Please keep us informed as to how it is going!




Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: Keira on May 23, 2007, 02:42:02 PM
Yeah, my 36C on my frame would already be, if not hard, at least uncomfortable, to hide since they project 3.5 inch from my lean body.

I can't even imagine how you can hide a D cup.
I think people will know (they might not tell you though), the profile is especially hard to mask unless you wear a wide coat in a material like thick denim.

Maybe you'll have to fake having gained 150 pound!!!
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: VickieDavis on May 23, 2007, 03:24:16 PM
Quote from: Keira on May 23, 2007, 02:42:02 PM
Yeah, my 36C on my frame would already be, if not hard, at least uncomfortable, to hide since they project 3.5 inch from my lean body.

---snip---

Maybe you'll have to fake having gained 150 pound!!!


Wow!  :o  You look great!  I am so jellious, of your youth, your breasts, and that look! Way to go girl!  :eusa_clap:

Your not hiding all that are you?    ::)

Title: 1st Day Back to Work - A Normal Day!
Post by: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 05:44:44 PM

In fact, they were glad to see me back.   :embarrassed: :)

I played it very carefully, as I must do with discipline, for the next few months.

I was and presented, completely at ease and confident. I do intend to keep a lower profile from now on and just be a good girl.

I don't need to create my own problems, as I have done so often in the past.

I discerned nothing out of the norm attitudinally, from the guys.

It was a very good day!  :)
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: POSH on May 23, 2007, 05:48:03 PM
lol,

Relax everybody. I think she will do just fine.

In the second year of my employment with the Federal Government, I had my first BA. Like Rhonda says ....."I HAD HAVE IT"  I had 36 FULL C, breasts, And I weighed 145lbs at the time, Everyone asked me ...did you get breasts...are those boobs under there?!....typical questions, i had not come out yet, So i simply replied with....Over my vacation, i got hit in the chest with a baseball, and had to wear compression wrap to make sure the strunem healed. That worked for a while, but you know people KNOW these things and draw their own conclusion REGARDLESS of what ya tell'em. They always knew, but never approached me about it. lol, Me and my wife work in the same place, So they ALWAYS went to her to get he scoop, and try to figure out what was going on with me, but she remained loyal until i was ready to comeout. So just remember this, people are going to think what they want...REGARDLESS. Until...or IF...which I doubt....becomes a prob with management, you need not worry Rhonda. You will be just fine.


While in boy mode and having my 36C, I had more girls to hit on me, becuase they thought I were buff....lol

Just remember to coordinate your wardrobe according to accomidate your new additions.


Izzy,
xoxoxoxoxoxxo
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 05:57:49 PM
Quote from: POSH on May 23, 2007, 05:48:03 PM
lol,

Relax everybody. I think she will do just fine.

In the second year of my employment with the Federal Government, I had my first BA. Like Rhonda says ....."I HAD HAVE IT"  I had 36 FULL C, breasts, And I weighed 145lbs at the time, Everyone asked me ...did you get breasts...are those boobs under there?!....typical questions, i had not come out yet, So i simply replied with....Over my vacation, i got hit in the chest with a baseball, and had to wear compression wrap to make sure the strunem healed. That worked for a while, but you know people KNOW these things and draw their own conclusion REGARDLESS of what ya tell'em. They always knew, but never approached me about it. lol, Me and my wife work in the same place, So they ALWAYS went to her to get he scoop, and try to figure out what was going on with me, but she remained loyal until i was ready to comeout. So just remember this, people are going to think what they want...REGARDLESS. Until...or IF...which I doubt....becomes a prob with management, you need not worry Rhonda. You will be just fine.


While in boy mode and having my 36C, I had more girls to hit on me, becuase they thought I were buff....lol

Just remember to coordinate your wardrobe according to accomidate your new additions.


Izzy,
xoxoxoxoxoxxo

I had to be smart about dressing, but I can't help but to think that if I had presented timorously or nervously, I would have been 'cooked' today.

What was it that Cindi said about 'confidence' - ?
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: melissa90299 on May 23, 2007, 08:34:28 PM
I am not getting into anyone's crap but it seems very imprudent to get a BA before going fulltime and I can't fathom a therapist who would "sign off" on this.
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 08:40:41 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on May 23, 2007, 08:34:28 PM
I am not getting into anyone's crap but it seems very imprudent to get a BA before going fulltime and I can't fathom a therapist who would "sign off" on this.


Therapist?

What therapist - ?

I have already adequately stated how I feel about HBIGDA/SOC, relative to my transition.

Situations and lives among us, vary quite widely.
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: melissa90299 on May 23, 2007, 09:24:42 PM
Quote from: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 08:40:41 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on May 23, 2007, 08:34:28 PM
I am not getting into anyone's crap but it seems very imprudent to get a BA before going fulltime and I can't fathom a therapist who would "sign off" on this.


Therapist?

What therapist - ?

I have already adequately stated how I feel about HBIGDA/SOC, relative to my transition.

Situations and lives among us, vary quite widely.


Who gives a rat's arse about the SOC, it is very unwise to go about this without the guidance of a good gender therapist. I just find it unfathomable that anyone would undergo a BA before going fulltime. Heck, you don't even need a therapist to tell you that. This is a hard enough road to traverse without doing things because you "just had to do it."

Sorry for the tough love but, in my recovery, I just have this need to say what I think.

Of course, you may have some logical justification for doing this now, can you enlighten me?
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: Kimberly on May 23, 2007, 10:45:07 PM
I dun suppose looking them in the eye and sweetly saying that they need you is a viable option eh?

`Course, I am kind of prone to do silly things like that which are not necessarily the wisest... ;)
Title: Re: 1st Day Back to Work, Post-op BA.
Post by: rhonda13000 on May 24, 2007, 04:57:29 AM
Quote from: melissa90299 on May 23, 2007, 09:24:42 PM
Quote from: rhonda13000 on May 23, 2007, 08:40:41 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on May 23, 2007, 08:34:28 PM
I am not getting into anyone's crap but it seems very imprudent to get a BA before going fulltime and I can't fathom a therapist who would "sign off" on this.


Therapist?

What therapist - ?

I have already adequately stated how I feel about HBIGDA/SOC, relative to my transition.

Situations and lives among us, vary quite widely.


Who gives a rat's arse about the SOC, it is very unwise to go about this without the guidance of a good gender therapist. I just find it unfathomable that anyone would undergo a BA before going fulltime. Heck, you don't even need a therapist to tell you that. This is a hard enough road to traverse without doing things because you "just had to do it."

Sorry for the tough love but, in my recovery, I just have this need to say what I think.

Of course, you may have some logical justification for doing this now, can you enlighten me?


In fact, I will dissent from doing so. I perceive no obligation to do so and such discussions usually degenerate into...battles.

I am not interested in sustaining this line of discourse.

But understand that I bear no angst toward you nor anyone else.