Transition-wise, what do you hope to achieve next in your tranition (if you have something to complete)? What are your current plans fo the next 2 years? What about within the next 5 years? Seeing a therapist? Name change? Gender marker change? Coming out to family/friends/employees? Testosterone? Hormone blockers? Top surgery? Hysto? Bottom surgery? I'm curious to see what's the next step for everyone.
For me, my next step is top surgery. My therapist told me when I have the money for top surgery to come back and see her and she will write the letter in the next session. :) I would like to have that achieved within the next 5 years.
My next immediate step is being referred to a gender clinic. Then in September I'm going to go full time when I begin uni. Between July and September I hope to come out to most other people and create a new facebook profile then go through the legal name change. Some time through this I hope to start T. I'm at the very beginning of my journey and I only recently came out to my parents. It's been a hard journey so far but I look forward to the end result.
Joey
top surgery scheduled by my birthday (3 months) - will require lots more extra work and I want to be down another 20 lbs by then.
Coming out to everyone (more than just family and close friends) through Facebook, Then getting on the waitlist for Sherboune so I can get hrt, and get a legal name change
Top surgery in two years or less and then I can get my birth certificate changed in my State. After that it's just bottom surgery to think about but that will be about a decade down the road financially (especially if I choose phallo). I really hope there is another option by then.
Well I just got in contact with a doctor so hoping I can get T without too much a hassle, then a name change hopefully this year. Top surgery is pretty far away financially wise but right now I'm more focused on losing a bunch of weight anyway.
Hopefully getting HRT in the next few months and coming out to everyone.
Quote from: Frank on February 25, 2013, 04:56:19 PM
Well I just got in contact with a doctor so hoping I can get T without too much a hassle, then a name change hopefully this year. Top surgery is pretty far away financially wise but right now I'm more focused on losing a bunch of weight anyway.
That's another area I want to focus on before I get top surgery. I'm going to use that time to hopefully drop a few pounds too so my results can be better.
Quote from: Darkflame on February 25, 2013, 04:45:35 PM
Coming out to everyone (more than just family and close friends) through Facebook, Then getting on the waitlist for Sherboune so I can get hrt, and get a legal name change
I hope the waiting list won't be too long for you.
Quote from: spacerace on February 25, 2013, 04:39:03 PM
top surgery scheduled by my birthday (3 months) - will require lots more extra work and I want to be down another 20 lbs by then.
Happy Early Birthday! That's going to be a great birthday gift. :)
Quote from: Simon on February 25, 2013, 04:49:35 PM
Top surgery in two years or less and then I can get my birth certificate changed in my State. After that it's just bottom surgery to think about but that will be about a decade down the road financially (especially if I choose phallo). I really hope there is another option by then.
I feel you on the bottom surgery part. I'm contantly looking up any progress being made in the area, even though I'm about 10 years away from it myself.
Quote from: Joey. on February 25, 2013, 04:37:33 PM
My next immediate step is being referred to a gender clinic. Then in September I'm going to go full time when I begin uni. Between July and September I hope to come out to most other people and create a new facebook profile then go through the legal name change. Some time through this I hope to start T. I'm at the very beginning of my journey and I only recently came out to my parents. It's been a hard journey so far but I look forward to the end result.
Joey
Good luck when you go full time at your Uni! I'm loving your positive outlook on your transition.
for me, i'm hoping for an appointment at the clinic by summer and hormones or blockers by the fall. gonna bulk up my upper body in the mean time haha. also hoping to get my name changed legally this summer.
Quote from: Malachite on February 25, 2013, 05:09:18 PM
Good luck when you go full time at your Uni! I'm loving your positive outlook on your transition.
Thanks man! I can't wait now. I try and stay positive and focus on my end goal, that's what gets me through :)
Joey
so far im to check on my cheast, theres some wierd muscle thing going on which means maybe I need an extra surgery on it or maybe it will go away by itself, my plan is to get that checked or fixed if posible.
I dont know about my gender marked, but theres rumours that in 1 year it could be posible to get changed without castration/sterilisation. if so then I might get to change that. well see what time brings.
most of my plans so far isnt transrelated, more to live what I have lost, first step going to swim for next wensday XD
I sadly can't do any more than change my name :-\. I guess I'll just save up and wait.
T, whenever that happens should be this week or next.
May or June this year, name change.
Next year top surgery.
--Jay
Next step is coming out to a gradually broadening circle to stop the endless wave of dysphoria somewhere. Also need to get in better shape. Being a good size doesn't mean everything is taut enough and strong enough for my liking.
Some distant, glorious day, I will hold a bottle of T in my hand, too.
Top surgery next march, and that's about it for me transition wise :)
Top surgery and hysterectomy. After whichever I'm able to get first I will be able to get my sex marker and birth certificate changed.
I'm still at the very beginning. I'd like to see a gender therapist & find a grad school that has insurance plans that might cover top surgery or at least T! I'm hoping to go to grad school out of state and come out to my family long-distance. I may or may not be out to the program/my classmates, depending. I've had good luck coming out to other students my age.
Also, it's really painful for me to bind or even wear soft spandex sports bras, so I'd like to figure out what's wrong with my chest/ribs and maybe see if I could get surgery that way.
Saving money for top surgery. However, I just a good (and my first) post college job based on the fact that I'm biologically female, so it may be another year or so. Not really a big deal to me since I'm just happy to have such an awesome job, and I don't really care how people see me so much. At work I'm a girl and everywhere else I'm a dude. Eh. Depends on time off and money on when I get the surgery.
Top surgery really is the last thing I desperately want though. I'm not planning on changing my name since its unisex and I'm attached to it. It was the first thing that was ever given to me. Changing gender markers would annul my marriage so I'm not too keen on that either.
All going well I should have had top surgery by this time next year. At the moment I'm gathering all the info I need to apply for my GRC.
testicle implants this summer and then erectile device maybe within 5 years. havent really made up my mind about that yet.
My next step is to see a gender therapist; need to see who will take my insurance. Then it'll be coming out, but I an going to wait to fully come out til I get a divorce.
Within the next year I plan to have both a hysto and top surgery. I am approved for both and my doctor is ready to do the hysto ... just want to loose 20 more lbs before I do anything
Great to hear you have found a dr todo your hysto. Do you have insurance that will cover it? Do you know what method the dr will use. I am young with no insurance or money so mine is years away. I just hate the pain and mess every month.
First endo appointment for me in 2 weeks, get a bunch of tests done, and use the results to figure out what happens next. And I'll do my level best to get hysto on the national health.
Well currently I'm working on getting on T. I went in today and talked to my Dr's nurse. He's FTM which is great because he's given me several ways to get ahold of him in case I have any questions with my transition. He also informed me that he has been working to get the process for the clinic changed so there aren't so many hoops to jump through for us and that he was going to talk to my doctor to see about bypassing the therapist and getting me started on T at my next appt which is in April (only because after talking for a bit he saw that I had really done my research and had spent almost 8 months mentally preparing myself and my fiancee for the change, don't want anyone thinking I just jumped into this and got a free pass). I've got my first appt with the therapist on Thursday though anyways and I plan on using him as a reference for when I come out to my parents. My 2 year goal is top surgery so hopefully that can go just as smoothly.
Quote from: mm on February 26, 2013, 01:45:21 PM
Great to hear you have found a dr todo your hysto. Do you have insurance that will cover it? Do you know what method the dr will use. I am young with no insurance or money so mine is years away. I just hate the pain and mess every month.
My trans doctor is also a gyno ... so she will be the one doing it .. by laposcopy ... and since I have gyn issues that are none trans related that is what she is going to bill it under
Thanks for the infor. Laposcopy is a great way to go, minimum scars quick recovery. Keep us updated with how it all goes.
Have an appointment next week to get some pre-T blood work done, then I should have my letter and subsequent prescription by April. Also looking into top surgery late this summer, depending on my work schedule, financial situation.
And, I'm filling out my name change paperwork. It goes quickly in my state, so that should be done by April too. Finally moving things along. Really the only thing holding me up on a lot of this stuff is that I need to come out to the rest of my family. There's not much incentive when they live 1000 miles away and we rarely talk, but it's the right thing to do.
I'm just about to set off to see my new endo and I'm very excited about it, I forgot to mention this in my plans. He's been looking at my levels and although I've been on T for a while now my shots have been all over the place and so have my levels....so he's gonna sort that out, and possibly give me an E blocker to speed things up, and apparently also some vitamin D because I'm low on that, which would explain why I'm so tired. It sounds like he's gonna fix everything for me today and I'll finally be on a proper shot schedule and getting my levels sorted out ^___^
My helpful GP is on holiday (this always happens to me >:() so I'm late for my shot by almost a month and I feel really crappy, I have felt my levels dropping this whole time and I am totally psyched that I'll be getting my shot today. At least that's what they told me the endo would be doing, if I don't get my shot today I'll be really disappointed.
I've done everything I can to transition socially including changing my name etc. so all that's left now is the medical bits. I've been waiting about 7 months since I was referred to a GIC but they haven't even processed my paperwork yet so I don't even have an appointment with them. But I've just heard today that my GP has now referred me to a different GIC with a much shorter waiting list. :)
So... plans are: T as soon as possible, hopefully within the next few months; followed by top surgery as soon as possible. Then in about 2 years or so I'll see what I want to do about the bottom end, based on the options that are available then.
I must say that FtM bottom surgery has greatly improved since I looked into the options when I first realised back in 1990 that I needed to transition. I decided at that time not to transition for various reasons, but one of them was the lack of any suitable (to my standards) surgical options for the nether regions. The options available today are so much better and I'm hoping they'll continue to improve.
Quote from: FTMDiaries on February 28, 2013, 08:46:09 AM
I must say that FtM bottom surgery has greatly improved since I looked into the options when I first realised back in 1990 that I needed to transition. I decided at that time not to transition for various reasons, but one of them was the lack of any suitable (to my standards) surgical options for the nether regions. The options available today are so much better and I'm hoping they'll continue to improve.
That's really encouraging, thank you. I keep telling myself I don't want bottom surgery but I genuinely don't know how much of that is because I don't want what's available now. I guess it's really easy to get stuck in the trap of thinking that things will remain as they are.
Read somewhere around here about female lab mice that were able to impregnate other females using the magical thing called "growing biologically functional body parts with science". Sperm cells can be made from the bone marrow, and who knows? Maybe we'll get to see the day that they can insert a Y chromosome into the mix in case a guy decides he wants a son. Here's hoping that will happen in the near enough future so we aren't long gone by then.
Even better would be if they could just somehow correct the mistakes made by not having that Y in the first place instead of having to get T in a bottle (or preloaded syringe). The feminists over at the blogger-who-shall-not-be-named's site seem to make a lot of arguments referring to chromosomes and/or the biological functionality. I'd like to see what they have to say to those mice.
Anyway, enough of that derailment. I'm slowly coming out on facebook, so my next step is to keep widening the circle of those who know so I don't have to endure the name and pronouns anymore, while figuring out an exact plan for how I'll be navigating the Land of College.
Right now, coming out. All my closest friends, my child's other family (including bio dad) already know, and eventually the rest of my family will. I think they already know, but opening the dialogue is not my strongest point.
I am also choosing a new career. Being a teacher, I don't foresee myself being able to easily come back to work as Mr., especially in a small rural school district in the Bible Belt. I plan on returning to university and obtaining a Master's degree in Psychology. In the meantime, I will find work somewhere in which I can begin as Evan.
The biggest priority for me, before any surgeries or hormones, is my name change. I will be pursuing that first. Why? I foresee everything else as a "hurry up and wait", and I get discouraged easily, I will admit. If I take that first step and solidify my identity, maybe the depression won't hit. My therapist agrees and actually pointed me toward everything I'd need to fill out and apply for.
Quote from: Marion on February 28, 2013, 04:17:09 PM
That's really encouraging, thank you. I keep telling myself I don't want bottom surgery but I genuinely don't know how much of that is because I don't want what's available now. I guess it's really easy to get stuck in the trap of thinking that things will remain as they are.
When I first investigated bottom surgery back in 1990, the info I found suggested that phalloplasty was possible but they couldn't do anything to save the nerves... so you could have a penis but you would permanently lose your ability to orgasm. That turned me right off the idea of bottom surgery; it's not a price I was willing to pay. I'm delighted to see that procedures have moved on from that point - so much so that I'm once again weighing up the procedures.
Think about it this way: there are people living today who were alive before DNA was discovered. Medical science moves on very rapidly; who knows what will be discovered in the next few years? :)
Quote from: FTMDiaries on March 01, 2013, 04:56:32 AM
Think about it this way: there are people living today who were alive before DNA was discovered. Medical science moves on very rapidly; who knows what will be discovered in the next few years? :)
I think this too, especially because trans issues are becoming more and more out in the open, and theres so many of us, i have hope for the future :) but only the near-ish future :p my cut off for bottom surgery is 40 years old for me (then i wont bother) im 29 now, so fingers crossed :p
Quote from: Geek on March 01, 2013, 12:04:05 PM
I think this too, especially because trans issues are becoming more and more out in the open, and theres so many of us, i have hope for the future :)
Same here. I've only been in the trans community for only about a couple of years and I'm already hearing about improvements in bottom surgery since the first time I looked them up. It makes me feel old lol.
In the near future I am getting a legal name change. Hopefully by the end of this month.
Come out to my parents, visit my GP again and try and find a path that works for me in getting a GIC referal/self refer, and change my name, although not necessarily in that order. Then go to sixth form as male in September with as few people knowing about the label that was previously stuck on me as possible.
Next step for me is my GRC (Gender recognition certificate). Ive been putting this off for about 18months now simply because Im too much of a wuss to have to face a solicitor who I will need to sign my stat dec, as I hate having to explain that Ive been through transition. But Ive finally made an appointment to and its on Tuesday :p
Also, in 13 days Ill be having stage 2 of lower surgery. Im pretty eager for the nerve work being done.
After my GRC and 3rd/final stage of lower surgery, that should hopefully be it. Well, actually, the last thing will probably be my beard finally coming in :p
Quote from: FTMDiaries on February 28, 2013, 08:46:09 AM
I've done everything I can to transition socially including changing my name etc. so all that's left now is the medical bits. I've been waiting about 7 months since I was referred to a GIC but they haven't even processed my paperwork yet so I don't even have an appointment with them. But I've just heard today that my GP has now referred me to a different GIC with a much shorter waiting list. :)
So... plans are: T as soon as possible, hopefully within the next few months; followed by top surgery as soon as possible. Then in about 2 years or so I'll see what I want to do about the bottom end, based on the options that are available then.
I must say that FtM bottom surgery has greatly improved since I looked into the options when I first realised back in 1990 that I needed to transition. I decided at that time not to transition for various reasons, but one of them was the lack of any suitable (to my standards) surgical options for the nether regions. The options available today are so much better and I'm hoping they'll continue to improve.
Good luck with your GIC referral. I really hope that this second place youve been referred to see you soon.
I was on the waiting list for 15months, and now the GIC has a list of between 1-5 months apparently, so I can empathize with your frustrations! Hopefully youll be hearing from them soon :)
Quote from: Make_It_Good on March 02, 2013, 08:44:55 AM
Next step for me is my GRC (Gender recognition certificate). Ive been putting this off for about 18months now simply because Im too much of a wuss to have to face a solicitor who I will need to sign my stat dec, as I hate having to explain that Ive been through transition. But Ive finally made an appointment to and its on Tuesday :p
best of luck with your appointment. I bet you will feel really relieved once Tuesday is over.
Transition wise? a hysterectomy in the next 2-4 years i hope. hopefully some type of bottom surgery before im 30
Life wise? graduate high school, get my B.S. and M.S. in Applied Behavior Analysis and become an ABA therapist
I'm waiting to be called in for my complete hysto some time this spring. Top surgery might happen this fall depending on how long the waiting list is.
I'd like bottom surgery (phallo), but want better results than I believe are commonly available.
Whether or not this is in 5 years or 10 years is obviously a big question of technology and finances. We'll see.
Saving for a full hysto and bottom surgery currently. I'm also considering some plastic surgery to further masculinize my face, but it's not as big a priority as bottom surgery.
In this year, I hope to get my name changed, and gender marker changed on most ID.
In the next couple of years, depending on when I get the date, I'm hoping for top surgery.
I'm hoping to have gotten at least stage one bottom surgery (uncertain about which one), by the time I'm 25 (around 2020... wow that's weird to think about, haha). But I'm not certain if I want to have kids and/or if I'd like them to be mine genetically. I've been in a long term relationship and the idea of having kids with my partner has come up in conversation, but we'd be in our thirties. So, I kind of want to postpone hysterectomy until I have a definitive idea of what I want to do with my life and how I can do it.