Ok made this error once before somewhere else.
I am NOT posting in the Significant Other's section until MADE to by her TELLING me to DO it.
It's her spot on the forums. I am cool with that.
So I tell her now, in THIS locations, for the love of god (yes I know it's just an expression to me, a turn of phrase), post, say something, come here too if you can.
POST DAMN IT!
Getting my wife to open up is like pulling teeth. No wait, I have had that done, it's actually less bother :)
I beseech those here that are SOs, to get my wife to chat. She goes by Diamonds_mom (that's the cat's name by the way).
My wife has almost NO internet savvy, barely understands how to use a computer, would basically not require my older laptop if she didn't like solitaire and a specific video game she likes.
If you PM her, she might not even realize it as she might not even know what an incoming message alert even looks like.
She has so little skill in forums, that you will need to give her a lot of leeway.
I can help only so much before it becomes too close to looking like I am explaining the patently obvious in an insulting fashion.
So those of the forum community that have the 'pleasure' of knowing someone close that is like myself, please go out of your way for a while in getting her used to the whole forum experience where possible.
It will help me a lot, and I can use any help I can get.
Look at a post composition window, and just remember none of any of the user interface will mean much to her at all.
Does she understand email? Honestly, if she has so little idea of how this works, I'm not sure making her come here will be that useful - if she's anything like me (when confronted with new/strange technology), she'll be frustrated and confused and unhappy and not get much out of the experience because of all that. But you might be able to get people to email her, I guess, if that'd work better.
Those are some disparaging remarks about your partner.
I think your wife may be a lot like mine. She has to use the computer some for work and it's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I think the only thing she likes to use a computer for is shopping. She learned how to buy things online. As far as forums or chat or anything like that she has no interest. I don't try and force it on her even though I feel it may help her to understand me more. It has to be her choice. If and when she has interest in it she will learn how to do it.
How are they disparaging remarks?
I know nothing about cars at all. Oil change? I wouldn't have a clue how. Not even sure I know how to use a gas pump.
Sports, almost as bad. People comment about sporting events, and I never have a clue who they are talking about. I regularly see friends make comments that look weird to me, and so I mention it and then they realize, 'oh you have no idea what I meant did you?'.
My wife just has very little knowledge of the internet. And not much knowledge of forums.
She would not have joined if I had not asked her. And I asked her so she could become part of our community.
But I do hope to get some of the membership aiding her in becoming more familiar.
Just so everyone knows though, we DO talk, but, it is not easy.
I invited my SO to have a look... it would appear that she created an account, and spent all of thirty minutes on the forum.
C'est la vie.
I had brief high hopes. We can talk - but only if I initiate it, which is a bit awkward after a while...
:)
Well in truth, 90% of the people that join forums are like 90% of the people that walk into stores. They see nothing they like and then walk away.
I always wonder about forums and about how many real members are actually present ie people actually posting.
If i can suggest, try helping her get more accustom to the site, the computer etc. and even sit with her and look over the forums until you guys find a thread she has an opinion on then with keyboard in front of her, compare it to something she is more familiar with such as an electric typewriter. That helped me with my mom when i was helping her to learn how to use a computer and solitary to get her used to using a mouse.
Hope i could help some
Kari Ann.
Quote from: JulieC. on March 01, 2013, 11:30:53 AM
I think your wife may be a lot like mine. She has to use the computer some for work and it's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I think the only thing she likes to use a computer for is shopping. She learned how to buy things online. As far as forums or chat or anything like that she has no interest. I don't try and force it on her even though I feel it may help her to understand me more. It has to be her choice. If and when she has interest in it she will learn how to do it.
That's mine to a tee. But I also know how smart mine is and suspect it's a bit of an act. :eusa_naughty:
To Lesley's SO. Hi Diamonds_mom.
Really how you say hello. :icon_wave: :icon_blahblah:
Hey! I'm a significant other to two amazing tgirls :3 and I have sent her a message if ya wanna try n help her check it. I'd be happy to answer some questions and stuff ;D