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I haven't seen this posted but I'm interested in seeing the results. Who were you closer to growing up? I wanted to do growing up vs. now because I know many of us have much different relationships with our parents. It would have been cool to make this a two-part poll and see if that changed after 21 (or really, after coming out). Meghan

Both of them were and still are.  :)

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Unquestionably, Mom.  :)

And this state still continues today.

That's a hard one to answer. It was invariably my dad until well puberty cause then I got dragged into 'female conversations' and my dad felt a little alienated/uncomfortable but when i got to 18/19 - present it was pretty much all my dad.

I was closer to my mum because due to his line of work, dad was always travelling abroad.

My mood is much closer to my mum, she can listen and understand me better than anyone, I think a lot of the things I feel she has felt and stayed quiet about  :-X so not to rock any boats.

My dad and I don't understand each other at all, and there are times we barely respect each other, but most people think we are the close ones because we have very similar ways of presenting ourselves.

I feel I have total love for my parents but they regard me as such a feckless and impractical individual that they don't respect me in the slightest. If this carries on I will lose them, for I can't have self respect while I am still waiting for theirs.

Neither

I been manly growing up with my mother, and had my closest bond there,
however since I transitioned I started to be more close to my dad, since his more accepting of it.

My dad and I are closer on a lot of levels but my mom and I have a lighter and more fun relationship.

I confide more in my dad, but if I were spend a day out having fun I would probably choose to spend that day with my mom.

  My mom.  My dad was absent during most of my childhood.
  Joelene

I chose both but it's strange.  While my mother was the most nurturing, growing up I felt a stronger connection to my dad.  He was (and still is) always working.  We hardly spent time together because he was so busy working.  He would even sleep through Christmas while the rest of the family were opening gifts.  He would just give the money to my mom to buy what I wanted instead of buying it for me himself.  He is also a controlling person.  However, I just naturally felt closer to him because of his less-than-stellar attitude on life and because he was "the dad".  I wanted to be just like him.  I wanted a "like father like son" relationship with him and everyone saw it and gave me crap about it. 

I was never really close with either parent. I could get along with them but I never felt I could share personal things with them. I kinda just hid a lot at home during my high school years.

I was very close to my father (and my sister, fwiw) until I was 10 or 11.

neither

I was closer to my dad until I was a teenager.

Neither, I was shuffled off to my grandmothers most of the time. Barely knew my mother, just a few visits here and there.

I think my mother really understood what I was feeling a lot of the time. My father never had a clue and gave up trying pretty early on.

I have always had a very close relationship with my mom, and even more so now after transitioning.

Total momma's boy here. Did more stuff with dad when very young though. I wanted to be him but it didn't work out that way. Ended up being a lot closer to mom, especially in my late teens. We had some tough times but have always been close.

Now, past 21, we are super close. She knows far more than any mother should ever know about her son. The ins and outs of my sex life, for instance.  :laugh:

I've always been closer to my mom. My dad is very much a man of few words and we butted heads alot when I was younger. Since I came out to them about my transition though we have all been closer than ever and it's been great.

My Sisters, maternal Grandma, paternal Great Granma

Neither parent, but a solid bond to my maternal grandmother.

I wasn't close to either parent. My mother was manipulative and controlling and my dad didn't know what to do with a femme little boy so he withdrew. I was probably closest to my grandmother on my dads side, bit she lived many, many miles away and i didn't see her often.

My personality is very much like my Mom, I could confide in her, she was my best friend were very close.

Jamiep

Definitely my dad, I'm close to my dad and I have several issues with my mom.

Definitely was closer to my Mom, my Dad left us when I was 7. I reconnected with him a bit more later in life. Both parents are gone now, I did come out to my Mom before she died, she got to see some of the "real me".