Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Ok so I've been thinking long and hard about returning to facebook. It's been about 9 or 10 months since I left, but recently I've been getting flustered by my friends posting photos and never being able to see them added together with being constantly out of the loop on events/gatherings... Having a new account also seems like an easy way of letting the few remaining people who I haven't come out to kind of "figure it out" when I start getting tagged in photos.

Just curious to see what other people did about facebook during their transitions.

Gawd I hate facebook, but I'm feeling weak.

I actually ended up deleted my facebook, and made a new one. I added the people who met me as Ollie, and added the friends I know that knew me before I came out but still choose to call me by my chosen name. It's a pretty tough situation, facebook is. Someone could add you and call you out. I try to avoid that as much as possible. Not that I'm ashamed of who I am, but because I hate having to explain it over and over again.

I never said what I was and have very few pictures of me, so it's not too difficult for me to hide. I've hinted about what I'm doing on there and the friends that know know, the ones who don't are probably confused.  As for name, I've always had 2, boy name in normal, and then in the parentheses, my preferred girl name. It's been like that for a few years and I even moved countries and got a job in a not so accepting country.

When I arrived, some coworkers asked me which name I prefer, and wanted to know if I was gay. That was about it.   Still haven't told them anything, though.  When I text them through an app, my names are both on there as my ID. I'm sure they guess something, but who knows.

I posted a note telling of my start of my transition. A few days later I changed my name. But before I did anything I cleaned up my friends list so only those I truly wanted to know would. I got rid of people who over the past made no attempt to contact me even on facebook other than to play some silly game. 

I have a thread where I talk about this.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,135091.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,135091.0.html) 

I quit facebook, too many old acquaintances mostly female wanting to hookup as I read between the lines with my NO-BS glasses on. It seemed a bit too intrusive on many levels as I enjoy my privacy and it was a huge time waster so I sought to keep Susan's as my only online networking site and Flickr for any photos.

I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with Facebook... on the one hand, it's another place to be ignored... on the other, it's a waste of time and probably a very serious (actually a "very serious", as it makes no attempt to conceal) threat to privacy.

I currently have two profiles... one for each gender, but I'm kinda reckoning on deleting (to the extent FB allows) the second profile at some point, as I dip my toes further in the water (re: coming out).

I use mine more as a newsfeed for video games than a way to keep in touch with people. The only ones who bother writing to me or comment on my stuff are the ones I see every week so... They're already in the loop. I'm still trying to decide what to do with mine once I start RLE but for now it looks like I'm going to erase and start over.

Well I broke down last night and made a new profile, seems so weird to be back on... But so far so good :)

I have a Facebook Account as me.  A lot of my friends are in the same field.

I only have just over 100 friends on facebook. I came out as transgender on FB, and changed the spelling of my name from Johnny to Johnnie. I haven't changed my gender on there from male to female yet. I did all that last November, and things have been going fine. In fact, the support I've gotten via facebook has really been helpful.

I have a few close people on FB, but I mainly use it to like groups and have something interesting to view during the day.

I never used my FB page prior to transition save a few people I already came out to by that point so I just changed everything from name to e-mail linked.

Wow, this makes me feel old but I never had a Facebook account prior to transition (it was just barely out of the "college students only" phase)  therefore there was never a need to "transition" on there as well.

I have 2 profiles.. One under my current name and another under my old name. I posted a coming out message on my old profile in which I invited people to Friend my new one - most did. I keep meaning to delete the old one, but never quite get around to it. I log in to the old one from time to time, just to see what's going on with those that haven't made the change..

I still have my boy fb account for now since I'm not really out yet.  I want to keep that definitely because a lot of people I know are on it and I like following their lives and seeing what's going on.  I will for surely be creating another account once I start to transition more with HRT and tell most of my friends about that account to add it.

I am keeping my old one to follow relatives etc. but have my new one to keep in touch with my new friends.

I haven't started transition yet, but I imagine that once I do, I'll probably just keep my old account.  I rarely use the thing, and people rarely use it to contact me.

I really do hate facebook.  Mostly just forwarding cute pictures, like this if you agree, etc.

I have just the one account. And decided if people wanted to stay in my life as well as accept me for me that they could or delete my friendship. I am still me after all. I don't feel like I should waste my energy on that. So I did lose some friends on it. But the friends I have kept I am much closer with. And I can finally be me. Actually for the most part they already had me pegged. Btw, here is to the supreme court ruling today.

Holy smokes, Orihime! You've been a very naughty girl!!  ;)

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I didn't have it in the early stages or coming out but I have it now and it's where I keep contact with my family, people in my life and the 'survivors' from my previous life.

You have to be careful about how much information you put through your main e-mail account because of the ridiculous way FB decides that you constantly need more friends. It's come so close to outing me on at least two occasions.

I have kept my current Facebook and changed my name. Nobody cared and I was too lazy to create another profile. I need to delete my photos though.

Kept the same account. Only updated the picture though. It still has my old name since I don't widely go by Lydia right now. I'll change it once I'm able to pass. But in the meantime I'm sure most of everybody figured it out that I'm trans. Luckily they've generally been accepting and I've even gotten some complements. If they don't like it they can unfriend me. I think one did and I didn't even know him that well. Oh well.

Quote from: Sadie May on March 27, 2013, 08:16:14 PM
Holy smokes, Orihime! You've been a very naughty girl!!  ;)

Holy smokes, Sadie! You've got a new avatar!  ;)

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on March 27, 2013, 08:38:14 PM
Holy smokes, Sadie! You've got a new avatar!  ;)

:) I've been wanting a change up, but had little to choose from... I kinda imagine the name will go next - Sadie seems to be more the name of a character (not to mention a favorite among canines, big and small - lol), and less a name that's found a home in my heart.

I made a new account the other day and briefly friended myself to go re-like all of the pages I follow. I'm currently going down my "friends" list and deleting people before I come out. So far I've gotten it from about 130 to 48. I'm aiming for 35 or less; less would probably be better. I'll see who is worth keeping around when they move to my new page.

My only issue is that I keep in touch with teachers I was really close to in high school through Facebook. I'm debating whether or not to wait until I visit them one last time in May before I change over. It'd give me a chance to come out in person to them, which I don't get with my friends since most of them moved out of state. Then I get to start thinking about whether or not I'll go to my 10 year reunion. Decisions...

I signed.up for.Facebook when you had to be a college student. Never used it. It's still there and if you know me well, you can find me. But no one has. Oh well, seems like I would wind up addicted and I already need to quit smoking  :D

Quote from: Sadie May on March 27, 2013, 08:16:14 PM
Holy smokes, Orihime! You've been a very naughty girl!!  ;)

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That error falls somewhere within this hierarchy (most serious to least serious):

FUBAR
RFU
SNAFU
FU
Goof

BTW - What's "Facebook"?

Oh my that is hilarious! I guess I'm back in good graces now.  >:-)

I had always avoided it like the plague, but then I made one under my birth name and put it as female, typed up my first post to come out to anyone I would end up adding, friended a bunch of people, then changed my name and gender on there, leaving my birth name in parenthesis up until today. Dropped it because that name annoys me. I don't like it as a social networking site but took advantage of it for coming out to friends instead of going around one by one or getting a megaphone and running down the halls shouting "I'M TRANSGENDER! I'M REALLY A BOY AND MY NAME IS MAX!!!111", which would be silly.

I was thinking about what to do with my FB account when I started to transition.
I finaly decided to keep my old account and just change name and gender. Before I did it however I removed some "friends" that I did not want to share my new side of me with. Friends I hadn't met in like years. I also removed all of my male pics from facebook.
And when all that was done I thought I would get tons of messages asking me what I was up to. Well. lucky enough no one reacted in any way...

I didn't even have a facebook until 2009 and that was several years after changing my name, so it wasn't an issue. I'm up to 17 friends on it now, lol. 

clicked "not sure" because I wanted to put "other"

btw, add me on http://facebook.com/nicoleluvzya (http://facebook.com/nicoleluvzya)

I had deleted my old account six or seven months before I came out.  Probably wouldn't have bothered to make a new account except I needed to be able to moderate my business'  page.  I actually like it more than I used too.  Partly it's because I'm more selective about friend requests and partly because the new feed control settings are actually pretty nice.  Being able to turn off updates from the few "crazy" friends I have has made the whole experience quite pleasant :)

Accidentally outed myself to one of my wife's friends due to my "F" designation when I created a new account. No one else has noticed yet.  :laugh:

I found it easier to make a new account tbh, there where quite a few people on my friends list, I really couldn't care less about anyway

I work for a first nation owned camp catering company...
We hire our own....so I work with people that k ow my dad siblings
Cousins you name it...
LOL I am not going to tell them...but I imagine they will figure it out
Real fast hehhe in the next two months as thats when HRT. Really
Starts it's magic....

Facebook will flow after coz all my fb are my co workers heheh
Wish me. Luck

I lucked out because, when I was in high school, I deleted my Facebook account when I was a sophomore. I joined back up when I started college, because I wanted to network.

For maybe one or two months after starting college, I was going by my birth name (it's unisex, but unfortunately used more for females than males). But when I got to the point that I wanted to change it, I just put up a post, emailed my teachers, and asserted myself as my current name.

Weirdly enough, I still get friend requests from people that went to my high school. It's really awkward, and I don't even know how they find me anymore, since I look so different.

I made a new FB account. When I was ready I cut all the people who I knew from my old account that I had absolutely no interest in, or wish to know what was happening in my life (that was a lot of people), and posted my life event explaining I was transitioning and starting my RLE.  I said I was going to invite them all to my new account shortly.  I did this so that those who did not want to remain in my life could just not accept. 

It's been nice being back on facebook. So far, I've only added people I've come out to or at least met in person with my new identity. It's wonderful being able to post something knowing that I will have full acceptance. For the rest of the 50 or so pending friend requests from people that have learned about my transition through the grapevine, they will have to wait. I am absolutely not okay with people that I once knew "catching up" on my transition by means of scouring my facebook and never talking to me about it. I don't want to have any question about whether any of my contacts fully support me or not.