Hi! Its me Danyelle, my real name is Daniel, (but I like Danyelle more). I am new here and this is my first post. I am 22 and am from the St. Louis area. I am pretty much lost in all of this having only recently begun to understand what Transsexual and Transgender means. I have known that there was and still is something different about me from a very young age probably around 6 years old, I started crossdressing around the 3rd grade. I did all the things little boys do, like play in the mud and whatnot, however I played with my sister and her dolls about as much. Who I am pretty much goes against every thing my parents raised me to be, being that I am physically male, so basically my body doesn't fit with the way I feel, my demeanor and who I believe I really am inside. I am so lost trying to figure it all out and trying to take the appropriate steps to solve this puzzle so that all the pieces of me are in the correct places. I have been approaching everything with an open mind and putting my intellect out front in order to fully understand the depth of all this. I come from a very conservative family, my brother knows about me because I have talked to him about it trying to seek an outside perspective on who I am. I told my brother that I crossdress and believe that I should be female on the outside and not just on the inside. My brother gave me a look of utter shock, and then sat down and just plainly said "You are still my sibling, no matter what or who you are. So this changes nothing between us". My jaw just dropped and I broke down crying, mostly because I was so relieved as I was expecting to be punched in the jaw. Sorry for the "novel" like post, I have a lot to get oh yeah, any one have any advice on seeking the right Therapist?? Ima gonna finish this post later because I just got the urge to take a hot bath! Buh bye! <3 Danyelle
Danyelle,
First, welcome from sunny Southern California! I'm new here also and I will tell you that there's a great community here. I strongly encourage you to see a gender therapist. Go to the main page and look around, I know there are several links for them. Being able to talk to someone, a third party, about your thoughts and feelings and have them ask you questions back requiring you to really think about yourself...definitely a good thing. I think it's smart to go into this with no preconceived notions about what needs to happen. Just get to understand yourself and where you feel like you'll be happiest, that's my .02. But, like I said, I'm just starting my journey so I would definitely listen to the wiser sisters and brothers on here :) Take care, Meghan
Welcome, Danyelle!
I'm pleased to meet you! You've found a wonderful site, full of support and understanding for all trans people who look for it. I enjoy the whole site, the forums are wonderful and the WIKI, links pages and #Chat are just as nice. If you haven'y had an opportunity yet, please get to know our terms of service at https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html. They are what we live by here and they are one of the things that keeps Susan's site so safe and supportive.
Here's a link to therapists in Missouri, Danyelle: https://www.susans.org/Medical/Therapists_and_Counselors/USA/Missouri/ I hope you are successful in finding a therapist you can go to. I think it's the essential first step after realizing who you are or might be and it's also the first step towards hormones, if that's what you eventually decide to do.
I hope we'll see more posts from you, Danyelle and that we'll get to know each other a little better real soon. Again,
WELCOME ! ! :)
hugs & smiles
helen
Welcome to the neighborhood. ;)
Hi Danyelle,
Welcome to Susan's. Don't apologize for letting your story out. I agree finding a therapist to help you sort it out would be a good start. I'm glad you at least have had success coming out to your brother. :)
Hugs,
Rhonda
Hello Danyelle and welcome to Susan's!
Thank you for your introduction. Please take a few moments to get familiar with the site, review the site rules, and take advantage of our many resources such as the wiki, chat, and the links listed at the main page. We look forward to your future posts and participation. Enjoy your stay!
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Hello Danyelle,
I'm glad to meet you.
Thank you for the introduction.
Welcome to Susan's,
Jillieann
Aww, thank you all! Its nice to feel welcome, and be able to be myself, even if it is cyberspace. I look forward to getting to know you all!
Hi Danyelle,
It was nice to talk to you in chat today - I look forward to hearding more from you. This is a long journey that you have started.
Alice
Welcme to susans place.
Hey there.
Welcome to our crazy little niche of the woods.