Yeah used the men's room. I don't exactly pass but lately I am not getting misgendered so much. Must mostly be self confidence or something as I don't think I really look any different. Anyway, it was a safe space as I think 1/4 of the people were trans. So nothing happened. No one was in when I went in there so....
I have used single stall men's rooms.
--Jay
Congrats for your first time regardless! :)
Yay! Little steps, they make the journey easier. Thanks for sharing the milestone with us, hugs, Devlyn
Congrats! The first time I used the mens room was a single stall and I was about 3 months on T. The first time I used a multiple stall mens room was at Disney's Magic Kingdom. :) It does get easier over time, though. Certainly makes the journey easier.
I tried to use a single stall once, opened the door to find myself staring at someone's backside. I quickly ran into the disabled toilet next to it lol.
you rock, Dude. Congratulations!
Yay! Now do it again ;D
Congrats! I know that its a big step in the right direction!
I started using the guys bathroom about six months before I started T ... it really helped my confidence ... it does get easier
Thanks guys (and gals). It'll be interesting where I think it will be safe to try this again. It was a very safe feeling with all those other trans folks around. Maybe some place full of liberals like Whole Foods. LOL.
--Jay
Big thumbs up!!
Although after accidentally walking into one this morning, :o couldn't get out of there fast enough!! ::)
Well done! :)
The grocery store near my house has a 1 stall with door and 1 urinal. I used to use it every time I went to the store, to 'practice' LOL. The very first men's room I used was in the airport, and again at a busy truck stop. I had just started to pass but was nervous as hell. When I got home I went to the grocery store, which was comfortable.
Jay
It's a big step! Grats man! My first time was pretty terrifying but you will find that after a while it gets easier.
For some reason I feel like apologizing. "On behalf of my birth gender, I am terribly sorry for the state of the porcelain and the walls and the floors and the sinks and the dispenser..."
Quote from: ZoeM on March 25, 2013, 09:35:23 AM
For some reason I feel like apologizing. "On behalf of my birth gender, I am terribly sorry for the state of the porcelain and the walls and the floors and the sinks and the dispenser..."
The female toilets in my High School had tampons stuck to the ceiling... so I lived in perpetual fear of the things succumbing to gravity. :o
Congrats! I started using men's rooms full time when I went to college, a little over a year before I started T. The good thing about the men's room is everyone in there seems to try to avoid looking at everyone else, so even if you don't pass that well you shouldn't have to worry much.
Quote from: Darrin Scott on March 24, 2013, 06:11:33 PM
Congrats! The first time I used the mens room was a single stall and I was about 3 months on T. The first time I used a multiple stall mens room was at Disney's Magic Kingdom. :) It does get easier over time, though. Certainly makes the journey easier.
Actually, Disney is probably one of the safer places to 'go' (as it were). I used to work for them way back in the dawn of time, and they've always been LGBTQ friendly. Every year there would be an unofficial 'Pink Shirt Day,' where anybody who was part of the community would wear a pink shirt to show their support. I always did, even though I didn't identify as Transsexual at the time, but I still wanted to show my support. There was always a picket line of religious nut jobs asking the question, "How could Disney allow a bunch of ->-bleeped-<-s into the Magic Kingdom?" and Disney would always answer, "Because Disney World is a place for
all families. Not just yours."
Now. If only they didn't treat their employees like crap.... ::)
State of facilities: Nothing horrendous or something that I haven't seen. I have seen awful women's rooms. It isn't unknown.
Disney: Not going there in the next few months (or years). But sounds like it would be a safe location. I am thinking my idea of Whole Foods isn't a bad one.
@Sammy-- I am aware of the "don't look at, talk, etc injunction". I am totally not even close to being a teenager. You might be a bit new here, but I am an older trans guy. OTOH, I realize once we start T we are ALL teenagers. :) I believe the reason one who is transitioning might feel everyone is looking at him is that we might feel we don't pass as males. This is true as I do NOT pass as male. Though lately, I am getting ma'amed quite a lot less...
--Jay
Good for you, Jay, I know that is a big step for you!
You are doing it, Mister! ! ! I'm so happy for you. You keep wearing your newsboy cap and sticking up for yourself, and POOF! You'll be consistently passin' like there's no tomorrow! ;)
I love using the gents whenever I get a chance--my latest conquest was a week or two ago at jetBlue Park--home of my baseball team's spring training facilities. Big sports facilities are especially fun for passing. I loved it when the guy said, Excuse me, sir, I need to check your ticket! ;D
Andy you have an excellent memory (re: newsboy hat which I do, in fact, have). I suppose T might help more in passing though. But thanks for encouragement. We don't have big sport's team around here. The biggest thing around here is the Lobos.
--Jay
Congrats man, it was a scary experience the first time I did it, like I ran in there and ran out. The more you do it, the easier it gets. I don't know how, but it just does. I guess it's because the more you see that nothing happens, the more confident you get. The only awkward feeling is that it sounds distinctly different for a cismale peeing sitting down than it does for a pre-op transman, but I've learned how to make it nearly silent :3
Now, I walk around like a boss in the locker rooms, not giving a crap. No one pays attention to me, and if they do, it's a friendly word or two from a man to a man.
I need to comment as I have been using the men's for over a year now. I first time was by accident when I asked where the restroom was and was pointed to the men's, actually went in, walked passed men's at urinals and used a stall, on one reacted. I thought this was easy no one seem to notice or care I was in there. At school I use the men's in a building where is it unlikely I will see someone I know, as some students know my history and some don't. I do like the single person ones with a toilet and urinal. I have tried a STP in the shower but have no confidence or real success with my jeans on. As Jay suggested using one of these urinals would be a great way to practice. I need to try practicing with of these. I had to go at a football game and knew I could wait until it was over. As I dressed and accepted as a guy so I had to use the men's. I went in many guys going ever which way, urinals on all the walls maybe 40-50 of them with nothing between them, then I saw a line a stalls at one the far end. I walked down there and there was one free, so I used it; I sat down and it felt so good to be able to pee that I didn't care if someone noticed and noone did. This has to be the most scary experience for me in the men's after the first time. Guys have no problem walking up to an urinal, pulling it out and peeing with guys on both sides doing the same.
I wasn't really scared. I think I was so surrounded by trans people that the odds of someone who was trans walking in were kind of high. It was kind of a perfect place. OTOH, I guess I was not entirely relaxed as I didn't completely empty my bladder (a little TMI for your amusement :))
--Jay