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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: dlee on April 19, 2013, 06:46:40 PM

Title: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: dlee on April 19, 2013, 06:46:40 PM
Is it normal to be nervous, and have self doubt about being trans and starting HRT. I have my first apt. today and hopefully I will get prescribed my hormones I was so excited and couldn't wait to start but now im nervous. Im still going to go through with it because at heart I do know im trans and I want to be the girl I always felt I was. I just want to know is it normal to question yourself, because it's a lot to take in.
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: sam79 on April 19, 2013, 06:55:11 PM
It's such a big deal! Nerves are to be expected... And I can understand that kinda mental check ( doubts? ) thing. It's import to reaffirm where you're at. Having said that, I didn't question myself at all.

I hope you feel the same as I did with the prescription... I just about floated down the flight of stairs from my docs practice :)
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: dlee on April 19, 2013, 06:56:50 PM
Yes like im checking myself to make sure im really trans, I feel much better Im excited and nervous so I guess its normal i'll get over it! :)
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: Anna++ on April 19, 2013, 06:59:17 PM
It's completely normal and it's how I'm feeling too.  But I recognize it as exactly the same feeling I had going from high school to college and then from college to the real world.  It's a "fear of the unknown" nervousness since hearing other people's stories isn't quite the same thing as living it yourself.
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: Tessa James on April 19, 2013, 07:07:21 PM
Dlee it certainly is a major step in our lives and I would guess that most of us were very nervous with that first appointment.  Will your medical provider agree with your diagnosis, plan and be a helpful resource; I was sure worried about that even though it seemed I had crossed every t and dotted every i.   I have not really felt "normal" for long time and like you "I do know I'm trans."  Still, it is a lot to take in.  I was delighted to have my wife with me and I hope you might have someone supportive there too as it is a lot of information and consent forms to read and initial dosage instructions and more to remember.
If a letter from a therapist is required I recommend you have a hard copy in hand when you arrive.  We know important things can get lost in the mail.  Please keep your chin up and stand as tall and proud as possible.  You are taking a big step for your transition and identity.  Congratulations!
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: MaidofOrleans on April 19, 2013, 07:18:34 PM
Are you trans? Only you can know that.

Do non-trans people want to be another gender? No

Food for thought...
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: Jen-Jen on April 19, 2013, 08:31:51 PM
Quote from: dlee on April 19, 2013, 06:46:40 PM
Is it normal to be nervous, and have self doubt about being trans and starting HRT. I have my first apt. today and hopefully I will get prescribed my hormones I was so excited and couldn't wait to start but now im nervous. Im still going to go through with it because at heart I do know im trans and I want to be the girl I always felt I was. I just want to know is it normal to question yourself, because it's a lot to take in.
Quote from: dlee on April 19, 2013, 06:56:50 PM
Yes like im checking myself to make sure im really trans, I feel much better Im excited and nervous so I guess its normal i'll get over it! :)
yes, a these feelings are normal. I had your exact feelings, thoughts  and doubts prior to starting  HRT. Its is just you fighting yourself to step out of your comfort zone. One you start them and start seeing the changes, it will go away!
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: Heavenlywind on April 19, 2013, 08:47:09 PM
Its completely normal to be nervous trying to make the first appointment. I was so nervous that I had trouble trying to make the first appointment.  It took me 3 years to make my actual first appointment. It was also much easier than I anticipated it would be. The first step is always the hardest it seems for me. After the first one it was easier to relax. Also don't be afraid of asking questions, no matter how dumb it may seem :).
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: dlee on April 19, 2013, 09:52:25 PM
Thank you so much for your help!!!! You ladies are amazing! I have good news I got my prescription!!!!!!!! Im so excited and happy and cant wait to start! :)
Title: Re: Is it normal to be nervous?
Post by: sam79 on April 19, 2013, 11:19:18 PM
Congratulations!!!  :D

Cherish the changes :)