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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: xterra on May 02, 2013, 06:22:21 AM

Title: Were you ever a girl in your dreams?
Post by: xterra on May 02, 2013, 06:22:21 AM
Were you ever a girl in your dreams? Did you make love to a guy as girl in your dreams?
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Post by: Sammy on May 02, 2013, 06:25:26 AM
Yes.  I have also been some kind of observer, seeing my "male" body but not being able to interefere.

No, not in my dreams. But when I was in my teens I had those types of fantasies, but they always involved me being in a female body.
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Post by: FrancisAnn on May 02, 2013, 06:57:39 AM
About 1,000 times.
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Post by: Angélique LaCava on May 02, 2013, 06:59:43 AM
Yes to both questions
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Post by: Anna++ on May 02, 2013, 07:00:14 AM
I've been in girl clothes every now and then, especially over the last few months :)
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Post by: A on May 02, 2013, 07:08:52 AM
1. Y-yeah, I think so, but I'm not really sure. I'm rarely ever conscious of myself in my dreams. When I am, it's usually to discover some awful fact, like being a guy.

2. Yeah, I think so. But I wasn't aware of myself either, so can't say whether I was a girl. Most of my sex dreams were bad though. Like one where I was locked into a room and forced to watch a one-night couple of perverted gays have sex, looking at me and spraying stuff on me. Ew.
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Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on May 02, 2013, 07:23:58 AM
Yes I have been a girl in my dreams a few times and no I haven't dreamed about anything I would call "making love"........ but I did have a dream that I was a girl who was doing some guy off of Craigslist in my parent's bathroom once.
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Post by: Imreallyconfused on May 02, 2013, 07:27:20 AM
I've had many a dream of being a woman, but when things got intimate it was like my feelings from within and dis-trustfulness killed the intimacy and I've never made love in a dream. It always ends with me crying.
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Post by: FrancisAnn on May 02, 2013, 07:39:57 AM
Quote from: Mellysia (Melly) on May 02, 2013, 07:27:20 AM
I've had many a dream of being a woman, but when things got intimate it was like my feelings from within and dis-trustfulness killed the intimacy and I've never made love in a dream. It always ends with me crying.

Poor girl, please have a great day, it's OK.
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Post by: muuu on May 02, 2013, 07:48:35 AM
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Post by: Elsa on May 02, 2013, 07:56:50 AM
Quote from: Mellysia (Melly) on May 02, 2013, 07:27:20 AM
I've had many a dream of being a woman, but when things got intimate it was like my feelings from within and dis-trustfulness killed the intimacy and I've never made love in a dream. It always ends with me crying.

Sorry about the dreams hon, don't worry they do get better  ::hugs::

Quote from: xterra on May 02, 2013, 06:22:21 AM
Were you ever a girl in your dreams? Did you make love to a guy as girl in your dreams?

Too often to count. But if my "boy" parts get involved - I'd just get angry and irritated and disgusted with myself.
If I get a wet dream - and if the boy parts do decide to work - I'd wake up and be like "is that it?!"

My dreams no longer involve me being a guy and I am either making love to a guy or a girl.
But never as a guy, that just never happens. Although on rare occasions I end up dreaming that I am girl with a penis, who is using it to humiliate a guy who hurt someone I care about. Which I find rather disturbing and disgusting.

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Post by: A on May 02, 2013, 08:25:20 AM
I've heard that such disturbing dreams can be healthy because they vent emotions that would get out in a hurtful way otherwise. Well, not THAT hurtful, but dreams are often more intense than reality.
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Post by: Tristan on May 02, 2013, 08:26:21 AM
yes and yes  :P
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Post by: XchristineX on May 02, 2013, 08:37:44 AM
In my dreams I'm a girl
Have been for quite a while
And in some dreams I'm with a man...
The emotions are so....
Ecstatic ..submissive...weak...natural
Omg so hard to explain the feelings
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Post by: JennX on May 02, 2013, 08:52:17 AM
Yes and yes.
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Post by: noleen111 on May 02, 2013, 10:09:19 AM
I was often a girl in my dreams, but never a sex dream.

My girls dreams was more about living as woman.

But lately I do have dreams that I am pregnant or about to give birth,.. I think the hormones are making me broody.
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Post by: dlee on May 02, 2013, 10:21:15 AM
Yes more so now
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Post by: Ltl89 on May 02, 2013, 10:38:56 AM
Yes to both questions.
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Post by: Carrie Liz on May 02, 2013, 11:44:01 AM
Yep... I definitely was. And they were totally the best dreams of my entire life at the time! :D

Recently, as I've actually started transition, it's been happening more and more. As I've started dressing more, and seeing myself as female more and more, the dreams have increased. I used to get one maybe every few months or so back in high school, but recently I'm a girl in my dreams just as much as I'm my current male-but-transitioning self.
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Post by: Karla on May 02, 2013, 12:11:45 PM
Always, XTerra.  even as a child.

Some vivid dreams i remember, over the years.  One recurring pattern is myself as an older girl, having a conversation with my troubled male persona, giving sound advice.  The male persona is definitely in the third person.

Making love?  Always women.  And i have quite an imagination :)  The type of sex has been the kind that straight women wouldn't tolerate (yes i'm generalising, but that's my experience): soft, gentle, erotic, playful... 

Quote from: xterra on May 02, 2013, 06:22:21 AM
Were you ever a girl in your dreams? Did you make love to a guy as girl in your dreams?
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Post by: peky on May 02, 2013, 12:26:31 PM
No kinky dreams here but in most of my dreams I am a who I am, a women.

Sometimes I am a cat walking around a pool and a garden in acient Egypt...awsome dream...had it many times


Other times I am a tigress stalking somebody, hunting....pretty intense...


Ah, and sometimes I have this very wird dream that I am a boy...ewwww!...very distrubing indeed...LOL
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Post by: Theo on May 02, 2013, 12:30:00 PM
Yes to the first question, even though I thought it was normal to switch between girl and boy in your dreams, depending on the dream / situation (yes, I was naïve that way...  :P ).

As for the 2nd part, no; but I have dreamt of being with a girl as a girl quite a few times.
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Post by: DirtyFox on May 02, 2013, 12:36:39 PM
Yes, though all my dreams tend to be exciting or about natural disasters. Zombies, ghosts, Slenderman, other scary stuff :P.
No, I don't have many fun dreams like that to begin with.
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Post by: Kelly J. P. on May 02, 2013, 02:07:13 PM
 Typically when I dream, I dream of myself as I currently am. That is, MtF in transition.

Sometimes I dream I'm female. Sometimes I dream I'm male. Sometimes I dream I'm a number of other things - pixies included. I was a frost giant once, too.

I don't know if I've ever made love to a guy in a dream, though... Most of the time, my dreams have some sort of plot - in one dream, I was playing a supporting character to a legendary crossbow-wielding dragon hunter. The majority of the time, my dreams involve magic of some sort, and I often experience gliding. I don't experience flying, though... a shame, but I never seem to be able to get it down.

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Post by: Lubbles on May 02, 2013, 02:34:32 PM
Yes to both...

My dreams are fairly weird though... I once had a dream that everyone was sponges, and I could see their organs. So I tickled them... If anyone knows what that means please tell me.
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Post by: Ashley Allison on May 02, 2013, 02:43:15 PM
1. Probably a good 35% of the dreams I am female in them.  I am usually conscious in someway of how this is different from the normal.  Sometime I am cis, sometime MTF, sometimes I really don't know but I am know I am female.  Often times, they are quite profound, of course in retrospect they are always profound.  I remember one where I looked in the mirror at myself topless.  But more than just visual stimuli, I could feel how delicate, softer, lighter I was.  I had this profound chord wash through me of contentedness.  Gone was that testosterone-driven anxiety; I was whole.

2.  Yes, I have dreams like this, and can leave me very content.  Often times though, I am somehow attempting the act and either find I have something I don't want to be there... Or, I have a female partner and I want it back and can't have it back!! Very confusing.  But yes, dreams of men and women as me as a female are quite common.
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Post by: FrancisAnn on May 02, 2013, 03:01:32 PM
Xterra, Thanks for posting this question. I guess I'm lucky. My dreams are always very pleasant, I'm just a normal sexy good looking woman have normal sex with a man on top of me. It all just seems so normal.
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Post by: ZoeM on May 02, 2013, 03:02:21 PM
I don't always dream... (Really, quite rarely)
But when I do, I'm a girl.
</Dos Equis>

More seriously, I've had maybe four dreams like this - including my three most recent - out of maybe six I can remember having since puberty started.

Never had a sex dream, though - that I know of. :/
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Post by: Sadie on May 02, 2013, 03:26:35 PM
I have had sex dreams being both male and female. The female ones come more often now that I am transitioning and I did have them before transition but not always. Oh and I have sex with both males and females in my dreams.  One time I and dreamed I was a sexy female demon having sex with a male angel, that was intense I can recall it very well even though it was years ago. Strange I know.

Most of the time though I don't actually see myself in dreams so its hard to say in situations other than sex.

My dreams are often very strange too and often don't even involve real life things. Something which my ex wife thought was very strange since she always dreamed about real life events involving real life people, whereas I often have completely fictional people, places and events in my dreams.

One thing that bothers me is that I still am often referred to as my old male name rather than my new one in dreams. I guess that will just take time.

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Post by: Tyler92 on May 02, 2013, 03:57:36 PM
I don't think I've been a full on girl, at least I don't remember. BUT, there were plenty of times I dreamt myself wearing girl clothes, or having boobs, or long, feminine hair. Though, there might have been one dream where I was.

As for the sex dreams, no I don't think so. Now, fantasy-wise, yes, all the time lol
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Post by: JLT1 on May 02, 2013, 05:37:06 PM
I have had dreams where I was a woman.  One in particular was where I had gotten SRS and was looking at my new self when my wife came in and yelled at me "All you do is look in the mirror and"....then I woke up.

Nope, never with a guy.
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Post by: Shodan on May 02, 2013, 08:46:38 PM
Usually my dreams can't be bothered with the mundane details of my gender, of I happen to be a participant of it. They're way too weird for that. Usually when I am a participant, I'm either gender neutral, or fluid, changing from one to the other depending on my mood. It's even rarer for me to have erotic dreams, but when I do I know that I'm usually male. But the best ones and the ones I remember more vividly are the ones that I'm female.
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Post by: Sammy on May 03, 2013, 02:24:40 AM
Quote from: Sadie on May 02, 2013, 03:26:35 PM
My dreams are often very strange too and often don't even involve real life things. Something which my ex wife thought was very strange since she always dreamed about real life events involving real life people, whereas I often have completely fictional people, places and events in my dreams.

When I was kid/teen most often my dreams were not related to real life - they mostly took place in some places which seemed to be vaguely familiar, but when I woke up I instantly new that those places do not exist. Sometimes they were pure fantasy. Two repetitive patterns... Shooting orange lightnings out of my palms while being extremely scared was one pattern, another one was falling down from extremely high places and seeing the ground coming closer and closer at You, tummy sinking and the whole body tightening at the imminent impact, and then hitting ground like a rubber ball and bouncing off harmlessly, sending You into another flight and jumping over five storey building... :) Brain is a strange creation, but I have read about one person, whose parachute failed to open, but who landed harmlessly and did so on the second attempt as well - maybe that was urban legend, but I never had enough courage to see if this would work not only in my dreams but in real life too...
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Post by: Bookworm on May 03, 2013, 04:33:40 AM
I have a few times to the first, but as to the second those are for my ummm intimate times with myself thank you very much..... never in my dreams, but a few fantasies.
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Post by: Solaela on May 03, 2013, 05:32:50 AM
Yes. Though...I have been both a full female and a ->-bleeped-<- in my dreams...Usually I can tell by what's happening also once I had a dream where I saw my male self and he told me to choose then one of my female avatars came over and told me they'd be happy no matter what I picked. Dunno what that meant and it confuses me badly.
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Post by: justpat on May 14, 2013, 10:18:05 PM
    YES AND YES AWESOME!
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Post by: Alainaluvsu on May 14, 2013, 10:36:15 PM
Quote from: xterra on May 02, 2013, 06:22:21 AM
Were you ever a girl in your dreams? Did you make love to a guy as girl in your dreams?

A few times pre transition, I was. I had more coming out as trans dreams though. Now I'm always a girl, even going back to places in my life where I was a boy like old jobs, I'm a girl.

I've never really had sex dreams since taking hormones though. My libido has always been low and HRT kinda killed my drive in that I never really think of sex unless there's an instigator involved.
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Post by: Joanna Dark on May 14, 2013, 11:41:59 PM
In the last couple weeks I'm always female in my dreams or at the very least trans which is leagues better then being a guy in my dreams (it's leagues better IRL too not just me dreams lol). I don't have nightmares anymore either! And I used to have them a lot.
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Post by: Rosa on May 15, 2013, 01:42:59 AM
I've been a girl in my dreams several times more recently, but usually gender has not been a focus in my dreams.

As to the other question, either someone in my dreams interrupts or I wake up before any fun happens, but it would have been with a guy always.
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Post by: Jamie D on May 15, 2013, 03:38:27 AM
I have trouble dreaming.  A sleep study I did last year showed that I have almost no Stage 4 (R.E.M.) sleep, which is where most dreaming takes place.

Interestingly, when I am exhausted, I sometimes have "lucid dreams" - aware that I am dreaming.
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Post by: Anna++ on May 15, 2013, 08:41:12 AM
I've been better at remembering my dreams the last few days.

Last night I was a percussionist and trying to decide if I should use a snare drum or a cowbell... I can't think of a time I've ever even touched a drum in real life!  But I did play trumpet in high school.
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Post by: generous4 on May 15, 2013, 10:28:12 AM
Quote from: peky on May 02, 2013, 12:26:31 PM...a cat walking around a pool and a garden in acient Egypt...
:( DANG!  I have never been an Egyptian cat in a dream before!     ;D

Most of the times, 90%, my dreams are not sex-related, just goofy airport dreams or walking around up in the mountains or down by the ocean or finding my way through a large house.

When I do have sex-related dreams, it is occasionally about giving birth. [Sigh... if only!] 

Usually, though, my sex-related dreams are about my breasts and about breastfeeding small children and others.  [Yay]  Sometimes my breasts are quite abundant, even larger than they are now :o AND much perkier! :D

So... lactating but no Egyptian cats -- not too shabby, I guess. 8)
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Post by: Carlita on May 15, 2013, 10:51:22 AM
Quote from: Tyler92 on May 02, 2013, 03:57:36 PM
I don't think I've been a full on girl, at least I don't remember. BUT, there were plenty of times I dreamt myself wearing girl clothes, or having boobs, or long, feminine hair. Though, there might have been one dream where I was.

As for the sex dreams, no I don't think so. Now, fantasy-wise, yes, all the time lol

My dreams and fantasies, exactly .. spooky!!
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Post by: misschievous on May 15, 2013, 01:12:22 PM
Alot of times I would have sex dreams about a female and a male that I don't recognise either. Sometimes I would wake up and not think anything of it. Other times I would associated me as the female. Then I would think once I am done that is what I am going to look like. I am gorgeous.... they don't end up in wet dreams though. Can't remember ever having a wet dream.
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Post by: sarahgrant on May 15, 2013, 04:29:11 PM
I seem to be just me when the dream starts and at some stage I realise I'm wearing a skirt so I'm female. The dream then continues with everyone calling me Sarah and being treated by everyone as a girl.
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Post by: Kristen Wave on May 15, 2013, 10:38:52 PM
yes to both. I found that before I started transitioning that it went back and forth. Some dreams I was a guy and others I was a girl and frequently they were recurring dreams.
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Post by: Michelle G on May 16, 2013, 01:42:00 AM
I love and always cherish my wonderful dreams as a girl :)

I'm not a very sexual person so those type of dreams just don't happen.