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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 11:14:48 AM

Title: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 11:14:48 AM
A co-worker who doesn't know i'm trans notified me yesterday that a female customer asked him if I was a guy or a girl and told him I had a pretty face. I've been getting more and more looks lately but no one has said anything. I pretended to think it was funny and we laughed about it but deep inside I was super happy!  ;D

He's taken to calling me "pretty boy" now though  ::)

When I told other co-workers (that also don't know i'm trans) they thought it was funny and were confused that someone would think that. It only reinforces my belief that because they have seen me almost every day through my hormone treatment the changes don't register to them. As one of my (knowing) co-workers put it, "It's like a frog in boiling water" which I think is a good analogy.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: generous4 on May 09, 2013, 11:25:15 AM
Quote from: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 11:14:48 AM
...told him I had a pretty face.
It is a good report.  Encouraging.  Keep going!
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Beth Andrea on May 09, 2013, 11:49:33 AM
So...I hope you have a plan, "pretty boy"...A "frog in boiling water" will eventually get cooked, unless she has a plan to "come out"!

:)
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Tristan on May 09, 2013, 11:57:04 AM
haha. loves it. this is very good news for you. this means your progressing nicely. (which im sure you already knew  ;) )
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Ltl89 on May 09, 2013, 12:01:51 PM
I am glad to hear about your positive progress :)
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: KayCeeDee on May 09, 2013, 12:15:48 PM
Cool story, I can't wait till I get to that point!
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Alainaluvsu on May 09, 2013, 01:15:07 PM
Awesome possum!!
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 01:50:06 PM
I catch a lot of people (mostly men) staring at me with an inquisitive look. I say hello and they snap out of it and say hello and start going about their business. It's getting kind of uncomfortable  ::)
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Heather on May 09, 2013, 01:57:37 PM
Quote from: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 01:50:06 PM
I catch a lot of people (mostly men) staring at me with an inquisitive look. I say hello and they snap out of it and say hello and start going about their business. It's getting kind of uncomfortable  ::)
I'm starting to get those looks too! I'm just trying to learn how to ignore when people stare at me and go about my day.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: ZoeM on May 09, 2013, 02:12:02 PM
Means it's almost time to switch to full time, yes? Unless you want to keep them all in suspense forever... :D
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Anna++ on May 09, 2013, 04:06:32 PM
This is exciting to hear, congratulations!!

Quote from: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 01:50:06 PM
I catch a lot of people (mostly men) staring at me with an inquisitive look. I say hello and they snap out of it and say hello and start going about their business. It's getting kind of uncomfortable  ::)

Do you say "hello" in a boy or girl voice?  You could make a game out of making men uncomfortable instead of letting them get to you.


Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 04:35:02 PM
Quote from: Anna! on May 09, 2013, 04:06:32 PM
This is exciting to hear, congratulations!!

Do you say "hello" in a boy or girl voice?  You could make a game out of making men uncomfortable instead of letting them get to you.

There will plenty of that later I'm sure...
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Jennifer.L on May 10, 2013, 07:48:29 PM
Also, the frogs where Lobatomized before being put in the water... in that experment.  the ones that still had all of there heads got out. xD

But ya I can't belive my coworkers don't say something.  and you!  God girl your cute enough I'd be into you and I only like girls ^.^
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Jamie D on May 10, 2013, 08:07:55 PM
Quote from: Jennifer.L on May 10, 2013, 07:48:29 PM
Also, the frogs where Lobatomized before being put in the water... in that experment.  the ones that still had all of there heads got out. xD

But ya I can't believe my coworkers don't say something.  and you!  God girl your cute enough I'd be into you and I only like girls ^.^

Two things ...

Jennifer, I think your new avatar is so cute!

-and-

I'd rather have a bottle in front of me, than a frontal lobotomy.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: kariann330 on May 11, 2013, 11:18:52 AM
To be honest i don't know why they would second guess you at all  looking at your profile picture i would have guessed you were GG and here to support a friend.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Anna++ on May 11, 2013, 12:03:13 PM
Quote from: kariann330 on May 11, 2013, 11:18:52 AM
To be honest i don't know why they would second guess you at all  looking at your profile picture i would have guessed you were GG and here to support a friend.

Agreed.  You look almost exactly like a cis friend of mine, and that threw me off when I first joined this site.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Teela Renee on May 11, 2013, 07:12:44 PM
Quote from: MaidofOrleans on May 09, 2013, 01:50:06 PM
I catch a lot of people (mostly men) staring at me with an inquisitive look. I say hello and they snap out of it and say hello and start going about their business. It's getting kind of uncomfortable  ::)

I get those looks all the time also and it does get annoying. but you know what, look on the bright side, if they have to look that much to question, it means they found something attractive.
Title: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: ashley_thomas on May 11, 2013, 10:12:03 PM
Quote from: Anna! on May 09, 2013, 04:06:32 PM
This is exciting to hear, congratulations!!

Do you say "hello" in a boy or girl voice?  You could make a game out of making men uncomfortable instead of letting them get to you.

In Lionel Ritchie's voice would really make 'em feel uncomfortable.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Sadie on May 12, 2013, 10:37:35 AM
I remember when it first started my cube mate who I was pretty decent friends with said "There is something different about you, not sure what it is but something has changed."  Some people wondered if I was sick.  I tried to hide it as best I could by saying it was a better diet and losing weight, which was true as well.

It's an exciting time though when you first notice other people taking notice.  However before I just couldn't hide it anymore and had to go full time it got a little annoying because I was getting stared at pretty hard by a lot of people.
Title: Re: People are finally starting to openly question.
Post by: Alice-blossom on May 12, 2013, 11:26:32 AM
Congratulations! I can't say I've been called pretty by a stranger yet.
From what I can tell, you are well on your way. Huzzah!

Best wishes to you, MaidofOrleans. :)