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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 15, 2013, 05:28:48 PM

Title: I am out
Post by: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 15, 2013, 05:28:48 PM
Ok,  so I am finally completely out to my friends and family,  or at least all the ones that I see regularly.

My sisters are ok with me,  my parents don't seem to be talking to me,  but it might turn out ok.

Just glad to be out.  :-)
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: PHXGiRL on May 15, 2013, 05:35:59 PM
Awesome!!!! So happy for you! :)
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: big kim on May 15, 2013, 05:36:40 PM
Good luck and best wishes
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Anna++ on May 15, 2013, 05:37:14 PM
Congratulations on being out!  I hope your parents come around sooner rather than later.
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Ltl89 on May 15, 2013, 09:43:42 PM
Congratulations!!!  I am very happy to hear you have awesome sisters and friends. Seems like you have a great support structure :)
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Misato on May 15, 2013, 10:19:36 PM
Congratulations!

Hopefully with a short amount of time the stragglers will come around. :)
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Olivia-Anne on May 15, 2013, 10:25:45 PM
That is so fantastic! As someone who is on the cusp of coming out to the world I can only imagine how liberated you must feel right now! So wonderful!

<3 Liv
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Heather on May 15, 2013, 10:27:01 PM
Congratulations Steph! I'm very happy for you I know how hard it is to come out to anybody especially family. Hopefully your parents are just in shock and will come around soon.
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 16, 2013, 02:51:04 AM
Thanks so much :-) Yep,  will continue to check or messages from my parents and keep my fingers crossed :-)

^___^
x
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Bookworm on May 16, 2013, 02:55:51 AM
congrats
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Cindy on May 16, 2013, 04:59:57 AM
Congrats Honey!

Welcome to the world and have a marvellous life.

Hugs
Cindy
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Anna_81 on May 16, 2013, 05:10:14 AM
Well done Steph!!  :angel:
I bet it feels like a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders  ;D, I know it did for me anyway.
I'm sure your parents will come around eventually, just give them some time. I think sometimes we are so happy being out and on HRT that we forget just how much of a shock it is for our family and loved ones, but from my own limited experience, given enough time, people normally come to terms with it.

Anyway, once again, well done and all the vey best.
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: DrBobbi on May 16, 2013, 01:21:13 PM
I'm 52 and for the first time in my life I'm myself. After lifetime of deep-cover, including 5 terrible years of hiding from the world, I'm out to everyone. I was told there would be collateral damage, and they were right. My children, after initially being great, found a reason unrelated to my transition to stop talking with me. This hurts, not just because I feel betrayed, but because especially they're both highly educated and intelligent. My daughter is an a major TV network news reporter who's well respected and loved in the LGBT community, and my son, 27, is applying to med school and have always been supportive of transgender people.

My friends and co-workers have been great. If anything, we're closer now that I've torn down the walls and can be myself. I work in a very male dominant profession, flying med-evac helicopters as pilot-in-command, where the number of female pilots number in the dozens. I thought I wouldn't be accepted, but I was wrong.

The loss of my children, notwithstanding, I'm the happiest I've been since their birth. In fact, before the Estradiol implant makes me sterile, I'm considering having another child.
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 16, 2013, 03:13:22 PM
^___^

Thanks   ^___^   

How long does it take the Estradiol to make you sterile?
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: MyKa on May 16, 2013, 05:33:30 PM
Congrats!!! It took me roughly 6 months before it was completely clear!
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: ZoeM on May 16, 2013, 06:05:24 PM
Quote from: MyKa on May 16, 2013, 05:33:30 PM
Congrats!!! It took me roughly 6 months before it was completely clear!
Mine's been clear for years before I even started. In fact, I don't think it's ever matched the normal constitution of the stuff.

So, um... YMMV. :)
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: DrBobbi on May 17, 2013, 02:26:30 AM
Sterility occurs by the third or fourth month using implanted Estradiol. If you plan on having children it's a good idea to bank your sperm before starting HRT.
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: Cindy on May 17, 2013, 03:22:01 AM
Quote from: Steph21 on May 16, 2013, 03:13:22 PM
^___^

Thanks   ^___^   

How long does it take the Estradiol to make you sterile?

Well it varies, in my case I was already sterile so if you want to bank sperm it would be very sensible to get tested first prior to HT
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 17, 2013, 06:14:04 AM
Well,  i have no money for that and I am *fairly* sure I don't want to go that way and I sure he'll am not gonna stop my hrt! :-)

I was planning to foster.  I think I will be fine.  Don't really care if my kids have my genes or not.  More important that they have my love and then my morals and understanding :-)
Title: Re: I am out
Post by: LizMarie on May 17, 2013, 11:30:30 AM
Quote from: Steph21 on May 17, 2013, 06:14:04 AM
Well,  i have no money for that and I am *fairly* sure I don't want to go that way and I sure he'll am not gonna stop my hrt! :-)

I was planning to foster.  I think I will be fine.  Don't really care if my kids have my genes or not.  More important that they have my love and then my morals and understanding :-)

Congratulations and true words there! You'll be a good mother someday!