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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: kelly25 on June 04, 2013, 08:54:45 PM

Title: cutting ties with my mom and other things
Post by: kelly25 on June 04, 2013, 08:54:45 PM
so me and my therapist have recently decided.  that I probably should cut ties with my mom for a wile at least until she leans to accept me for who I am.
its been month since I came out to her about being trans.  every time I visit her she  tells me that if I go through with this  the her and the rest of the family wont accept it and will disown me she also attacks my friends that accept me saying that they are not my real friends.

the last time I visited I was talking to her about work and how my hours were being cut do to low census
and the first thing that came out of here mouth was "do you think the reason your hours are being cut is because of the way I dress"
my response was " mom we were uniforms there"
mom " but you did dress in women's clothes and changed there right"
me " yes but I were uniforms there how I dress doesn't effect my hours"
mom" are you sure"
ME  : "yes mom I am  sure"
this went on for five more minutes  until I finally walked away  and went to text some of my friends that help me when she gets that way
the funny thing about are whole talk is that my boss is one of my biggest supporters she  is trying the best to make my transition at work and easy one and if I have any problems  I should talk with her
Title: Re: cutting ties with my mom and other things
Post by: Tiffanie on June 04, 2013, 10:22:11 PM
{{Hugs}}  I personally never like to hear people say they are cutting ties with family  :(

Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you not to cut ties, it just saddens me.  In the long run you must do what benefits you!  I hope some day your mom has a change of heart.
Title: Re: cutting ties with my mom and other things
Post by: Misato on June 04, 2013, 10:32:47 PM
Your mom, my dad.

I read your quotes and I'm hit by the familiarity of the negativity.  That's exactly what I got from my dad.  There's someone needing time to adjust to our transition, then there's actively making transition harder.  Your mom and my dad, they're doing the latter.

Hopefully we'll have a blissful reunion at some point in the future with our respective parents.
Title: Re: cutting ties with my mom and other things
Post by: Ltl89 on June 04, 2013, 11:18:06 PM
I'm really sorry to hear this.  I hope that some time in the future your family will come around.  I've seen it happen enough to know it can.

(Hugs)