As a guy I was very attracted to transsexual women and cis women but not men.
I am starting hormones here soon and was wondering if I might become attracted to men since I currently have a thing for male down stairs?
The male physique is unattractive to me completely.
Does anyone else here have an attraction to non op transsexual woman?
I thought I might like men because I am attracted to the male form (and the female form) but I found men to be too singularly focused on their pokey-stick. Thankfully I am already hooked to my soulmate, a beautiful gal!!
I like guys and I like girls, but genitalia in general is where I have the hang up. I just like to curl up and cuddle. I like to have somebody who I can lean on and somebody who can lean on me. Sex is not the most important thing for me. I am good with taking care of myself on occasion.
Sex has never been important to me like most guys. But for some reason a woman with make parts is way more of a turn on than a cis girl. I never understood it.
I am with yall in the way that I.mostly want a soul mate more than sexual partner. But sex is fun too
I would suggest simply going into transition with an open mind. For some their attraction changes (don't really want to call it "orientation", as for many it is from heterosexual to heterosexual, just that the "target" switches :)), for others it does not. From what I've gathered on the board so far, it would also seem that a fair number of us turn out bi- / pansexual, maybe because we get to see first hand how meaningless some of the distinctions between the sexes are.
I went from asexual to straight female.
I like straight guys and preferably well hung :embarrassed: >:-)
Fortunately my current BF fulfils both categories.
I plan to keep an open mind completely. It would be easier if I started to be interested in guys. But as of right now guys are not on my radar. But just about any decent looking female catches my attention right now. Im hoping that changes soon tho. All this sexual desire is kind of annoying.plus the random erections are not my favorite either.
Quote from: Christinaaaa on June 23, 2013, 10:39:38 AM
...the random erections are not my favorite either.
luckily, they're one of the first changes most of us see. nothing is more annoying when you're feeling feminine than a reminder that you lost nature's coin toss
I myself am pansexual in that neither sex or gender matter to me when choosing a partner. That said, i haven't ever been attracted to anyone masculine as of yet, but i'm still open.
Awesome! yea its really annoying. Especially when I tuck. It gets so uncomfortable.
Back a few decades during and after my experiments with transitioning I was also dating pre-op MTFs. I am currently in a 30+ year relationship with one who is now post-op. I've always been attracted to, and or envious, of women. I test drove the guy thing during my experiments and the reality of it did nothing for me. Fantisy vs real life. You never know untill you try.
I am currently over three years on HRT. While being hit on by guys is a great ego and confidence boost I don't have any desire for them.
As with all things hormonal, YMMV
While I firmly believe HRT as NOTHING to do with who or what your sexual interests are, I have changed since I started HRT.
When I first came out, it was females all the way, guys were never in my picture and I just couldn't even think at that stage that I was ever be witha guy.
After I went full time and I was living the role of a female, I started to notice guys, that then went to "oh he's really cute" "sexy eyes" "love that butt" but I still wouldn't go there.
After SRS I still found females more attractive than guys, but it was no where near as much as it once was. Within 3 years, I was solely into guys.
I cannot say that HRT had anything to do with it, & don't believe it did at all, but I did change.
And it happens to cis-people all the time. A very good friend of mine came out, she said it was the hardest thing she ever did, within 18 months she was married to a guy and says that at the time she was 100% into females and something changed, she just doesn't know what.
(Classing Cis and trans* as their preferred genders)
Well, I, as of now, find males more sexually attractive than females. I don't really know why, I just do. maybe it's because I like cocks
However, romantically, I find that females are better companions. To be honest, I don't actually care, I'll like someone more because of their personality than their looks. And as long as they don't complain about my lack of a penis or the presence of a vagina, then I think we'll get along fine.
my sexuality is one of the many aspects of my life that seemed to push me to accept that I was indeed trans. Being a very effeminate gay male made sexual encounters and relationships a bit uncomfortable at times. I wished to be treated like a lady in bed, with all the lace and femininity, and female sexual desires. And my boyfriends would invariable try to prod me into a more manly posture, attire, and "attitude"... some gently suggesting, some straight up losing interest quickly if I didnt stop being so girly. perhaps I was accidentally screwing with their heads as ID'ing at the time as a two spirit gay guy meant I had female attributes for sure, but plenty of masculine attributes as well. So when "bedtime" rolled around and their BF became their GF... well I think it was tough on a few of them.
Even now that I think my persona and spirit is more accurately presented to the world as a transwoman, I am still quite tomboyish and assume I will always be that way.
Now that hrt is pretty close to being reality, I dont think it will increase my desire for men, Im already attracted to them. But I hope it fine tunes my perception a bit to be even more in line with a cis female's sexual response.
as for women, I find them beautiful and sexy and have had experiences with them at various times throughout my life . just not my cup of tea when it finally gets down to intercourse.
my main concern regarding sexuality is that while I am not greatly motivated by sex, I do enjoy it. and I am afraid hrt will make me totally disinterested and kill my libido. then again, the benefits far outweigh the negatives so it's something I will just have to deal with.
Quote from: Christinaaaa on June 22, 2013, 11:03:31 PM
As a guy I was very attracted to transsexual women and cis women but not men.
I am starting hormones here soon and was wondering if I might become attracted to men since I currently have a thing for male down stairs?
The male physique is unattractive to me completely.
That could very well change when you start your hormones, I completely can relate and felt like that. I found it repulsive to be sexual attractive to a man, but hormones and my transition to female changed that, I actually found it scary at first when guys started to give me attention, then I felt an attraction to guys I never felt before, when I had my first boyfriend I was like an excited school girl, I loved the attention guys gave me, I guess I'm now just a typical girl, don't be afraid of the change, go with it and enjoy being a girl. When you experience that guy attention, wanting to take care of you and treating you like a lady, its awesome.
I'm now married to a man, it just feels right for me as a woman to be with a man, my soul mate, my husband.
hmmm sexual interest? well being a girl I'm attracted to guys but at same time I'm attracted to t-girls because we understand one another and our needs
Quote from: Christinaaaa on June 22, 2013, 11:03:31 PM
As a guy I was very attracted to transsexual women and cis women but not men.
I am starting hormones here soon and was wondering if I might become attracted to men since I currently have a thing for male down stairs?
The male physique is unattractive to me completely.
Does anyone else here have an attraction to non op transsexual woman?
When I talk to a womon I do not ask her about her genital status right off (or ever really nor would I expect her to ask mine I only reveal when becoming intimate), nor am I particularly concerned about an attraction towards a body part in what I am attracted to
if what I am attracted to in a person is just thier on part - I would call that a fetish.
for me - I am attracted to womyn - I call myself a lesbian - I have in my life been with cis womyn and trans womyn
I will date someone for who she is.
I don't have any sexual attraction to anyone. Even when I was young, I wasn't attracted to anyone sexually. I did have romantic attractions to both my former spouses, but was only involved sexually because they wanted that aspect, I didn't care about it.
Its hard to get people to understand that just because I am single doesn't mean I feel any sort of need to be with someone in that way and a few guys irl think persistence will get them somewhere, but that's just annoying to me.
I was a Testosterone-driven teen in every way. After doing my shot the next day I got 'antsy' and easily upset with people, by the 3rd day I wanted to have sex with any woman who had a pulse, it was that bad of a drive. Two days later, I was 'normal' and then I'd go through it all again 2 days after that. Never was attracted to guys, never questioned my orientation at all.
But here's the rub - I NEVER liked penetrative sex. I always cuddled, I did penetrate anyway when begged to, but the majority of my time with a woman was spent doing other things with her. You can say I had mostly lesbian sex from when I came sexually active.
I probably shouldn't say this, but being on E now has made me actually dislike men. While I've never been attracted to them, I used to have a fair few male friends, and I've found myself completely distancing myself from them because the things I thought we had in common, we clearly don't. Men generally annoy me. The whole competitiveness, sports, drinking.....the 'macho' behavior we commonly associate with being masculine, totally make me want to run away from being around guys.
Quote from: Christinaaaa on June 22, 2013, 11:03:31 PM
As a guy I was very attracted to transsexual women and cis women but not men.
I am starting hormones here soon and was wondering if I might become attracted to men since I currently have a thing for male down stairs?
The male physique is unattractive to me completely.
Does anyone else here have an attraction to non op transsexual woman?
I would say not in particular as much as what attracts me is the same that would attract me to a ciswoman. WHat attracts me to females are looks, personality, smell and all the other things that attract me to females. On the other hand, what attracts me to males is not about looks so much as their attitude, strength, how rough around the edges that they are and so on. I've never been preoccupied with the genitalia. Whatever genitalia a person has, male or female isn't as important to me as whether they are a man or a woman regardless of whether or not they are cis or trans. I hope this makes sense.
tbh I think that sex is disgusting.. and I think that genitals are disgusting also. I don't know if it has anything to do with me being transgender but both of those things make me cringe.
Quote from: Cindy on June 23, 2013, 04:03:39 AM
I went from asexual to straight female.
I like straight guys and preferably well hung :embarrassed: >:-)
Fortunately my current BF fulfils both categories.
TMI
Quote from: Alice In Genderland on August 15, 2013, 04:34:50 PM
TMI
Like it or not, you're on a forum dedicated to the discussion of sex organs. On a topic devoted to the subject. :P
not tmi imo. some men have large thingys, some women like that. no big deal. and for the record, I am 100% with Cindy on this one. :P
Quote from: ZoeM on August 15, 2013, 04:55:54 PM
Like it or not, you're on a forum dedicated to the discussion of sex organs. On a topic devoted to the subject. :P
Great point zoey. As for the well hung well I am pan. I like my men well hung, but not the end of the world either.
Quote from: Jamie_Taylor on August 15, 2013, 11:20:04 PM
not tmi imo. some men have large thingys, some women like that. no big deal. and for the record, I am 100% with Cindy on this one. :P
Quote from: Bookworm on August 16, 2013, 01:07:32 AM
Great point zoey. As for the well hung well I am pan. I like my men well hung, but not the end of the world either.
I have been following this - just have to say - what I do as a lesbian in general - ignore it when things are said since it does not concern me - their whatever you like is your business not mine ;D
Quote from: Alice In Genderland on August 15, 2013, 04:34:50 PM
TMI
Apparently it wasn't clear to some that I was joking. Not that it was something I wanted to know, but I have no problem with it being posted lol
I am very much attracted to woman and in everyway,even down stairs-up stairs and all around.I have never had issues sexually tho my only issue is me personally.I guess (in my current state) would only be worried about opposite satisfaction and not worry about myself but when that changes completely,oh god lmfao.Wont keep my clothes on per say lol im not *picky* about certain things on that body.for example bra size but i am big on grooming and other such things.Im a fairly normal male and 100% straight,tho i have experimented and been with men in the past (not for me tho) But i can say that hormones has never changed any of that for me,never.Its who i am and that will never change.As far as Non Op--honestly my first gf was a ciswoman and i find that i am mostly dating/sexually with ciswoman.thats about all i have known since then so i would say that,that is what im attracted to.i cant say what the future will be on that tho and hey,that could change.
Quote from: Alice In Genderland on August 16, 2013, 05:25:56 AM
Apparently it wasn't clear to some that I was joking. Not that it was something I wanted to know, but I have no problem with it being posted lol
hard to denote sarcasm on a forum :)
Quote from: vegie271 on August 16, 2013, 08:21:35 AM
hard to denote sarcasm on a forum :)
[sarcasm]Really? Seems easy enough to me. [/sarcasm]
Quote from: ZoeM on August 16, 2013, 08:31:56 AM
[sarcasm]Really? Seems easy enough to me. [/sarcasm]
/me raises eybrow: "Oh... Really?"
Update - wow, we have chat commands integrated here?
Quote from: ZoeM on August 16, 2013, 08:31:56 AM
[sarcasm]Really? Seems easy enough to me. [/sarcasm]
SOMEONE! missed my point :P the original post had nothing done to it ........... plus look at mine <<<<<<<
Quote from: vegie271 on August 16, 2013, 12:07:42 PM
SOMEONE! missed my point :P the original post had nothing done to it ........... plus look at mine <<<<<<<
Fear not, o lass of the violet text. I spake only in jest.
I wouldn't worry about it. Your sexual orientation will be what it will be. Just because you don't feel attracted to the male physique right now doesn't mean you'll feel grossed out should you be attracted to them in the future. It's like I didn't like shrimps as a kid. Now I love them and I don't let my past disgust for shrimp get in the way of a delicious shrimp meal today :)
My sexual orientation changed way before my transition. In my teens I thought I was attracted to girls. That was until I had sex with one, and afterwards I knew it was all guys for me :D
Quote from: ZoeM on August 16, 2013, 12:25:24 PM
Fear not, o lass of the violet text. I spake only in jest.
:icon_sniff: :icon_sniff: someone noticed me
Quote from: vegie271 on August 16, 2013, 12:48:32 PM
:icon_sniff: :icon_sniff: someone noticed me
From now on You are a lass of violet text for me ;)
Well I am not really a sexual person, I am the want someone to cuddle and be cuddled by type. Also I find I am only attracted to women although some androgynous women have an effect on me aswell. I would also date/be in a relationship with another transwoman partly because we can share the experience(sounds cliche) also they are women aswell and as I said they are my type. Main thing is if I have an interest in someone then that is a start.
Only problem is I do not know when I am attracted to someone as I am unsure how it feels also wouldn't know if someone is attracted to me either. It is one thing to like someone and another to be attracted I find.
Basically I am clueless to attraction when it effects me directly yet I know I like women for certain.....odd lol
The funny thing about my attraction to men pre-transition was that it was only in theory. I knew I was into men, but I couldn't feel it. The raw animalistic attraction got turned on about 2 months into hrt. I was hanging out with a good friend of mine when I all of a sudden noticed how f-ing good he smelled, and that was that :)
Another thing is that men seem different to me now. They're not exactly the same creatures I remember from my pre-transition days. They relate to me in a very different way, and I find it to be rather appealing :)
I've found that in my journey, I've allowed myself to explore the idea of being attracted to men. I think that as I replace shame and anger with self acceptance, I've started to look at men somewhat differently. Definitely go into your transition, beginning with HRT, with an open mind, realizing that we women are certainly allowed to change them ;P
Gwyn
Quote from: MariaMx on August 16, 2013, 02:04:32 PM
The funny thing about my attraction to men pre-transition was that it was only in theory. I knew I was into men, but I couldn't feel it. The raw animalistic attraction got turned on about 2 months into hrt. I was hanging out with a good friend of mine when I all of a sudden noticed how f-ing good he smelled, and that was that :)
Another thing is that men seem different to me now. They're not exactly the same creatures I remember from my pre-transition days. They relate to me in a very different way, and I find it to be rather appealing :)
I really identify with this. I knew I was attracted to men pre-HRT but other then wanting to kiss a guy when I talk to one if they're cute there was something...missing. Now, phew, I love men. And that smell *swoon* There's nothing hotter then a cute, sweaty, smelly man. Yummy.
I feel weird whenever I'm with guys, which is kinda contradictory because I have a boyfriend who fully accepts me as his girlfriend. We met online and eventually I had to tell him I'm really a trans woman and really a guy on the outside. After a lot of talking he decided to give me a shot still so we met up and have been together since. I really enjoy playing with a guy's "thing" but other than that, and maybe it's because I'm still mostly a guy on the outside, I always feel weird when we're out in public even though we hardly ever show public displays of affection. But cuddling in his arms in bed is one of the greatest feelings ever.
For the most part though I'm very much attracted to women and have little interest in men.
I have a female prefferance but I wont lie, the estrogen made me start looking at men and a mild curiosity of what it would be like to be with one. But it hasnt been enough to make me act on it any further then going a date.