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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Erin Kay Howell on June 25, 2013, 06:39:11 PM

Title: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on June 25, 2013, 06:39:11 PM
She cornered me at work and got it out of me...

"Well if thats the worst thing your going to do in life im ok with it. Your my child and ill always love and accept you. Also you have to promise to smile more often since I know whats been making you so sad all these years."

So uneventful

I have been crying on and off in happiness all day long.
Title: Re: My mother foubd out about me
Post by: Devlyn on June 25, 2013, 06:46:22 PM
YAY!!!!!!!! I love this post, and your Mom! Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: EdekStaszek on June 25, 2013, 07:13:05 PM
Wow! how lucky.... i Hope it will go that easy for me.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: E-Brennan on June 25, 2013, 07:16:17 PM
Erin, I am so happy for you! What an understanding mother, and how nice it is for things to be "uneventful" sometimes!  Enjoy the experience!
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Lorri Kat on June 25, 2013, 07:17:34 PM
WooT!!   



So happy for you...   its gonna take a while to fully sink in ..  No more Hiding anything!.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: ovz on June 25, 2013, 07:22:26 PM
This is great! Wish my mother had said something so kind the first time I told her. Congratulations, I hope you feel wonderful.  :D
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Emily Aster on June 25, 2013, 07:24:29 PM
That was great. The title led me to believe it was going to be a horror story. I wish it would go that well with my father. I'm pretty sure he'd rather that I were a drug dealer or a murderer than to be a girl.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Ltl89 on June 25, 2013, 08:06:48 PM
Awesome! I'm glad you have an understanding mother.  Cherish her!
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: BunnyBee on June 25, 2013, 08:12:24 PM
Awe... you gave me happy tears :*)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: bethany on June 25, 2013, 08:17:30 PM
Thats awesome Erin. Happiest post of the day that I read.  :)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on June 25, 2013, 08:23:00 PM
Thank you all for your sweet comments.

I still cant quite get over how well that 5 minute talk went... FIVE MINUTES AND DONE.

I sent her a text after she left work saying if she had any questions that id answer as best as I could.

I really wanted to sit and talk with her as mother and daughter and not mother and son but work pulled us away.

....

Still cant seem to put a cap on these tears.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: JLT1 on June 25, 2013, 08:43:27 PM
WOW!  That is good news.  Thank you for sharing.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Kade1985 on June 25, 2013, 09:07:18 PM
That's awesome! I'm glad that things will be able to work out for you with your mom
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: chocoicecream on June 26, 2013, 01:05:34 AM
youre so lucky to have an understanding and loving mother..
congrats!
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Amy The Bookworm on June 26, 2013, 01:22:27 AM
So I'm up wandering the net, honestly unsure if I'm feeling thrilled about my most recent session with my therapist, or depressed about my lot in life when I came across this post.

;D

We should all be this lucky. I'm so happy for you!

Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: FTMDiaries on June 26, 2013, 06:04:52 AM
Yay! Your mother sounds fantastic - give her an extra-big hug. She deserves it. :)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Keaira on June 26, 2013, 07:00:46 AM
Quote from: Erin S on June 25, 2013, 06:39:11 PM
She cornered me at work and got it out of me...

"Well if thats the worst thing your going to do in life im ok with it. Your my child and ill always love and accept you. Also you have to promise to smile more often since I know whats been making you so sad all these years."

So uneventful

I have been crying on and off in happiness all day long.

My Mum did the same thing to me when I got home after work. And had much the same reaction. I'm really happy for you. ^_^
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Sarah S on June 26, 2013, 12:55:56 PM
Awesome :)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Joanna Dark on June 26, 2013, 02:46:24 PM
Soooo sweet!!!
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Tristan on June 26, 2013, 04:06:17 PM
That's great news. She pays attention to you
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on June 26, 2013, 05:48:58 PM
Quote from: Tristan on June 26, 2013, 04:06:17 PM
That's great news. She pays attention to you

Apparently too well.

She told me she had an idea I was trans... O_o?

Who thinks of all the things in the world your child could be that trans is up there on that list?

*mind blown*
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Rachel on June 26, 2013, 07:14:35 PM
Your Mom deserves a card and flowers. I am very happy for you.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: dpadgett628 on June 27, 2013, 01:07:31 AM
Quote from: Emily Aster on June 25, 2013, 07:24:29 PM
That was great. The title led me to believe it was going to be a horror story. I wish it would go that well with my father. I'm pretty sure he'd rather that I were a drug dealer or a murderer than to be a girl.

I agree! I was bracing myself for something bad, but its quite the opposite!

Quote from: Erin S on June 26, 2013, 05:48:58 PM
Apparently too well.

She told me she had an idea I was trans... O_o?

Who thinks of all the things in the world your child could be that trans is up there on that list?

*mind blown*

My mom guessed it! I was all mopey for a while and one morning we literally had this conversation..

"Is it a gay thing?"
"no.."
"Is it a transgender thing?"
"...kind of..."

Of course, that was followed by denial for a long time but is all good now.

Anyway, thats amazing how your mom reacted! Good for you! :D
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Clockpunk on June 27, 2013, 04:04:18 AM
I know you've heard this a thousand times, but that's so good to hear! :)
So happy for you!!
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erik Ezrin on June 27, 2013, 06:03:13 AM
Wow, Erin! I'm so happy for you! I hope my mum would be like that too (I'm afraid not, but anyway)
You are really lucky for having a mum like that! :D
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on June 27, 2013, 03:01:17 PM
Thank you all again for your sweet comments however the excitement suddenly died for me.

I just received a phone call saying my endo appointment is canceled after I waited for two months because the doctor will be out of the office. I can try to juggle my work schedule around again and try to see a different endo on the 8th (doubtful), or I can reschedule for the end of August.....

I'm so pissed right now
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Tristan on June 27, 2013, 04:51:36 PM
Quote from: Erin S on June 26, 2013, 05:48:58 PM
Apparently too well.

She told me she had an idea I was trans... O_o?

Who thinks of all the things in the world your child could be that trans is up there on that list?

*mind blown*
You would be surprised. Some people really pick up on the fact that your a girl. It's weird but some can figure it out. Oh wait till your mom has the talk with you about sex, boys and personal feminine hygiene... It's very embarrassing... :)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Shannon1979 on June 27, 2013, 06:33:29 PM
That is awesome news. so happy for you. :angel:

Sorry to hear about the endo appointment tho. but do let it get you down keep with the positive. :angel:
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on June 27, 2013, 06:52:07 PM
Quote from: Tristan on June 27, 2013, 04:51:36 PM
You would be surprised. Some people really pick up on the fact that your a girl. It's weird but some can figure it out. Oh wait till your mom has the talk with you about sex, boys and personal feminine hygiene... It's very embarrassing... :)

Well if she talks to me about sex with my wife it will get weird your right! XD

And Im trying to keep positive. Im going to try to juggle my work schedule around again for the 8th.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Tristan on June 27, 2013, 08:38:37 PM
Quote from: Erin S on June 27, 2013, 06:52:07 PM
Well if she talks to me about sex with my wife it will get weird your right! XD

And Im trying to keep positive. Im going to try to juggle my work schedule around again for the 8th.
They normally have some good advice. My mom gave me tons of sex advice no matter how much I covered my head with my pillow
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Mac on June 27, 2013, 11:04:26 PM
Wow, what a great reaction ! I wish my mom would react like that, but knowing she won't, I'm still waiting with coming out to her.
Congrats! you must be relieved and happy :-)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: GendrKweer on June 27, 2013, 11:16:25 PM
And that, my darlings, is how to be a great parent. If I wore hats, I'd tip it in your Mom's honor.
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: dreaming.forever on June 27, 2013, 11:19:38 PM
Quote from: Erin S on June 25, 2013, 06:39:11 PM
She cornered me at work and got it out of me...

"Well if thats the worst thing your going to do in life im ok with it. Your my child and ill always love and accept you. Also you have to promise to smile more often since I know whats been making you so sad all these years."

So uneventful

I have been crying on and off in happiness all day long.

Awww! I'm happy for you  :)
Title: Re: My mother found out about me
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on June 30, 2013, 11:36:58 AM
So after a little strife and stress I was able to juggle my work schedule around and get in next monday to see my endo. I hope there isnt going to be another reason it gets put off for another 2 months.

Ive also thought about asking my mother to be there for my first pill. I also wanted her input on possible names, not have her name me but if she would have had a daughter what her name would have been.... im not so sure I like Erin being that its so close to my male name.