I am a MTF transsexual and I have been on hrt for over 13 months. In the past month or two, I have noticed that I am becoming less and less interested in doing anything sexual. While I still get random erections from time to time, it seems to not happen if I see or think about something that would normally be arousing. Lately I have been researching the effects of hrt and have found that within 1-3 months on average for a MTF, their sex drive may lessen and they may gradually lose the ability to maintain an erection. There is a difference in my situation, however, because I am starting to identify as asexual. I wanted to know if anyone else has ever had a similar experience. It has gotten to the point where if I am touched in a place that is even remotely sexually stimulating, that I feel sick to my stomach. I do not see any purpose in sexual intercourse, and I have no intention of having sex again. From time to time I do feel aroused, but I repress it because after sex I have a tendency to feel very negatively about myself. If it helps, I am a pre-op lesbian. Any help is greatly appreciated!
Nothing wrong in any feelings as long as you are happy with them.
It may be worth having a chat to your therapist if you are concerned.
Cindy
My sex drive did decrease on hrt, but it never went away while being on hrt alone. Once I had my orchiectomy, my sex drive started to decrease again. Since srs, my sex drive is now non existent. I do not identify as asexual, but I am indifferent towards sex. I would not feel sick to my stomach being touched sexually, but I would probably remove myself from the situation.
Anyway, I pretty much agree with what Cindy wrote.
I agree with Cindy that you need to discuss this with a therapist since it seems to be bothering you. It is strictly your call on what your sexuality is, will be, or whatever, and none of us will say you are doing it the wrong way or that you should not be getting __<FIBlank>_____ treatment.
After 4 years of HRT, certain areas of my body have changed their significance as far as pleasant low grade erotic feelings. The WRONG person touching those areas makes me want to clobber them, and gets a "Keep your hands to yourself" directive being given. People whom I trust and have feelings for are another thing entirely. Personal massage toys can be fun if I use them myself, but I am not ready for another person to be involved. I identify as PersonSexual, meaning that it will be a single special person, but whether male, female, queer, trans* is still up in the air, since I have not met the person yet.
I had those feelings before SRS surgery, and they have not really been changed by the surgery. The nerve sensations in the surgical field at 6 months are still playing mind games on me, and erotic touch one week is different than the next week, so enjoy the future as it comes YOUR WAY!!