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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: The_Suit on July 28, 2013, 10:58:30 AM

Title: Predicting her reaction...
Post by: The_Suit on July 28, 2013, 10:58:30 AM
So I told my twin sister that I was trans* a little over a week ago. She was amazing. She told me that she already knew, and she already thought of me as her brother and not her sister. Then she gave me a hug and told me she would help me out if I felt depressed about it. She had a few questions for me, but instead of the stupid ones I was expecting to be asked, such as; "Why did you decide this?" All of her questions were about what I was going to look like after I transitioned.
I have the best sister in the world.
Now I just have to summon the courage to tell my mother and my older sister. I am really worried about what my mother will think though, because she has a friend who has a son who is gay, and every time he is mentioned she says how sorry she feels for his mother. I imagine that in her mind this is much worse, so I am worried about how she will react.

[Edit] (thinking more about how she has reacted to certain things I have a theory in how she will respond.) 
She will certainly cry. She will say something along the lines of "What did I do wrong?" And/or "Is this because of your father?" (He left when I was nine)
After she is done crying she will start saying things like "This is just a phase."
And when THAT doesn't work she wil simply say I can't go through with it because we can't afford it.
Title: Re: Came out to my twin sister... Worried about telling my mother.
Post by: SaveMeJeebus on July 28, 2013, 06:01:30 PM
Fab to hear your sister reacted well! :]

I am not too sure what to say about how you wish to tackle telling your mum....

Let us know how it goes. Good luck  ;D
Title: Re: Predicting her reaction...
Post by: Ltl89 on July 28, 2013, 08:35:59 PM
Awesome to hear about your sister!

You can't predict how anyone will react.  I know that's tough, but it is the reality.  Just make sure you are ready and confident to take everything on and you will do fine.  Good luck :).
Title: Re: Predicting her reaction...
Post by: Jennygirl on July 28, 2013, 08:46:07 PM
Be excited about finding yourself and SMILE!

(the best advice I can give for coming out to anyone)