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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: berserkk on July 31, 2013, 06:31:13 PM

Title: i dont know what to do
Post by: berserkk on July 31, 2013, 06:31:13 PM
i am a FTM,i has a girlfriend for half a year and she saw me as a guy and i was attracted to girls all my life.but in the last months i being attracted(sexualy and romantic) to one of my friends in school and he is a boy..when i moved to that school everybody accepted me very good they recognized me as a guy from the beginning and i just told them that i have vagina and i am transgender,and i dont want to "ruin my manhood" or somthing like that with sexual relationship with another boy if they going to think that i am not serious about being a guy or somthing like that..

someone her (FTM) has sexual relationship with another guy? how other people reacted to that? they saw you as less manly or somthing like that?...
Title: Re: i dont know what to do
Post by: Crow on July 31, 2013, 07:20:31 PM
I've had relationships with both guys and girls. The only people who've made a big deal about it have been people who weren't accepting of me in the first place. There are lots of trans guys who are gay/bi/pansexual-- it doesn't make you weird or less manly. Do what makes you happy!
Title: Re: i dont know what to do
Post by: Jamie D on July 31, 2013, 07:41:56 PM
We must remember to never confuse sexual orientation with gender identity.

I think many transpeople are open to bisexuality and pansexuality.  I know that I am - bigendered and bisexual
Title: Re: i dont know what to do
Post by: Mosaic dude on August 01, 2013, 02:22:50 AM
I've been in a relationship with another man for the past 10 years.  People who know me don't doubt my manliness.  People who don't accept me can [CENSORED].  Be yourself, and be happy.
Title: Re: i dont know what to do
Post by: Cindy on August 01, 2013, 03:21:39 AM
Same comment, never confuse sex with gender.

There is a massive spectrum of gender identification and on top of that a a completely new spectrum of sexuality.

You are a perfectly normal guy, enjoy your life!!

Cindy
Title: Re: i dont know what to do
Post by: Edge on August 01, 2013, 04:40:43 PM
Quote from: berserkk on July 31, 2013, 06:31:13 PMsomeone her (FTM) has sexual relationship with another guy? how other people reacted to that? they saw you as less manly or somthing like that?...
I have had relationships with guys in the past. People used to assume I was only into to guys, but now I think most of the people I hang out with don't assume anything. Not that they've told me anyway. As for whether it makes anyone see me as less manly, not among the people I hang out with. I worried a bit that it would make me less manly for awhile, but then I realized I had a bit of internalized homophobia probably due to the way gay people are often portrayed in media and that my doubts had no basis in reality.
Title: Re: i dont know what to do
Post by: berserkk on August 02, 2013, 07:34:07 AM
thnx for the support, i hope that i will have the courage to do somthing with my attraction to him